Dating in my 30's I need help.?

Question

Ok here is my situation. I am 32 going on 33. I have had trouble meeting women most of my dating life. I am now really starting to get the "crap" from my parents. I am going to be the last single cousin as of November. I have a younger sister and younger cousin already married. I have tried the bars, singles activity clubs, and online. I have attrative female coworkers whom I cannot stand and would not not date them period (you would have to meet them to understand). I do not know where else to turn. I have considered speed dating but I have heard stories that people are half in the bag by the 6th person. I am a well built 6 foot 220 lbs male.
Thanks

For the record I am not fat. My gut does not exrtend beyond my belt buckle, I can ride a bicycle 20miles in under an hour and a half, I can out hike people who are 75 pounds lighter than me and that is with me carrying at least 10 pounds of gear.

Answer 1

You're basically describing the same problem a lot of people in our age bracket have... the appearance of "getting too old to be single" and "don't know where to go," etc. I don't think you need help... you just need to realize you're not alone and it's okay. Relax, and do whatever makes you happy... attending church to meet someone is not a good reason to go to church, hitting on girls while shopping is creepy, and worrying about being single will only stress you out and make it much harder to find someone. Everyone knows the more you concentrate on finding something--the more difficult it is to find. Besides there isn't any one thing you can do or any one place you can go--it's just fate and it just happens.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think it all depends on what you are looking for in terms of a dating situation. Are you looking for a relationship or looking to get laid? Bars and singles places often have people who are just there for a quick pick up and nothing more. I think you should maybe try somewhere less conventional like a gym or even the grocery store. Do you have any friends who could set you up with someone nice? I just think bars are for people who want to get loaded and get laid and not much else. I do understand what you mean about the co-worker thing too....you will probably meet your dream girl when you least expect it so maybe you shouldn't try so hard...

Answer 4

I am sorry for the first answer you got. People can get so rude. I met my soul mate on match.com. We were both in our early thirties, divorced, and single parents. And we actually found someone. There is a special someone out there for you. Really think about what you want in a partner, go on match.com start having fun. Do not compare yourself to your other family members. It will come in time for you. I know how it feels to be the only one without a partner, it sucks. But the worst feeling is being with a partner and you are not compatible. So please do not settle. Just keep dating and be yourself, 33 is not too old to just be starting a relationship.

I especially like dream romantics idea.

Answer 5

take youre time love is something you gain when you stop looking for it, you will find that special some1, dont feel bad that you are the last to huck up. be pround that you are waiting on mrs.right. shes out there and shes at home waiting and thinking of you, dont rush cause when you 2 do meet the buck will stop there. hey size is not the problem a lot of womaen love big guys. you dont live at home do you? i hope not if sso you may want to get youre own place. that might be 1 of youre problems, or if you have no job or transportation. if so fix that problem as well. now just hang out nad she will find you. god said let no man live on bread alone. god will send you youre woman real soon, it wont help to pray... but be careful of what you ask god for in a woman. good luck ps let me know if you found that right woman only 4 u

Answer 6

Getting married due to familial pressure would be the dumbest decision you ever make. Don't do it. You can't control when you fall in love or who you fall in love with.

But you can put yourself in situations that make it more likely that you'll meet members of the opposite sex that you'll want to date. After all, you're more likely to get drunk hanging out in bars than at the gym, right? What do you like to do? Sounds like you like to bike & hike. Join a local biking or hiking club...or better yet both. You automatically have something in common with the other members, something you can talk about, and something you can do together that you both enjoy. You could also volunteer for a cause you care about. Use your imagination.

Above all, don't get married because other people tell you it's time for you to settle down. Get married because you fall in love with someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with. http://www.top10datingsecrets.com

Answer 7

I would try and start going to church. I went for the first time in my life today and thougth if I was ever single again, it would be a good place. There are churches that try to attract strickly young people like fellowship churches. They are easy to find. You will find they are like franchises. There is a huge one in grapevine texas and downtown dallas. Go for the one in your neighboorhood that has stuff like wall climbers, big jumbotrons etc. You'll notice these ladies are dressed to the T, because they are looking too. At least you'll know your kids dont have a witch for a mom.

Answer 8

ask your friends to help they know you and what more or less like in a girl, if not well them what you are looking for. Parents just do this because they want to see you married just in case they pass away they know you have someone to be with. Secondly, where are you looking, are you a christian if so well try someone from church but do not expect to "know" them if they are really christians. If you are looking for your future wife at the bar guess how she is going to be liike when she is your wife; not that she will always be the same person but look before you focuse on her.

Answer 9

You don't say anything about your personality. That could be the clue to why you've been having trouble dating. If you have any female friends, or male friends who are in a relationship, ask them if they have any suggestions for improvement. Other than that, maybe join hobby groups for things you are interested in. If you're into reading, talk to women in the bookstore or library about books either of you read. Try religious groups and get-togethers too.

Answer 10

You may not like these suggestions but they are surefire ways to meet women: take a ballroom dancing class or a cooking class. You will be the center of all attention and you might even enjoy it. Another idea: ask a married woman you really admire to fix you up with a friend. Women love to be matchmakers. I met my husband that way.