He wanted me to be a hunter...a fisherman...like himself. But I'm not him, I have my own interests. He's never played a single game with me...I don't think he understands why games are fun. If I had a son, I would at least show some interest in what he enjoys.
2006-08-06 16:34:01 · 11 answers · asked by fresh2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's no one's fault. Not everyone enjoys the same things. You need to find some common interests...music, movies, or books. Anything is a start. And maybe all you need to start with is the love you have for each other. He's aging...it's time to forgive and enjoy him. He may not be around much longer.
2006-08-06 16:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's both your faults. He is the adult and should have mad more effort but some people are inhibited, maybe his dad spent no time with him or he feels inadequate because he can't do what you do or he waited so long and feels left out. Please try something, do n't have to do anything do you? What about eating. We all have to do that. A ride in the country or visiting the park. Please don't put it off. Make the effort. You will never regret it and you can't bring this time back. God bless you both.
2006-08-06 23:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not the case to find out whoes fault, but to understand each other interest and respect. Let him know u have different interest ,like he does. Try to discuss how both of u can do together one of his interest as well as one of yours. Good luck
2006-08-06 23:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by nicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's neither one of you guys fault
try to talk to him, explain to him that you have your own interest and see if he will play a game with you... maybe halo 2 or something multi player...
and then go hunting and/or fishing with him... so that you both will have an understanding of each others interest...
just try to have some common ground on it ya know?
maybe you could also try to do something else if you both hate each others hobbies, maybe go for a walk outside...
maybe drive around with him...
just spend some quality time with him.
2006-08-06 23:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should " at least show some interest" in what HE enjoys. Its a two way street.
2006-08-06 23:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by fireman_4_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he should have made the effort in the first place--you said never. Beyond that, you're not the same person he is, and that's not anybody's fault, it just is.
2006-08-06 23:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by grinningleaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault, it's not his either, why don't you talk to him? Underneath the serious skin, there's got to be a fun loving guy!
2006-08-06 23:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sparki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about whose fault is what. find the time to do anything with him, even if it's just watching the grass grow. my dad is also aging (80+/-) and has just cancer treatment. i live 3,000 miles away, do what you have to do, just do it.
2006-08-06 23:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by gonzotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its his fault he shouldnt force u to be something ur not also jus becuz u dont lik his stuff duzent mean he shouldnt try ur stuff thats being selfish becuz u tried his stuff so he should try so it is his fault
2006-08-06 23:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, but show him that you respect him
2006-08-07 00:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋