Am i being immature for not talking to my brother?

Question

I'm moving back in with my mom and I hadn't been to my dad's in 2 months...well while i was with my mom, my brother was telling my dad, step-mom and step-sister everything i had told him about how they treated me and what i thought of them....he even said that i was the only one saying stuff when he said more mean things then i did...then my dad made me go to his house to talk about it and i got in trouble for everything my brother had said and my step-sister wouldnt even look at me for the longest time....

Answer 1

Oh boy. Ya, I've never had that exact situation happen to me, but I know how you feel. If you haven't already, you need to tell your brother how those things made you feel, and how you feel towards him. Secondly, do NOT tell your dad and family what your brother said to you about how he gets treated. I would consider talking to your family, tell them how you feel about how they treat you, and apologize about talking behind their back. I really don't know what else to do. And I definitely know that this is easier said than done.

Your brother is being more immature, but you need to overcome that and confront him about it. Not talking to him can cause some serious consequences in the future that you will regret.

Answer 2

For a 14 year old you have been through too much. It is so bad what you have been through. Your brother is old enough to know better and shouldn't have said anything but look at it this way. You have learned. You have learned that you can't trust your brother with anything you don't want anyone else to know. You have also learned that you must be wary of 'friends'.

I can understand why you wouldn't want to go over to your dads, but that's up to you and only you know what to do under the circumstances. You don't speak about any brothers or sisters younger than yourself at home with your mum,, so maybe you can sit and talk to your mum about your real true deep down feelings. You could start by saying "mum do you think we can sit down and have a talk?". Then you could pour out all those feelings inside. or maybe you can say to your mum "mum, shall we have a day out together, walk in the park feed the ducks, go shopping, - mother daughter time?" Your mum might be happy to do that.

I think not talking to your brother isn't being immature, it's being annoyed at his betrayal. He should understand more and stop being immature himself.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

First, how young is the brother? If he's young he probably didn't realize the trouble he was causing. If he's older he's got problems. My mom always said the more you stir s**t the more it stinks. So, he's one of those. Just keep your mouth shut from now on and say only nice things when you are able to. Families are hard. We can't pick them or our neighbors, wish we could. anyhow you are at your moms. Treat her nice and make your staying there a blessing to her so you will have her. Time may heal some of the hurt on the other side. Mum's the word especially around Bro. and be the bigger person and forgive them all.....you are required to do that and they do with it what they want. Good luck

Answer 4

Your brother is a snitch and was obviously using it to his advantage to get in better with your dad/step mom. All you can do is tell the truth to your dad/step family and also mention your brother told you he felt the same way.
Since you are living with your mom it shouldn't be a big deal, but you should also tell your mom about the situation too. You should tell your brother how you feel and that what he did really betrayed your trust in him.

Answer 5

That is so rude of your brother but not talking to him is not going to help any. You need to sit him down and claimly explain how you feel. Also you need to sit down with your dad and the family and talk to them too. Tell them how sorry you are for saying those mean things about them to your brother.

Answer 6

It is immature, but I would do the same thing in your shoes. Just give it some time and things will work out. Your brother will realize what a jerk he was and you two can work it out. The thing to remember is don't trust him with these things in the future. Talk to a friend or write it in a diary or journal in the future.

Answer 7

It's natural to be upset with him, but let me tell you what just happened with my mother. She holds grudges, sometimes for years. She's not talked to 2 of her sisters in probably about 4 years. One of them just died suddenly this week. Although she was still angry with her, she is starting to take it very hard. I'm sure the guilt is killing her. Please, never hold grudges. Always be willing to forgive, even if he's in the wrong, doesn't ask for it, or even deserve it. Remember, if we don't forgive, God won't forgive us. When you do talk to your brother, just be aware of how he is, and don't tell him things that you don't want repeated.
You never know when someone will die. Don't let yourself get into a similar circumstance.

Answer 8

I don't think you are, especially if some of what he said, were lies. Did you explain what you said, and what you that what you didn't say, you didn't say but your brother did? When your step sister starts talking to you again, and your brfother decides to opologize sincerelyl, then you can start talking to him.

Answer 9

well that is youre brother, and you cant replace him, but its cool that you got the air clean in time they will get over it. it was good that youre dad love u enough to want to strighten it out with you & step mom, but you need to forgive youre brother and ask him y he betrayed youre trust. bottom line youre not immature you are human. good luck

Answer 10

Well, I think you did good allowing yourself to vent and not hold in what bothers you. Importantly, make sure you express your feelings to your father first, before gossip. Lastly, your brother is more immature than you, he'll eventually grow up. Be patient