I want to know why when your faced with a tough decision, how do you know what to really go with??

Question

I am faced with the decision of staying in Scotland longer or booking a flight for a whole month before I am scheduled to actually leave. I don't want my aunt to be mad at me, which she says that she won't, but I know deep down that she will be if I leave before I am scheduled..

Answer 1

you should do what your heart wants.

Answer 2

You put both "how" and "why" in that question in such a way that I am confused. The details don't help much. Let's see: you are in Scotland, staying with your aunt? And you need to choose between leaving when you were scheduled to leave or a whole month early? Your aunt says she doesn't mind, but you are unwilling to take her at her word, right? Have I got the basic facts?

OK, you know why you are contemplating leaving early, but we don't. Does your aunt know? Is that why she is saying it's OK, because she acknowledges that your reason for wanting to leave early is a good one? Talk it over with her, not only on the "does she mind," but what is her advice. She's your aunt, presumably older than you, and probably can help you to decide what to do.

Why do I get the feeling there's a man in this somewhere?

Answer 3

You know what? You answered your own question. You state that you don't want your aunt to be mad, then don't make her mad! She must not get to see you, or spend time with you very often, so why hurt her feelings? One thing for sure is; she won't be mad, but she WILL be hurt. Sometimes in life we need to give just a little, and not be so selfish when it comes to the people that love us. Many regrets are avoided in life, if you just take the time to stop and smell the roses. Besides, this will make you feel so much better, and it will show your auntie that you really do care about her. Tell her your decision, and watch her face light up. Now, isn't that worth it all?

Answer 4

Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it. On one side of the line, write the pros of staying in Scotland. On the other side of the paper, write the cons of staying in Scotland. Then pick the reasons that are of the most importance. This should give you an idea if this is a logical decision. If you start feeling emotional about this, then you know how you really feel in your gut will probably win out. Is this a big decision or a small one anyway? Sometimes its not best to over analyse everthing.

Answer 5

If you want to stay, go ahead and stay. If you want to leave, find a way to politely bow out early. You can do so with a little white lie if you have to, like school concerns or a job situation.

Understand that when it comes to family, you have more restraints. My aunt is our oldest living relative. My parents and many of my other relatives are no longer around to visit, call, or send family pictures.

Is the decision one you'll regret? Me personally, I'd love a month in Scotland! The five days I was blessed with visiting the country were too short, IMHO. I wish I'd had more time. Spending time with family has become near impossible in recent years. I envy your opportunity.

Answer 6

Ya'll Need Some Airplanes (A Month Hell Catch A Boat?)WTF I Would Feel Trapped,A Hangglider,Jet Ski,That Really Is The Old Country Isn't It..Good Luck

Answer 7

use your head as well as your heart. make sure you take her feelings into careful consideration while keeping your best interests in mind. either way, remember that someone's always going to be left feeling a litle burned in a situation like this, so try to ease the feeling by talking with your aunt before you make your decision.

good luck.
:)

ps. come on guys-how many pros and cons could there possibly be?! her list would be two points long;
pros: get to leave, will be happy.
cons: aunt will not be happy.

sheez.

Answer 8

What do you want to do? If you want to stay then stay longer. Being overly concerned about someonel's feelings or reactions causes confusion and stress. Live for yourself. It's very sweet that you are concerned about your aunt's feelings, but those are her feelings, all hers not yours. You can be sensative about others around you with out selling out to what you really want.

You only live once, live with no regrets and do what you want, cause only you have to live with the final decision. Write if you need some more help!

Take care!

Answer 9

Why do you want to leave. Tell her you miss home and would like to stay longer, but you really want to go back. Let her know that you appreciate her hospitality and that you want to visit again or have her visit you. If she says she won't be mad then do what you want. She shouldn't be lying about it.

Answer 10

Trust your gut. If your aunt will be mad, but get over it and you want to leave, then go. If you know your aunt will be mad for a long time, then decide what is more important.

Answer 11

when faced with a tough decision, I usually talk to people that I trust their opinion and then form my decision based on what the majority of the people said. That usually works for me.