im 18 and married to a Marine. my mother has a problem with alcohol and therefore is unstable. the neighborhood they live in is full of gangs and my brother is bound to get caught up in it. im moving to california in november and i would like to take him with me, legally that is.
2006-08-06 16:21:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Petition for custody at your local child services office given your age it might be difficult I had a similar situation with my nephew. My sister 10 yrs older than me dopped off her son (then 6yrs old) at my doorstep exclaiming "I cant take care of him", I went to court and they put me thru hell and high water to gain custody after all was said and done I was never granted custody just guardianship she was given public assistance, counseling and all sorts of perks to take care of HER OWN SON - I on the other hand was given nothing. It destroyed me finally she returned for him 3 years later I was never given a thank you nor a pat on the back, it got very ugly she accused me of "spoiling" him just cause I wanted a better life for him. Try to ask your mother to sign over guardianship voluntarily so that it doesnt get ugly. Your doing a wonderful thing. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-08-06 16:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, that is a very honorable thing to do for your brother, but unless your mother is on board with the idea, it's not likely to happen....for several reasons. The first one being that in order for you to get custody, you are going to have an exceptional lawyer to help you manipulate the system, sway a guardian adlitem, and a judge to believe that having you as a guardian would be in your brother's best interests. Then you are going to have to prove that your mother is causing him harm either emotionally or physically, or her living conditions are not safe(you may have something with that one). After that, you are going to have to plead your case, which from a legal standpoint, doesn't seem to be that solid considering your own admition of moving in November and your age. They are going to put you and your husband through the ringer. Scrutinize your intentions, your game plan, and the concept of how an 18 year old sister can possibly care for her 12 year old brother as a parent/child relationship. (they only allow this in the rarest of circumstances) And this is just the beginning. This process can take six months just to start. Which is why I mentioned your mother on board with the idea. If you can convince her to let him go with you, it can be done by the next available hearing date if you file a motion. If you can't take him with you, send for him when he's on vacation from school, keep in contact with him often. You sound like a great role model for him, and sometimes it only takes one person to change another's life outcome. Don't give up!
2006-08-06 16:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom if he can come with you first, what about your husband is he OK with that? will it put a burden on your marriage. does your brother want to go with you to California? Also what part Of California are you going to? It also bad with gangs. Ask him if he wants to go with you. If he says yes ask your mother to let him go with so that you won't be a lone by yourself far from home while your husband is deployed over sea's and you probably pregnant also. and need someone. If you go to court it's going to take along time for the process to go Thur and your brother might get mad at you for taking her to court. try some other way first.
2006-08-06 16:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your brother is 12, most judges will talk to him about the situation... he is old enough, in most courts to help sway the judge , one way or the other..... you need to calmly and with lots of love, talk to him about how you feel.... seek out advice 1st from a good lawyer, he or she will know the laws of your state.... you should, with your brother speaking up , if he wants to go with you, be able to get full custody if the home environment is dangerous and or deadly or unhealthy for him..... he is still a minor child..... good luck and God bless
2006-08-06 16:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up, in the beginning, the place do you reside? i'm 18 years previous and registered with scientific docs (NSW) and characteristic had little ones in my care till now... i think of that in case you ought to instruct your self financially, and responsibly you're transforming into a shot at this. i think of it is extraordinary which you rather desire to try this. what's your older sister like? could you have help and the place could you reside? regardless of in the event that they have been to bypass into look after a short volume of time you ought to get your self set as much as the place they could stay with you. it is a extensive accountability, and that i think of you're astounding for desirous to try this. Your 12 year previous brother regardless of if could desire to have a decision of the place he needs to stay. At approximately that age they actually can not do something to maintain that newborn the place they want them... the newborn enormously plenty gets his say! sturdy good fortune
2016-11-04 00:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for custody, but first of all you need to ask him what he wants
2006-08-06 17:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to adopt that piece of sh*t? Let him stay with his mom
2016-11-06 05:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL A LAWYER ASAP HE OR SHE WILL BE THE ONE TO GIVE U THE RIGHT INFO ON WHAT TO DO NOT US
2006-08-06 16:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a lawyer,he should help,that would be where to start.
good luck
2006-08-06 16:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would have to petition the court, and they would have to find your mother/father unfit...
2006-08-06 16:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋