He knows it gets on my nerves when when he refers to blacks with the n word. When I tell him it gets on my nerves he just gets mad. What should I tell him?
2006-08-06 12:16:40 · 11 answers · asked by Eric 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
lol...please dont listen to S.P,i really hate it too when my dad get prejudice about Indians and Asians even though hes married to one...my mom(asian) i cant stand it especially when he taks on the phone to indian telemarketers and goes like"excuse me,are you from India?",gosh! it really wana make me take out my ear drums seriously.....
2006-08-06 15:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by ♥D@t_bLaSiaN♥ 5 · 14⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my parents. I stopped them by leaving the room and immediately ending the conversation whenever they used that word. I didn't make a big issue - just left the room as if to get a glass of water - go to the restroom etc. After a few times of leaving them in mid-sentence they got the message in an nonthreatening way. Please keep in mind - especially if your parents are older - this may be a habit they have trouble changing. Be patient because old habits die hard. If this doesn't work - you must take a stand - especially if you have young children. You do have a right to request they watch their vocabulary in the presence of your child.
2006-08-06 19:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could politely tell him that you are not willing to be in a conversation if someone is going to use what you find as offensive language, and if he does it you won't fight with him but you will walk away from the converstion. You can ask him to at least respect that much of your values.
If that doesn't work you have to decide to just ignore such ignorance and let him wallow in it or else to tell him since you and he don't agree on this particular matter neither of you should talk about it while you're together.
You can try to ask him to just respect your wishes on this particular matter, but if he won't you just have to - in your mind - write him off as hopeless and not respectful of you and as a bigot. You may choose to love him in spite of it and for other things he is, but there's a point where you have to see this part of him for what it is and just write it off as ignorance.
2006-08-06 19:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that you look up your family tree and his grand grand grand grandmother was black and say i gust that make you a N THEN 2 NO for real dont give him the time of day on that some people live for other to disagree you know and i know that people are people no matter what there color is
2006-08-06 19:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by ****** * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you tell him this is 2006, and everyone should be created equally. Ask him why does he dislike blacks so much. We make our own money, we work, we have degress too. He would not like to be called a honky or cracker. Tell him to put the shoe on the other foot.
2006-08-06 19:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Chocklategurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, except remind him of the true meaning of the word, its used toward black people, but not the difenition. tell him that if hes gonna insist on using the word, than the least he could so it look it up in the dictionary so that he will know to whom it should really be applied! then run way out of arms reach!
2006-08-06 19:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by s_peach23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem but with my step-dad and there is no way to get him to stop,you just have to ignore it. Maybe if you write him a letter and put it under his door it'll get him thinking. Put all your feelings into it and tell him it upsets you and it's embarrassing sometimes. Otherwise he has alot of years over you to have decided his reasons.
2006-08-06 20:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by blondearies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't be able to change his view, so i would not even discuss it with him. you have your own views, so be proud of that, but its not worth causing a rift between you. he lived a different life than you, and you have to respect that they weren't taught equality in that era, it was the exception rather than the norm. my dad was the same way, but we never talk about that, but he is still a very intelligent man that i have th utmost respect for. he doesnt do anything against other people and has had some enlightenment. your dad will have to learn for himself.
2006-08-06 19:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by bonbon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dad times have changed i know when you were a boy the n word was used to describe some people but we all have to get along and we all need each other so please cool it around me i love you but it hurts when you say these things.
2006-08-06 19:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and continue to NOT be like him. Some people are just ignorant when it comes to others, usually because they don't understand them or feel intimidated by them.
2006-08-06 19:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋