there is this 40 yr old man who works in another country, he comes in twice a year to my country, i am totally crazy about him. i have known him for about three years now ..i may be in love with him. but he has offered me nothing in return, because he says he cant offer me anything. we havent had sex yet but the attraction between us is really strong. he is coming back to my country and said he really is thinking about me and cant wait to see me. i am in my late 20s. should i have sex with him. i dont want to totally be in love with him when he cant offer me anything, what should i do?
2006-08-06 16:33:14 · 10 answers · asked by ivy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to look at your own feelings. If you are in love with him now how are you going to feel after you have had sex with him? Are you going to feel even more lonely during those long periods when he is gone? I honestly don't see how having sex with him is going to help you. For him it will provide some free entertainment with a younger woman while he is away from his wife. Ask yourself too if you would want to do that to his wife and family. Then ask yourself how you will feel if he loses interest in you or stops visiting twice a year after you've slept with him and built your whole life around his visits.
But, the most important question you should ask yourself is if you will wake up one day and realize that you have wasted many years giving to a man who wasn't worth it and who gave nothing back. Would you then realize too that not only has this man given you nothing but that he has probably kept you from being with someone who really respected you and made you happy.
2006-08-09 03:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by scientia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't do it...at least for me, sex is something I only want to share with someone who is going to be there with me...this man obviously isn't willing to do that. I understand that the attraction is great, but would it be worth the heartache when he leaves and you may never see him again? Think about it...Good Luck!!
2006-08-07 00:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by lissad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont have sex with him, sometimes sex offers this artificial sense of closeness most women would confuse with love.
you are already in a difficult place dont compliacate your life even more. you are perfectly aware that no good can come from it,
2006-08-06 23:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U GONE MAD TO HAVE SEX WITH A MAN IN 40s.U CAN HAVE SEX WITH A PERSON WITH UR AGE OR 4-5 YRS BIGGER BUT NOT WIYH HIM.I DO BELIEVE THATS AN ATRRACTION FOR U AND IF HE IS MARRIED NEVER HAVE .BELIEVE ME BABES.
2006-08-06 23:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by rudra saha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt have sex with someone I don't date , or with someone who can't offer me anything --- he probably just wants sex from a younger girl.
2006-08-06 23:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by whom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better not to.
That will only get you more attached to someone who obviously isn't going to be anything for you.
It'll make it a whole lot harder on you.
2006-08-06 23:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you know there wont be any real relationship why waste your time on it? but if youre up for an exciting sexual experience why not? as long as youre comfortable with the consequences. oh and watch out for diseases, they're nasty little sh*ts!
2006-08-06 23:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. You would only make things more complicated and be setting yourself for heartache.
2006-08-06 23:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by SuperGirls™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, there is a reason he can offer you nothing.he's probably married.
2006-08-06 23:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO................You don't know where he's been or in
2006-08-06 23:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Eldude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋