He is a total neat freak and ALWAYS has some project to do around the house instead of just hanging out with our 13 month old son and I. He's constantly outside doing something, for the last two weekends he has been doing projects in the yard all day, and if we want to spend any time with him we have to go outside and practically follow him around.
He wonders why our son is a total "Mama's Boy" and gets annoyed at it. I tell him he has to make time for us if he wants the baby to comefortable around him.
How do I make him see that there is no time like the present, and by the way, I'm having another baby boy in January, at which time I will especially need more attention from him!
2006-08-06 16:19:31 · 9 answers · asked by Ask me anything! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First, your song is only 13 months old, he should be a mama's boy. Nothing is wrong with that since you are the primary care giver. Your husband is feeling overwhelmed. Make plans for your one of your weekend. Talk with your husband and have a family night/date night.
Some men have no idea what to do with an infant/toddler until they are five years old. It sounds as if you are trying to talk to him, but he doesnt seem ready to listen. And if he wants the baby to be comfortable around him, he has to be willing to get silly with the baby. Tell your husband some of the things your son likes to do and encourage him to do those things.
2006-08-06 16:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by xolodnyj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you CAN'T. Some men just aren't comfortable around babies, even their own, the good news is that the Older the boys get, there is the chance that Dad will find more to do with them. And most boys your son's age ARE " momma's boys".. they start following dad later on though... so you CAN tell your husband that it's just Normal for your son to be attached to YOU for a couple more years, then he's going to be Daddy's little man... and you'll be lucky to see him at bed time...
2006-08-06 16:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him with is son
go out for a few hours and let your son teach him what needs to be done
my oldest boy loves quieter things and my youngest is always out in the yard with dad
do grocery shopping on saturday mornings and plan outings for a sunday afternoon with the whole family... if not go out on your own on sunday for an hour or so
he should definately take a bit of responsibilty
also at this young age men find it a bit hard to relate sometimes and it may take another year when his son understands a bit more before they can do things together
2006-08-06 16:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try doing the things you love to do with your son around him. When he sees how much fun the two of you are having then he might feel left out and want to join in on the fun.
This has worked for me in the past, good luck
2006-08-06 17:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is feeling neglected, and possibly a bit jealous. I felt this way too. it was totally wrong but none the less a fact of life. a new child in the house takes most your time away from the one you married. it sounds really dumb but it is true. and he cannot help it right now he was the alpha male and is feeling threatened inthe pack. you have to show him somehow that he is still the alpha male and you love him.
2006-08-10 05:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by bruserdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to him and let him know, by not spending more time with your son, he's not going to his daddy's boy anytime soon.
He has to know this, or at least, bring this to him attention.
How to be closer when you dun be the one, the daddy, to start getting close to your son?
My girl is so clingly to me too that my hubby is so jealous about. Now that i'm pregnant with our 2nd baby, he has to carry our girl all the time when she wants to be carried, hold/tend to her etc (equal to more time with her!) and our girl now is more willing to go to him then in the past. they even go for walks without me now which dun happen in the past.
Daddy just has to be the one to make the effort to spend more time.
Childhood once happens once and yard projects can wait or take longer time to complete. but time wait for no man! esp the precious time with our kids when they are still young!
2006-08-06 18:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by hale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have another baby with this jerk? I would tell him no more sex until he spends more time with you and the baby.
2006-08-06 16:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by euphoriarevelation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be greatful that your husband does things around the house. my husband won't even mow the grass. i do it all
2006-08-06 16:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLAN IN ADVANCE AND TELL HIM HE IS INCLUDED IN THE PLAN
2006-08-06 16:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by sneekiepleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋