Do HS - College relationships work?

Question

I'm about ready to go to college 2 hours away from my HS Sweetheart, she's a year younger than me, I told her that I would come back to see her every other weekend, as well as on breaks etc. We know it's going to be hard, without a doubt, but we also promised to be true to each other ( and we always have been before ) as well as for me not to drink around girls that I haven't grown up with as my friends. I really want to make it work, and she does also, the only thing that worries me is I have a sense of insecurity and with any girl I've ever dated up to her and with her sometimes, I always fear the worst, that's what is going through me right now. Any suggestions or ideas anyone?

Answer 1

is she hot

Answer 2

OK, when I was a senior in high school, like your girlfriend, I had a boyfriend who was going to college too. We really liked each other and wanted it to work out, but the fact is, it is really, really difficult. Now, I have just finished my first year of college, and I have watched countless couples break up. Honestly, I don't know any couples who were together in high school that are still a couple. My boyfriend and I broke up two months after he moved away, but I learned that it is unrealistic to think you will still be with a person you met as a teenager for a very long time. So, I'm not trying to be totally discouraging, but maybe try it for a while, and if it isn't too hard, go with it. But if it ever seems more work than the relationship is worth, you should give it up. You might have fun things to do on the weekends, and taking a two hour drive back home might get old really fast. Don't deny yourself a new life because you had a good connection with someone in high school, this is an important time to learn new things about yourself and to start a new part of your life.

Answer 3

Let me give you a story from high school:

There was a guy named Brian, he was an extreme picky guy. He would be flirted on heavily by some of the most beautiful girls in HS and he would say no, he didn't want to- because he was going after this ONE girl, that although very popular and attractive, was not "all that."

In the junior year he finally got a chance with her - and they stuck it out together. This guy - since birth - had not kissed or touched a single woman in waiting for this girl. He finally got her. The screwed every chance they got. They loved each other. Their parents were talking about buying them a house in town.

He went to school to be an architect 3 hours away. He went home EVERY weekend. He continued dating her until the beggining of his junior year in HS where he finally told her:

Since week 1 in college, he had been cheating on her.

How? Why? What happened?

You'll see. College changes things. Unfortunately, it will be the ultimate test of your morality if you really want to try it out. Hers too.

Answer 4

It is hard your right... but why not try it! If it doesnt work at least you tried. Also i would say that trust is a big issue and you guys should talk about what you both want b/c college is suppost to be fun but with a gf its hard to have fun when shes 2 hours away!! good luck!!

Answer 5

Do you LOVE HER? That's the biggest and only question you need to answer to see if your relationship will work. Real love is local, long distance, transnational,---everywhere.

The fact that you both are willing to work thorough this relationship says a lot. If hearing her voice over the phone is very helpful in getting you through the day---that also says a lot.

Commitment and fidelity is key--just try to maintain it.

Answer 6

It is tough decison........
if u keep in trusted with each other then u will do fine....

there is facebook......u can be in and she can be in high school, u can messageing each other everday......

it can work only if u both tursted each other and.........tell her that college is lots of time and u are there everymin of her life

and after college, u can be with erhe every singal mints

most of the friends that i have, they are still together

just one broken up b/c of attention problem....

give her a space so she can life with her life and u too

good luck

Answer 7

If she has never gave you reason not to trust her, then you should. She is going to have to trust you as well. A lot of times, long distance relationships don't work but if you work hard at it, then it might. Its just going to come down to trusting each other.

Answer 8

Give up. Those never work. They usually end up in a messy fight.
I've seen these things fall apart 7 or 8 times. I've never seen them work.

Please take my advice: Have a great summer. Part company on good terms. Call her when you come home around thanksgiving and see how you both feel.

Answer 9

this is the way it fairly is for many adult males. The relationship pool in simple terms have been given extensive. to boot, they only decide to have exciting. there will be some who choose a protracted-term relationship that's no longer consistent with intercourse, yet for many of them, this is after college the place you will bump into that.

Answer 10

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow; it only saps today of its joy.” -Leo F. Buscaglia

If you believe in yourself and each other, distance is nothing. Be true to each other and it will last if it's meant to be.

“In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.” -Hans Nouwens

Good luck. Best wishes.

Answer 11

if you both really love each other i think it can work, just trust her until she gives you a reason not to. i'm sure she will be missing you just as much as you will miss her, so what are you on here for? go spend some time with your honey!