I am dating this guy for 8 months, and I know all about his pst and he of mine.a month and a half ago he told me he had a baby with this bi polar woman.she has 3 children from 3 diff dads..well I know all about her.and feel for the baby, at times I get so pissed when I think how stupid my boyfriend was not to use a condom with this woman. He is a resposible dad, but she is giving him a hard time with the visits, its only to be in her apt which is filthy, my boyfriend has a court date this week fo have schedule visitations court ordered,, INow that he has a clean conscious he says he can sleep better now that he has told me his dilema, but I have this sadness and anger when I think of her and him.he is a hardworking guy and just got caought about with a maniac I don't know what she looks like, the only thing I know is she lives down the shore and is black..I am not prejuidce I would love another child in my life. now know where she lives.I want to see her but not tell my guy..curious
2006-08-06 11:50:04 · 16 answers · asked by reina l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok...I may have insulted a few when I said she was bi-polar,sorry.The woman is trifling she uses these guys for their child support, she can't hold onto a job because she is rude, and doesn't want to work, but party every nght, She gives my guy a hard time that he has to leave early from his visit, and she screams and curses around these kids..I told my guy that I would love the little baby to spend time with us, but she doesn't want him to tak the baby out of the apt nor visit his family, they've only seen the baby once...she seems to be scared to let go..she is using the baby, but my guy will be going to court and he will tell the judge everything. when she is upset she tells him he sohould give up his parental rights..she goes from hot to cold, my guy has been cutting his visits short for this very reason. I feel trapped and angry at her and then I want to tell him how stupid he was!!! and I want to break kup with him, I feel hurt & confused, then I love him he needs me
2006-08-06 12:55:15 · update #1
What a tough situation to be in. I'd say don't go and see what she looks like. It would just make a bad situation worse.
I can understand your unhappiness when you think about the situation. If I were in that situation, it would feel almost as if he were cheating on me, not because he's actually cheating on me, but because that child is an ongoing reminder of the relationship he used to have with that other woman (making it seem like he could never leave his past behind him and have a future with me.) But if your man really is committed to being with you and not running off to be with his ex, then support him and don't dump him. It was a big thing for him to tell you about the child, and to toss him out on his ear would be more than just a little devastating for him. Be there for him. He sounds like a strong person, but even strong people need a shoulder to lean on or a pair of arms to rest in. Just make sure he won't be taking advantage of you, though from how you described him I doubt he will be. I hope things get better for you and him, and you can start feeling happier.
2006-08-06 12:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why stress yourself out? I really don't think seeing what she looks like is going to make you feel anymore comfortable with the situation. If your man is being responsible, then let it be. Otherwise she might go crazy on you. To be with him your going to have to share the consequences of his actions, I understand you want to be more involed the situatio9n, but I think there is somthig else that's bothering you about this situation
2006-08-06 12:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why she aint ya business n what is her being bipolar have to do with anything? i am bipolar i dont beat my kids, im not mean to them, my kids have everything they want n more. all u know is what he has told u and that is it, why r u so sure he is tellin u the truth? u dont know what happened between them. except what he told u. ppl like u make me angry, u get the mans side n not the womans side like he will tell u the truth.get real n dont talk crap about bipolar ppl u got no damn idea what it consist of. u want to know about it ill tell u just email me.
2006-08-06 11:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your curiosity is taking the better of you, then I think you should discuss this with your boyfriend and tell him you'd like to know what she looks like. I'm sure he'd understand why you would be curious to know more about the mother of his child.
2006-08-06 11:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dr_G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Let your guy know about this, don't go sneaking behind his back. If you two are in a serious relationship and you're thinking that this child might be part of your future, let your guy know how you feel, and arrange it with him.
2006-08-06 11:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go stalking the house or anything, but just ask him if he has any pictures. Tell him you're curious what she and the baby look like.
2006-08-06 12:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Margie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even dating this guy. What if you were one of them kids and your dad goes oout with didfferent women. He doesn't even deserve to be a father. Think bout' it. He may be CHEATING ON YOU
2006-08-06 11:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt know what you look like just go see her. I wouldnt tell your boyfriend immediately. Maybe tell him a couple of months later.
2006-08-06 11:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up already! She is an ex and yes they have a child together but it has NOTHING to do with you at all. This is his fight and let him fight it. Getting involved will only blow up in your face.
2006-08-06 11:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad for you to be curious about what she looks like. I think that you should go for it. And who cares if you boyfriend finds out its not like you did anything bad.
2006-08-06 11:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by alyssa k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋