me and my hubby have a 7 month old, how long should we wait to try for another one?

Question

how many yrs is good for kids to be apart?why?

Answer 1

you should just try to enjoy the 7 month old, spend all of your time with it, because soon as you have another one you will never have enough time again! Everything changes and then you have to make time for each child, why not try to enjoy the one you have and spoil it 100% with all of your time and undivided attention. It's not the years apart it all depends upon you and your parenting skills. There's pros's and con's to both (waiting or having them close) I have done both. I have two extremely close and two far apart from them and each other. It is all up to your skills....but Try to enjoy the single child as much as you can as there will never be a single child again once you have another one.I really wish for that time again with my eldest, when it was just me and her and I had so much time to do everything with her, once my second came I had to squeeze in alone time with my eldest,

Answer 2

you know what I'm wondering the same thing i have a 5 1/2 mo old and would like to try for another so they wont be so far apart i have a 12 yr old and a 5 1/2 mo old that's a huge difference so i wanna keep them close so they can grow up together and take care of one another

Answer 3

My brother and I are 6 years apart and we got along really well, I think because we're so far apart that there wasn't much to fight about. However, it would be nice for your baby to have another sibling to grow up with. Wait until YOU are ready to go through another pregnancy, then go for it. Just remember to think about timing, like if you want a year to try for another, you'll be potty training baby #1 while you're taking care of a newborn.

Answer 4

I think four years apart is really close to perfect, although even that is maybe a little closer than is ideal.

If you have given all your attention to one for the two years while his/her brain is developing and for another two preschool years while his/her world is still pretty much you and your house and where you bring him/her, then by the time the child gets to be four or five he/she starts wanting to go to school, be out with other children and generally move beyond the previously tiny world of toddlerhood.

It doesn't mean the child doesn't need your attention any longer, but it means he/she won't be needing it non-stop 100% of the time. As the first child starts to have a bigger world, the parent can more easily devote time to another child's baby/toddler needs. Parents still need to be careful to share time fairly and adequately, but its easier to devote individual time and attention to a baby when the older child is more interested in people and things that aren't the mother or father.

Closely spaced children will live, of course, but toddlers are so so attached and needing of their mother's attention if the mother cannot devote it to them they may feel somewhat deprived. Its better to give each child the beginning and the attention they need, get them into preschool, and then have another baby. By the time the second baby is a toddler and in need of toddler-level attention the first one will be in kindergarten or first grade, and you'll have the time you need.

Yes, you'll have diaper-time and school-time and graduation-from-colleges time stretched out longer and later than some people will, but it will help you stay young.

Answer 5

Picture everything you went through with your first one......healing physically, sleep schedules haywire, etc.....now think of how old you would want the child to be when you had to do this again? a 1 and 1/2 year old is pretty easy to entertain and will sleep all night but is still a lot of work. but a 4 or 5 year old can entertain themselves (briefly) while you nap with the new baby but is more likely to be jealous......there are pros and cons at any age. It is all about you and what you feel you can handle.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

when you think you are ready...
it might be nice to wait for at least a nother year before you atart trying though
that way you can give your child all the attention he needs ... and can purely focus on him without any distractions...
i think approx 3 years is a nice age difference
the oldest will be a bit more independent and then you can give the new baby a whole heap of attention too

Answer 8

Whenever you feel you are ready. But I think two years is a good amount of time between kids.