I worry about when my boyfriend looks at other girls bc he always tells me what is wrong with me and that im fat and stuff. Im 5'7'' and i weigh 120 and i never thought of myself as fat and ugly before....help? why does he try to hurt me but then tells me that he loves me and he just wanted to make me mad?
2006-08-06 12:23:13 · 16 answers · asked by Kale<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your bf disrespects your person, and knows that he can do almost anything and get away with it. when someone tries to purposely hurt you, he isn't really caring for you. i'm 5'3 and 121lbs and i'm considered a stick....you are not fat. gain some self esteem, and care less with what he says or does. if you respect yourself, he will respect you more. if this doesn't not happen, you need to consider other ppl that will like you, respect you, and not demean you. not having him is not the end of the world. he doesn't treat you well.
2006-08-06 12:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered one of my ?'s so I'm returning the favor since I believe I can help out.
First off, don't take it personally, he's probably saying that because he believes you're too good for him. By him saying that he'll believe that he's bringing you down to his level and you won't look for another guy, when in reality you probably aren't if you care for him that much.
I used to have this problem, not by calling my g/f fat, because she's about the same as you 5'5" and about 112 (so pretty much the same) I'd just mess with her and make fun of her about little things like her accent (she's from KY) and stuff like that.
Finally, I realized that I should stop doing that, we have been together for around 2 years (off and on at times) but mostly together, and that she loves me for me, and I shouldn't need to put her down in any sort of way, I still jokingly will make fun of her when she says something silly or does something silly, but that keeps a relationship fresh I think.
I can tell you care for him, and he cares for you, just sit down with him and let him know that you're not looking for other guys, because you love him, and let him know that you expect the same back from him, because you love him for him, and it doesn't matter what else there is going on.
2006-08-06 20:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by WildBreak32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's calling you fat and ugly then he doesn't love you. You need a guy that respects you and loves you for who you are. I cant say your beautiful b/c I haven't seen you. But someone that actually loves you wont care what you look like.
He's trying to control you and make you feel bad so you'll listen to him. My suggestion is, dump him. But it's your own decision.
2006-08-06 19:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsam_goindumb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no1 can be 120lbs and be fat at the same time...u got 2 options dear,
1st: he loves u but he does not want to come across as desperate for u so he tries to play hard to get
2nd: he really finds u fat and ugly(how he finds u fat i have no idea) and prefer seeing other women to seeing u so dump him
good luck
2006-08-06 19:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
120? thats not fat at all, i bet u really do have a great body. why listen to him, dont u feel sexy? why let him tell u differently than what u felt b4 he told u this. If u know ur not fat, then believe it.
2006-08-06 19:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kurtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because he has low self-esteem himself. It's NOT you! It makes him feel better (than you) if he points out any negatives about you. If he truly loved you, he would not say ANYTHING that would hurt your feelings.
You deserve a decent guy. Send him packing before he makes you believe what he says and destroys your self-image!
~ Been there, done that ~
2006-08-06 19:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by MTJugg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres your first clue, if someone really loves you , they arent gonna put you down by saying things like that! that isnt love honey, go find you a real man, and not some mentally abusive dick-head. it will only get worse, i have seen it a million times
2006-08-06 19:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by s_peach23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy's a jerk, leave him for someone better than him and hope that he's not a jerk, in fact, tell the new guy the situation and maybe he'll not want to treat you that way ever anyway.
2006-08-06 19:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Topher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all UR DEFF NOT FAT!!!! im 5'1 and i weigh 105 punds and i think im fat but im short.. ok anyways back to ur probs....maybe u should recheck if this guy rly likes u....
2006-08-06 19:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by angelpinkgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont even waste your time, if he doesnt have respect for you and doesnt love your for the way you are, then scre*w him, if he thinks that you are fat and that you are not perfect enough for him then he doesnt love you.
2006-08-06 19:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋