Think about it. Think about it long and hard. How much do you really love them? Enough to work it out? After all, this is the person you just vowed to spend the rest of your life with, isn't it? Would this change everything between you? (BE HONNEST! don't just say what makes you sound good, say how you would REALLY feel. The only person you're lying to is yourself if you don't. AND NO "that could never happen to us!! how dare you?!?! I hate you for implying that about him/her!!" it's just HYPOTHETICAL, just a 'what if', it doesn't change reality, just make you think about your own values. Chill. Have fun.)
2006-08-06 14:36:05 · 21 answers · asked by eri_mizawa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well if I had found out on the honeymoon that my hubby was different from what I had grown to love and care about, I would have to question him on why this wasnt brought to my attention earlier. If I had given myself the chance to get to know him, and this was one thing that was left out, then what else dont i know?
I think before marriage, you need to get to know your spouse to be fully. Find out all of his quirks and issues because you truly cannot build a marriage on lies.
To answer your question though, I would have to say that I would let him know my views about his religion, and what part will it impact our lives. If you were born a Muslim, and raised one, It doesnt mean you are an active, practicing Muslim now. I know lots of people who were raised one way and ended up as something different.
To each his own, but I for one would talk about it.
2006-08-12 12:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize this is hypothetical but how could a person not bother to find out about this before the wedding? How could the subject of religious beliefs not come up? I'm sorry I can't get past this part so I can't honestly say what I would do or how I would react. The only thing I can honestly say is that I respect other people's beliefs as long as they don't try and push them on me.
2006-08-06 23:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine getting that far without resolving the religion issue one way or the other. I can't imagine getting engaged without having resolved the religion issue. (And for a couple of years, I was engaged to a Jewish girl; I'm not Jewish, so this came up fairly early in the dating phase. It wasn't a reason for our breakup, but it's something that I have personal experience with.)
I mean, there are a lot of things you really don't find out till you've been married a while, like whether your new spouse puts the toilet paper on coming over the top of the roll or is constitutionally incapable of closing a kitchen cabinet.
But if you're a strict Buddhist who doesn't believe in the taking of life for any reason, and you don't find out till the honeymoon that your sweetie practices ritual sacrifice of chickens as part of Vodou... you're BOTH too stupid to breed.
2006-08-06 22:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly, you should know your partner well enough when you get married that you know their religious beliefs. But if it did happen, i think it would be really tough at first. I mean... depending on what religion it is too, makes all the difference on how well the situation would go. I mean, obviously, I would do everything I could to make a happy medium with the whole thing... because the most important thing is the marriage.. you committed to it, so you need to work o ut your differences.
2006-08-06 23:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I would hope that it was discussed at some point before you got married. If I was a member of a religion I'd probably want to have my wedding in my church, etc. If he objected then would have been the time to discuss such things. Religion and spirituality are important issues for most people and get uptight about. I'd want to talk things out with him as much as possible. There's nothing wrong with having different points of view. They are all pretty much the same thing when you get to the core of each religion. Maybe because I concider myself spiritual verses religious it doesn't seem like such a big deal.
2006-08-13 00:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by tori474 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" What if you found out on your honey moon that your partner was a religion that you're against? "
That won't happen since my fiance and I have discussed religion (He doesn't believe. I believe in Christianity). We discuss how we raise the kids, how to teach value's and morals, what he like if I did v.s he wouldn't do. etc.
If get married and find out both are separate religions, then obviously shouldn't of gotten married in the first place.
I don't know how two people who could buy pass the topic since when getting married, religion can play a huge part in it.
I love him regardless and if serious about marriage, then serious about working out a system to make it work.
2006-08-06 23:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, good question... I guess I would probably know what religion they were before I married them, but if I didn't, and found out it was one I was against after I married them, I would feel very confused, angry at them and myself and worried. I would probably consider divorce, if their religion was going to get in the way of our relationship. On the other hand, I consider myself to be a very open-minded and flexible person. Perhaps we could work it out and learn to live with it, but it would change things between us.
I hope it never happens...
You're one deep thinker.
2006-08-07 07:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, hypothetically I wouldn't find that out on a honeymoon, since I'm pretty active in my church, and that's a hard thing for most people to fake. But, honestly, yeah, I would change things if I found out my husband didn't share my beliefs. I would still love him, and don't think I'd leave over THIS, but it would make our life together a little harder.
2006-08-07 02:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm not really 'against' any religion as long as they can let me be, and I've dated religious people without any problems. However, I couldn't imagine being engaged to someone without having had many serious religious discussions. If I found out during the honeymoon that they'd been lying to me for the duration of our relationship, I probably wouldn't be able to deal with it.
2006-08-06 21:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by christine g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happens the person has technically committed fraud by keeping this from you before the marriage. This does happen often, and it is grounds for an annulment of the marriage.
If they are marrying you, they should be completely honest with you, if the marriage is already starting off on a lie, how can it last?
2006-08-06 21:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋