I know that feeling, I know the feeling of the "missing Piece" Mine was a horrible drunk that was abusive beyond description. I want to share what I have learned. Be the father or parent they never were...tell your children how much you love them. Be that father or mother that you never recieved. The questions isn't whether bad things happened..it's our reaction to those things..GIVE your children what you never got...tell them how much you love them...how special they are...LOVE them everyday. Never allow those feeling from the past rob them as well...stop the cycle of neglect. It worked for me, I have 3 children that I just bathed in love everyday...they lived in love everyday of their life with me...I never wanted them to feel what I felt growing up. Sorry to ramble I just felt someone might need this..I hope!
Do you agree?
2006-08-06 15:26:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes; you're right on! I had a very abusive Dad. I underwent it all; physical; emotional; sexual. He's now in a Nursing Home, & I must admit...it's a stretch for me to go see him.
However, while I agree with everything you said; I chose to remain single with no children. I don't love too easily. And I'm afraid of repeating the garbage that was beaten into me. I know how I get when I'm angry. I don't want my kids to have to live through what I did.
You must be one awesome Dad. I commend you. We need more men like you.
2006-08-06 15:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well actually, instead of making me feel better, hearing that kindof thing always makes it feel so much worse, that there STILL isnt anyone who regards me enough to feel that way toward me. Just rubs it in.
But why wouldnt I wish that for anyone else- of course! Anything that I could hold myself responsible for, I would do in order to ensure that it didnt happen to my children. In a way, seeing them safe, secure and happy would be like reliving or finally havig the childhood I didnt have- Id be there, watching it too, learning along. I am way past ever actin glike that myself, and by all hellfire, no one else is going to act like that to my own child. The thought drives me crazy. How he treated me and even failed to ttreat me may upset me, but I've recovered my senses and self-esteem enough that nobody can trick or fool me into allowing such a torturous hatred form being enacted on my children.
So I agree!
2006-08-06 22:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Yentl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course I agree. My father tried to be a good one, but had issues. My grandfather stepped in and became my father. My children have a MUCH better father than my biological father was.
My bio-father has since passed away, but we did make peace before he died, and I forgave him long ago. Which has helped me to heal A LOT.
2006-08-06 22:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by married_so_leave_me_alone1999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Looks like you are a wise man, to have learned a valuable lesson, and to have stopped the cycle.
2006-08-06 22:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by savannah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.
I can't begin to tell you how it breaks my heart to hear of children being abused. but the cycle can be broken. you are living proof!
you sound like a wonderful father, a blessing to your children.
you make some wonderful points in your post. thanks for sharing!
(hugs)
2006-08-06 22:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Poetic1♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I also enjoy having a heavenly Father, mine drank too on earth.
2006-08-06 22:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree. It is our reaction to things in life that make us who we are. Your children are lucky to have you.
2006-08-06 22:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you.
2006-08-06 22:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋