Should I ...or should I not??

Question

My babies dad has been sending my daughter child support for the last 3 months and ive been putting a seperate savings account for my daughter. I'm getting married September the 22nd so were trying to save money for our little honeymoon thing were doing we've only had about 180 dollers saved up. I havent had an eye exam in a year and half cause they shut off my medicaid well ive been wearing the same contacts since december and yesterday when i woke up there was a huge triangle rip in my contact. i went to go call someone and since i couldnt see i dropped my phone and managed to bust my phone in half luckly i have insurance on it so its only going to be like 50 dollers to get a new one. I also have a doctors apt the 16th which is going to be 150 dollers which im borrowing from my dad so my ? is should i just borrow the money out of my daughters saving account to get my eye exam or my new phone or is that just way wrong??? i fully plan on paying it back once i get the money for it

No not for my honeymoon she has her own lil savings account its only got a lil over 500 dollers in it cause thats all he's paid in i have 180 in my own accoun t for our honeymoon lol sorry i just wrote so much they wouldnt let me write no more on the page!!

its not that this is the first money he's ever paid hes a drug dealer for christ sakes!! i've never even mentioned the money to my husband im not using it for the honeymoon i want to use it so i can get an eye exam and a new phone! if i cant see i cant work if i dont have a phone and something happends to her at home what am i going to do?? run down the road and hope someones home to call the cops???

Answer 1

HMM...IT IS UP TO YOU THE MONEY IS FOR BOTH OF YOU!

YOUR CHILD OWES YOU MONEY TECHNICALLY SO DON'T FEEL GUILTY!

YOUR CHILD SOMEDAY WILL BE RICHER THAN YOU.. YOU KEEP SAVING FOR HER AND YOU NEED IT MOST!

BALANCE IT OUT.....YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB PROVIDING LOVE AND SHELTER FOR HER

SO WITH THE MONEY IF YOU NEED IT USE IT!

DON'T FEEL GUILTY..YOU ARE GOOD PERSON..BUY YOUR CONTACT LENS! and phone>>how the hell can you see your baby half blind>>and you do need the phone and have a cheap honeymoon...!!

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST! A HAPPY MOMMY WILL HAVE A HAPPY BABY..SO USE THE MONEY....IF YOU DIED TODAY SOMEONE WILL USE IT FOR YOU !!

PS YOU BABY'S DAD CAN ALSO PUT SOME MONEY AWAY FOR HER YOU ARE ALREADY TAKING CARE OF MOST OF THE RESPONSIBILITY! HE NEEDS TO GIVE YOU MORE!

HAVE A GOOD DAY...

Answer 2

It would be unethical to take the money out of the account for your daughter, but you do need to be able to see. This wonderful man you are going to marry should certainly take care of that for you rather than you have to take away what is your little girl's. Ask him first. Think. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, and your baby's father took your hard earned money to pay for a cell phone and contacts instead of using it for your daughter? Also, your right to receive your daughter's support should be taken away and be given to a payee if you decide to use it to pay for your honeymoon. Someone needs to look out for this child's best interest, and if this man can not pay for a honeymoon, and would take that money from your child, he should not be a part of your child's life. It sounds like you could use some help if you are having to even think about making these choices, so please contact your local Lion's Club representative. They will be happy to pay for your glasses. Contacts are considered a luxury item, and not necessary, so you may have to make the hard choices moms have to make from time to time and wear glasses until you can afford to buy contacts again.

Answer 3

The potential problem with using that money is...you DO have $180 saved up. If your ex found out you were using your daughter's money for your medical expenses when you have a savings of your own (your honeymoon savings) He could potentially take you to court over it. He's paying child support, not alimony. If you didn't have this money saved up, you could argue that it's necessary for you to use hers so that you can work and provide for your daughter. But the courts WILL looks at the fact that you have money of your own and you chose to use child support money instead. Might not be real fair, but it's a fact of life.

I would strongly advise looking into higher education or you will end up stuck in a cycle of poverty and inadequate health care forever. There are plenty of grants, scholarships and student loans that are offered and affordable to people that don't have a lot of money.

Answer 4

Completely Wrong!!!!!! You shouldn't touch her account. You're only considering it because there's no one to stop you. Truth is... that money never really finds its way back into the account. You'll always have something else come up. Just pretend that account doesn't exist, and make do some other way.
What would you have done if that money wasn't available?
I think it's wrong. I would never, ever dip into my son's account... not even with the best of intentions, and certainly not to get a new phone!

Answer 5

First if you are putting all the child support in the savings account and still providing all of your daughters needs then by all means use what you need to. I know many will disagree but child support is for anything to pertain to the child rent, utilities, clothes, medicine, etc. You are being considerate to your daughter to establish an account for her as most parents recieving support don't but go with your gut n this one and what you can live with.

Answer 6

You're getting married on my birthday! Anyways, how old is your daughter? If she's old enough to ask, ask her if it's okay. If she's not, she'll never know. Get your eyes checked! I have been in a situation like this, so I know what you're going through. As long as you aren't using her money for stupid things, I think that it's okay to use the money in her savings account.

Answer 7

dude dont use ur daughters money in a few more years she will be able to go to college get a good job and buy u anything u need man

Answer 8

that's your DAUGHTER's money. You should NOT use it for your honeymoon. Does it seem okay for your ex to pay for your honeymoon? I didn't think so.

Answer 9

my mom borrows money from me all the time and i understandwhyso i dont think your daughter would mind to much

Answer 10

your intentions seem good.. I would find someone to be accountable to to make sure it goes back and dont make it a habit... it'd be kinda like a credit card then and before you know it it would be gone.