When 1 year went by on me and my boyfriend going out I finally fell in love with him on the day of our school dance night after our first kiss. Am I really in love or am I just in lust? Can I really be in love at my age?
2006-08-06 15:20:25 · 57 answers · asked by Nanner 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You CAN fall in love at your age, but the circumstances you describe point into another direction, infatuation that is.
2006-08-13 20:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tommy V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was not far from where u are now a while ago. It's really hard to believe that what u feel is not love. Cz it's so strong sometimes that it can easily fool anyone. But truthfully, at your age (mine too:P) it's quite impossible to fall in love !! This guy could be a great boyfriend but im sure you're not willing to spend the rest of your life with him. Spend some time together.... enjoy every minute..... but don't fall for him. Don't fall for any guy this soon. Enjoy your relationships before in no time you find yourself married and setteled down and u would have lost ur freedom :P lol
Peace!! :D
2006-08-14 10:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is different things to different people and one's definition of love changes as you get older. For being 15, you very well may be in love - as you understand and feel it and there's nothing wrong with that. You sound really mature for asking this question at all and like someone who will make good choices. There's a difference between love at 15 and lifelong love which can occur at any age but chances are you will know yourself better and know what you desire in a life partner better as you get older. My advice - don't make poor choices now which might affect you years from now. I married my high school sweetheart at 21 (dated since I was 16) and have a wonderful family but still wonder 'what if?' and wish I hadn't rushed into a lifelong commitment so young.
2006-08-06 15:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can be in love at your age, but I hope you're also smart enough not to act on the lust part of it. Love is a very special thing at any age, but lust is a close companion. No one, male or female, should act on lust until they are old enough and wise enough to handle all the consequences that lust can bring. Just remember to always respect yourself and to demand and receive that same respect from others. No one your age is ready for lust, but love...that's another story.
2006-08-14 08:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young love is still love. And I don't want to rain on your parade, but young love rarely last's forever. Don't think you find many couples out there that are still with their first love.
I know I'm not. But, that doesn't mean it isn't important either. My suggestion is, have fun being in love. It's your first time, enjoy it, soak it up, and create fond memories for later in live. This is also a learning experience. But the main thing you should remember is this: Yes it's love, and enjoy it for as long as you can without getting too hurt.
2006-08-14 05:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to clean up after yourself, and a stable job, and then you can have a bf, and also make sure you make about 45, 000-50,000 k a yr. if you want to have a BF at 14. Im sure when you have kids by the age of 16 you will be educated. Its not love or lust. he is just a crush.
2006-08-14 02:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by spriege 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that any adult would agree with you that it's actually "love." But I remember 14 going on 15, and I remember feeling like it was love. And when I look back on it now, I still think of that boy as my first true love who eventually gave me my first broken heart. So, just enjoy it for what it is -- a rollercoaster of emotions -- and don't do anything irresponsible (I'm a mom, so I had to throw that in.), and one day you will probably look back on it very fondly with a bittersweet smile.
2006-08-06 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I understood properly, you've been with him for a whole year already. That's more than a lot of 20 year olds can manage. Trust me, love has nothing to do with age but with the time you've spent together, your intimacy and bond. However, that does not mean that you can't get hurt or that given your age, one of you won't do something stupid to mess it up. Because people mess up love when they're a lot older too.
2006-08-14 11:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by bluntbabe74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do not think so this stage in ur life when u realy like someone is called puppy love, yes it is. for 1 thing u r not even thinking of what is right for u, to me its just the thought that u know of the word love but love my dear go father than when the school bell ring or when its time for bed time. do u see yourself living the rest of ur life with him? or better yet having his kids ? then that should tell u its puppy love and that is a danger zone to young teens, for they feel they have to go out of there way to fit in or do what the guy wants even at times thats not what u want. its nothing to like a guy a lot, but rember ur not ready for love u must find out 1st who u are and what u wwant. and u cant do that a such a young age. try to focus on ur school lessons or better yet fall in love with god he;ll never lead u wrong
2006-08-14 09:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called puppy love. Your hormones are going crazy right now so it seems that every feeling is itensified by at least a magnitude of 10. I would have to say that most likely you are not in love in terms of an adult relationship. Relax.... you've got a long time ahead of you. You'll probably think it's silly 5 years from now.
2006-08-14 13:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can be in love at any age, but dont rush anything. take your time and enjoy this new feeling. just relax. alot of older people say that you can not love at such a young age, because u dont understand it and what it is, and love is a risky business. personally to me love is caring for someone more than your self, i think if you feel this for your bf, u r in love. just remember....Love can really hurt u if the person doesnt feel it back, but never ever hold it back. loving someone is the greatest thing in the world.
2006-08-14 13:52:58 · answer #11 · answered by Rebecca Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋