I'm not happy with this crap!!!?

Question

I had to move in with parents because of a situation and trying to get back on my feet. I had to start all over with my life including etting a car. I also plan on going back to school. My problem is my stepdad wants me to give him $300 a month(my mom doesn't even fork out that much money), but yet they want to treat me like i'm a damn child (i'm 25) and at the same time i'm trying to save my money so i can get out of here but he still wants that damn money. All i do is sleep, eat one meal a day, work(3rd), and help clean up around here. But yet these bills so called went up all high since i've been here. Now i'm dealing with a whole bunch of BULL while i'm here but i'm trying to remain cool about this but i don't mind giving some money but this price is too steep i'm tired of dealing with this sh** i got to put up with and just want to know does anyone agree? This is just a little short version of the problem cuz the whole story would take me all night to type.let me know peeps

Answer 1

yeah that would piss me off too and it really doesnt make any sense if you are trying to get back on your feet that 300 dont help at all so yeah i see where you are comming from hope it gets better

Answer 2

First of all start over? You are only 25 so there's not much to start over from. You are still at the beginning. You are the one that needs help not your step dad, at least he is letting you move in and $300 wow not all that much. Where could you live on your own for $300 a month? You sleep and eat 1 meal a day and help clean up, good for you these things are to be expected of anyone, unless you live in a hotel with a maid and wait staff! It is funny how bills seem to go up when someone else moves in. They actually do go up! More water being used, more electricity being used, more laundry being done, etc... stop and take a look at the bills sometime for your self. You are 25 and you are tired of being treated like a child so take more responsibility for your self and be grateful that you have a place to go and sleep and get 1 meal a day! I realize that there is probably more to your story but from the sounds of what you have already said , you sound like you are still immature and need to grow up just a bit more and realize how lucky you really are. Take responsibility for your self and own actions, why you need to move back in with your parents at 25 years old.

Answer 3

$300 a month is a lot less than you would be paying if you were out on your own. The $300 is probably not just to cover increased bills (water, hydro, gas, food) but to cover for the inconvenience of losing their privacy and having you underfoot. However, having said that, since you are 25 and are paying rent, they should not treat you like a child. You SHOULD definitely be contributing toward the cleaning, but you should not have to account for where you are or when you come in. It is respectful to let them know an approximate time frame of when they can expect you home, or give a quick call if you will be much later than expected, simply so they don't worry you've been killed or injured out there somewhere, but that's it. If you're coming in late, also you should be respectful enough (as should everyone in the house) not to make too much noise and disturb people.

Answer 4

It's right for you to pay rent but $300 seems a bit much unless they can prove that it's justified. Maybe $150 a month would be a more reasonable amount. That way your helping to cover your expenses and still be able to save some money for a car. Ask them to show you how they came up with the figure of $300. You would be well within your rights to do that but if they do prove it then you need to pay it or find someplace else to live.

Answer 5

Okay, tough one, but I have a daughter who moved out and came back for a year. And she did exactly what you did; ate, slept, worked, and helped out with chores. I'm feeling bad saying this, but we charged her rent too. The same amount in fact. Life was hard for her. She struggled to make her car payments and save to move out, but she did it. Then when she was ready to move out again, we surprised her by giving her back every penny she paid to us. We never intended to keep it, we just wanted to see if she was financially stable enough to survive on her own. It was a lesson she needed. I would like to think that your stepdad is trying to teach you the same lesson, but I doubt it. He sounds as though he's wanting you to pay the bills for him. If you want to work this out, you are going to have to take a different approach. The yelling at him and the attitude have to stop. Sit him down, explain to him your situation, show him your paychecks, the bills you have to pay and then offer to pay half of what he is asking. $150 a month should cover more than your fair share of electricity, water and food. Remind him you are family and not a stranger too. If he doesn't go for it, then find an apartment with a few roommates. It's his house, there is only so much you can do.

Answer 6

If they are the problem:

Move out or have them "kick you out" then see if you qualify for emergency help with social services as being homless, or go to catholic charities, or the salvation army or red cross they might put you up a couple nights in a motel while you apply for assistance try to get a friend to let you stay but get out of that situation if you can. dont know all the facts [or both sides for that matter] but it sounds like the step dad is trying to run you out anyway.....so go with it. Then get on your feet and loose the assistance and become something and show him!!!!!!!!

BUT if you are the problem:
deal with it! You will never have rent so cheap....ask first if you can have 2-3 weeks to get it straight -show them a budget on paper. see if they will compromise and work with them... if you are the problem they owe you nothing

Answer 7

Thats not very cool of your dad. I've been in your shoes, but my mom naver charged me rent. I think it's kinda dumb your dad is doing that. Aren't parents supposed to help thier kids when they fall on rough times? Anyway, I could understand that he may want you to pay rent, but why so much? $100 I could see. Maybe he's POed because now is supposed to be thier time? Maybe he's trying to hurry you along. Whatever the case, I don't think he's helping you that much. I would sit and have a nice long talk with him. Good Luck hun!

Answer 8

Sorry you are so mad. If you are back in hyour parents' home as an adult, they have a perfect right to ask you to pay. The amount they are asking is way, way cheap. If you cannot make it on your own, then you have to deal with the house rules. Otherwise, move out, no matter what your personal situation.

Answer 9

If you are going to move in with your parents, you should pay rent. If you don't want to be treated like a child or pay rent, how about moving into your own place like other adults do instead of trying to mooch off of your parents?

Answer 10

Stop mooching off your family. Either pay rent or get out. Count your blessings that they even let you back in the house. It sounds like you're not the model child.