I'm a 30 y.o. gay male, I met a guy online several years ago through a chat room. At first we started e-mailing one another, then we began to call each other. As I mentioned this started over two years ago and we now talk every day on the phone. I live in Az. and he lives in IL. We have both mentioned that if we were geographically closer we'd date one another. I'll be in his town (for work) this fall, I mentioned this to him and he is excited to meet me for the first time. We are both "very" apprehensive (i.e. what will he be like in person, expectations, etc...) I "really, really, really" like this guy, but I don't want to mess-up a GREAT friendship for "anything". Ideas / suggestions? I am fully aware that (usually) long distant relationships don't work....should I let him know how I truly feel or just keep things as they are "friends only"?
2006-08-06 16:18:39 · 20 answers · asked by Drew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if I was I take the chance....when you have an opportunity take it!! it might be the only one....go meet him and if you truly like him in person and everything go for it....I'm in a long distance relationship and it been working just fine you just have to put a really big part from yourself and from him. but if you meet him and you don't really like him in person keep it as friendship.
2006-08-14 04:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Luna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is kinda hard to answer b/c I'm younger then you but, maybe ask him sometime what he really feels about you does he like you more then what you two act like now. By the way thanks for the advice about my bf. Anyways if he feels more for you then a friend he'll show it some how. What's he think about you going to IL. for work do you two have anything planned a dinner or a night out for fun. How you talk on the phone should show how he feels for you if he has the tone that he likes you and you have a good stomosch feeling he does then he does. He's gay to right we'll of course but, is he meeting you at the airport to pick you up thats nice thing so he does care he does if you two have been taling so long b/c ong distance relationships if they arent lasting then phone calles or emails are only sometimes so there is a connection happening between you two i think after you ask him about how he feels for you, ask him if it would make him feel weird if you wanted something more then friendship.
2006-08-06 17:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by SMILES:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you should go for where ever your heart leads you! I am a 20 yr. old female and I always do what my heart and soul tells me to. I am into females and males! Anyways, you should tell him how you feel deep inside because he may feel the same way but too afraid to say it first. You could be falling into a happy relationship and never know it. Who knows, you two may end up together real soon and good luck!
2006-08-14 10:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted to your friend isn't a bad thing. The best of lovers are friends. So when you meet him, leave it as friends. You already know how you feel about him. So play it cool & C if he feels the same way. If he does, move in for the kill.
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2016-11-23 13:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Well...I don't think I or anybody is going to tell you anything you don't already know. But...what if he's the one. I think if there's a possibility he could be the love of your life, you owe it to yourself and to him to find out. It's great you don't want to mess up a good friendship, but if there's a chance for LOVE...take it. Good Luck
2006-08-06 16:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by toyallhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a trial can be done to see if it will work, if you both notice it won't try to save the friendship and remain friends
2006-08-14 08:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him..what could you lose.? If you don't say anything it may be something in your life that you always regretted for not saying anything...who knows this could be your life partner...and if things don't work out you still can be good friends...
2006-08-14 13:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you are good friends you could tell him your feelings and see where it goes from there. SEX usually only complicates things but who knows.
2006-08-14 12:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by misty_0108 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be friends, i would go further but i don't want to offend u gay is not of the lord but of Satan good luck u need it. remember not to be another victim to hiv
2006-08-14 09:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋