he said we are just friends. we go out ,shopping,and he ask me why, when and where questions
2006-08-06 15:19:43 · 20 answers · asked by Big Dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what do you think about the situation are we just friends or something else
2006-08-06 15:21:59 · update #1
Mmm. Well, if the person says you are just friends, then I guess that's what you all are. If this person has not told you that you two were a couple then they considers you as a friend "with benefits" meaning you're a friend that he can be intimate and shop with. Now what do you do since you have been lead on and you have been thinking this person was your man for two years?
Well, if I was in your shoes, I wouldn't see him that often and the intimate stuff will end. You probably enjoy the intimacy but why be intimate with someone who considers you as a "friend". When he ask the when, why questions, kindly say you have been tending to your business and leave it at that. No explanations! Besides he's "just your friend" and your friends don't need to know every move you make. Right? Don't allow yourself to be used because when he decides he wants a wife he will move on to someone else. Date other people that want you more than a friend (if that's what you want). Tell the person that you are looking for more than friendship (if that's what you want) and you need someone that's looking for the same thing. Don't short change yourself. Good Luck.
2006-08-06 15:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just friends, you were intimate with him, before requesting something more, and as long as you keep giving it to him. without further committment, He's fine just the way it is. This is the way he wants it because you allowed it to be this way, and he probably doesn't want to change it now. Two years is a long time. But don't get me wrong he cares but if you and him haven't made any furthur committments then that's why you are not for sure. He wants to remain friends with benefits if you get my drift. Sorry, I wish you more success. But if you want more he probably will not do it now. Tell him you want more and if he doens't then move on and find someone who does, I am sure you deserve more and better. And learn from this mistake and do not do it again. Love yourself more to want more and better. lots of love a friend.
2006-08-06 15:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Reesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am surprise that you don't talk about it. You've been going out with him for almost two years now. Friends are suppose to be open to each others feeling.
Or maybe because you don't have the same feelings...he likes you being a friend but you like him more than that and wish he feels the same way too. That's where the problem comes in. Why not be invisible to him for sometime and see if he misses your company and to give him time to realized his feelings for you.
2006-08-06 15:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there! I'm 52 too and I have been in similar experiences before. Do you want the relationship to go beyond friendship to a serious comittment? Just take it slow for now and make sure this is the one you want to spend time with.
2006-08-06 15:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big dee i think that you are a great vivacious wonderful person but you limit yourself by asking what is right and what is wrong/ i think this guy really likes you a whole lot but you have been putting off the next natural phase of your relationship and blaming this on other things~~I think in life you have to go for it or else not try at all~~~~go girl is all i have to say
2006-08-06 15:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close friends, it is natural to ask those questions because you care about someone and care what happens to them. If he wanted more, he'd tell you. Enjoy what you have and don't ruin it, everyone could use a close friend like that.
2006-08-06 15:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking this question I think you already know the answer, so just trust your instincts. Be careful but be honest with him about how you feel.
2006-08-06 15:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by lcsotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you like him more than just a friend, but I don't know about him, I think he likes you a lot too
2006-08-06 15:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very POSESSIVE friend to me. Back off for a bit and see what happens.
2006-08-06 15:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys go after what they want. If he thought it was more, he would probably have made it more.
But then, I don't know either of you. He may not want anything more in his life than companionship.
2006-08-06 15:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋