okay like my boyfriend is a very jealous person.. he gets mad when i talk about my guy friends and when they call me.. but you see i have more guy friends than girlfriends bc girls are real twofaced.. well he gets so pissed.. also the fact that alot of my friends are exboyfriends.. and i hate losing a friend bc a relationship didnt work out so i stay friends with them.. well one of my BESTEST guy friends hugged me and kissed me on the cheek which looked like it was on my lips and my bf saw.. he FREAKED out now he wants to kick my friends butt and hates him, im not allowed to talk about him or talk to him while im with my bf.. but it might be because he was in a 4 1/2 yr relationship and the girl cheated on him.. i dont know but what should i do??
2006-08-06 14:43:39 · 12 answers · asked by TIFFUhhNEE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay sweetheart, you need to play fair. You need to tone it down a bit, you are way to friendly with the males. You are doing this to him on purpose and it's not right. It's okay to have male friends, but you need to put your man and his feelings first and stop being so rude and inconsiderate of his feelings because I guarantee you wouldn't like it if he did it to you. It's time to do some growing up.
2006-08-06 14:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kyra B. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication - sit down and have a long heart to heart with your boyfriend. Listen to his concerns and acknowledge his feelings because they are obviously pretty strong. Try to keep things as calm as possible.
Afterwards, then it's your turn to explain your side of things to him. I'm sure the cheating bit with his ex has hurt things with developing trust.
But what it comes down to is whether or not your boyfriend really trusts you or not.
This could be a red flag that he's the obsessive-jealous type. Just be careful. A little jealously isn't necessarily a bad thing... it shows concern for you as long as it's directed in the right place.
In the end, a compromise is usually the best choice. Make a pact that you won't kiss a guy in any fashion again and then try inviting him out with one of your friends sometime. You never know, they could become good buds!!
Either way, put yourself in his shoes. If he was kissing another girl, even if it seemed innocent, how would you feel??
If you really love him and want to be with him, you honestly need to be sensitive to his feelings, as he should be with yours. I have to admit that personally, having so many guy friends (especially ex's) is not only strange but not healthy for a relationship. I would put some distance between the guys and get closer to your boyfriend but this is just a personal response to your question.
Good luck :)
2006-08-06 14:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Horizons 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to get a hold of his self or you're going to have to leave him. I mean, seriously. He's basically taking his past anger from his past relationship problems into your guys relationships. It's actually common when people go into new relationships, but some of them are smart enough to deal with the issues before getting involved or realizing the issue and stopping it. Ok, maybe threatening him that you'll leave ain't the best idea. Just tell him what I just said in your own words and tell him he can either trust you or he can't. I mean, if he can't trust you b/c of his ex...then...that sucks. Might not be a good time for him to be in a relationship.
2006-08-06 14:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my boyfriend is the exact same way. I ended up saying goodbye to the ex-boyfriend/friends that he was uncomfortable with. If you really love him, you gotta respect him and let go of your past. But that has to be a 2-way street! We both called up our ex's and friends in front of each other and told them good-bye for good, and the relationship has been the best I've ever been in since then, and now his devotion is complete.
2006-08-06 14:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him, explain this to him. If nothing changes, leave him. He needs to have more self-esteem. He has to learn girls are not the same, no matter his past. You need someone to trust you, to believe you when you tell him he's the only one. It's nice to have someone that shows he's jealous for you because it means he cares, but you don't have to give up your friends for him, because they are all you've got when the relationship's over.
2006-08-06 14:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Data 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide who & what is more important...the boyfriend & his feelings or ex's the that an ex's for a reason. I think you like him being jealous, well guys don't put up with that & you could get hurt or get "a friend" hurt. Get some girlfriends & leave the ex's behind.
2006-08-06 15:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by sexy momma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your bf needs to trust you more but if i was him and another guy kissed you i would be mad too. Wouldn't you get mad if some other girl kissed him.
2006-08-06 14:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by Dave S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you need someone who is so insecure? Better off to dump him and just hang with friends until you find the right guy.
2006-08-06 14:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some girlfriends.
2006-08-06 14:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you honestly love him get rid of the guy friends
2006-08-06 14:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by cwb63ss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋