I was asked out by a guy who only wants to meet over coffee. I know a woman who went out with him once and she says he pulled out a wad of bills in front of her. Once I heard this, I told him that going out for a cup of coffee feels too much like a job interview. Why would a guy be so cheap if he's trying to impress a woman? I don't get it.
2006-08-06 12:31:57 · 31 answers · asked by coorissee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is cheap. Any guy who cant spring for a dinner somewhere to get to know you, is not worth your time.
2006-08-06 12:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd much rather meet someone over coffee than have a full blown date with him if it's the first time we've met on a social basis. Coffee can be cut short if it's not working out while a date can seem to drag on. And let face it, sometimes a relationship feels more like a job! It takes work too. Sounds like you're more worried about his wallet then the quality of time you could spend with him.
2006-08-06 19:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going for a cup of coffee is less committed then dinner or movie.
I guess like an interview for both, prelude to a real date.
Also, he may think he can impress you with a wad of bills while having no intention of parting with any.
2006-08-06 19:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by astroservus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you guys already know each other, he shouldn't be trying to impress you yet. He should be trying to find out if he wants to know you better (while treating you with the utmost courtesy and respect.)
Coffee is less of a commitment than dinner. Haven't ya' ever committed to a dinner or something and wished you hadn't when it turned out to be a long boring evening with someone you wanted to get away from?
Go to coffee. See if he impresses you with things besides his wallet. If you guys hit it off then expect him to ask for more than coffee next time. If he shows thoughtfulness in planning the dates, but doesn't spend much money he is economizing. Misers are not just tight with money, dig? They are tight with their time, their affection, everything.
If you want someone to spend a lot of money on you, not just out of respect, but because you desire it, and this guy isn't your guy, there are plenty of big spenders out there. No need to be mis-matched.
In the meantime, enjoy the wonderful, wacky world of dating, American style!
2006-08-06 19:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this has to do with being cheap. Meeting for coffee isn't as much pressure as meeting for dinner. It sounds to me as if he wants you both to have a chance to check each other out first. Besides, the guy may just have a busy schedule right now. I wouldn't let this put me off if I were interested and attracted to him.
2006-08-06 19:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by telaine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to meet people for coffee and chat.
Its a relaxed atmosphere and if things go well then we may leave there and do dinner or whatever. I do not believe I am a cheap skate. I just prefer a relaxed settting for the two of us untill we get to know each other better.
2006-08-06 19:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People meet for coffee when they don't know each other well in case they don't really have anything to talk about and it gets awkward or there's no chemistry thing happening. Meeting for coffee takes as long (or short) as you want it to; going out to dinner takes a while... I'm sure if he likes you, next date will be dinner :)
2006-08-06 19:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to go out for a cup of coffee the first time you get together. After that it should be a regular date. Maybe he wanted to see what kind of person you are before he actually asked you out. If so, I think you flunked.
2006-08-06 19:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should be spend all this money? Atleast hes smart. If he takes someone to a fancy place, and just a little bit of time, they will be married. For his money.
He his playing very well. He might just be cheap. Saving his money for a bigger investment. I mean, this is just a date, he probably has been on many dates. And none of them ended in marriage or a good relationship, so what makes him think this one will?
If he does, atleast he knows its not fully based on his money.
Either way. Coffee is good. Your, by wanting him to spend more money on you, are being nothing but a gold digger.
Shame on you. : [
2006-08-06 19:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda the same way I hate spending money on things that aren't what I want or absolutly need. I just sold a business and will never have to work again if I don't blow it on stupid stuff. I am in my 30's and just have a future goal. I own my home and all that stuff its not like i dont spend money (My house is 7200 sq ft) I have about 10 cars all the time and none are under 40k just what do i want to spend it on. So give him a shot he might make your dreams come true.
2006-08-06 19:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high class or rich folks tend to start with three of four dates over coffee, progreeing to dinner and maybe the theatre.
of course he may just be testing to see if you are looking for a guy. or a rich guy. so you may have blown your chances if you said what you did. as he could percieve that as gold digging.
some guys are strange like that.
so if you like the guy humor him, and date in cafes at first there you can talk freely about getting to know each other. the dates should progress in expense the more he gets to know you. so be patient or dump him and move on.
2006-08-06 19:39:51 · answer #11 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋