because my family and friend think it is rude of me to ask them not to use that kind of talk. in front of my little one.
just afraid he will think it ok to use it when he gets older
please no rude comments thanks
2006-08-06 11:31:04 · 39 answers · asked by ~*big mama *~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
it's your right as a parent, and if they can't understand that, then they don't need to be invited over anymore. you can control that behavior in your home! Now, if you go to their house, you have little recourse because they have sway in their homes. My mother used to tell my brother and I that such language was the sign of a limited vocabulary and wouldn't get us far in polite society. If your child hears it, make sure to let them know that the words are unacceptable. But at the same time, that it doesn't mean that the people are unacceptable (they are still family and friends after all), just unaware of how hurtful they are being.
2006-08-06 11:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is completely reasonable to ask them not to use racist words or comments or any other words that you do not want your child to hear. It is your child. Stand by your decision though. If you tell them not to and they still do ask them to leave your home or you leave their home whatever the case maybe. Just tell them you have to cut the visit short b/c they did not respect your wishes. I went through this with parts of my family b/c my husband is black and my son is mixed. Older members of my family have problems with this so on holidays when we see those people these rules apply. I will not have my son or husband in a situation where they feel uncomfortable.
2006-08-07 05:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is OK, you have every right to insist that they refrain from using raciest words or comments in front of your children. It is rude of them not the respect your wishes.
I am from California and moved to Tennessee 2 years ago, and can't believe how freely people use raciest comments out here.
2006-08-06 11:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Connie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame you cannot change your family, as they are the rudest to say that kind of things period let alone in front of the children and have the cheek to have the sort of attitude to perhaps call you rude if you dont want your child to hear or be influenced by that kind of garbage. You have every right to protest and if I were you I would tell them so and let them think what they wanna think of you, as you need to think about your child and his/her future. You dont want him to be picked on at school or be withdrawn and anti-social, let alone the danger he/she might face repeating those kind of comments. You dont want your child to be bullied at school or anywhere else. You are simply protecting your child as he is a child and not clever and grown up like your family shouting their mouth off in their own house, but I wonder if they would have the guts to repeat their comments in front of a big black guy who might crush every bone in their body. But your baby wouldnt know any better and he/she might think that is alright to say nasty things like that in front of others. Protect your child even if it means less socialisation with sick minds. Hope that helped.
2006-08-06 11:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by one_faithful_mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly fine to ask them. If it's in your home tell them to come back when they learn to respect your rules or wishes. If you're in their home, then some might take it as rude since you brought the baby with you into their house. It's then up to you to get up and leave when they talk that way. Teach him your own beliefs and rules about racism as he grows up, even to accept racists lol can't have him racist against them. Sort of defeats the purpose.
2006-08-06 12:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Inked Fantasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very much ok. I had the same problem and some of my family was very upset when i asked them not to use racial slurs in front of my children but the only way we will ever end racisim is if we teach our children not to be racist. which is what you are doing but asking ppl not to use their slurs around your child. It is your responsibility to raise your child right and you are in the right to tell these ppl how you feel best of luck and good job
2006-08-06 11:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by shedevilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, 100% O.K.!! If they can speak their mind so can you!!! I have to do this constantly with my own husband, and family. When they get oder, I mean like 18, they can say whatever they like. Until then, I expect them to respectful of others, as well as me, and theirselves. Profanity, and racial comments should be kept out of listening range of little ones. I have heard 4 to 10yr olds using bad lanuguage, and and it's appauling to me. Everybody has their own opinion though, and it sounds like you needed a little backing. It's important to set standards for your children and using comments of any kind that degrade or cause harm, are not approprate. They'll do enough of that when they get older, unfortunately, we can't always be there to remind them how to behave. If you tell your children (if they are old enough to understand) that it's not nice, and you won't allow it, they should mind you. Please, stand up for yourself, and especially for your children. They need to have a little more respect not jsut for you and your children, but for all children. Hope all goes well with you, God bless!
2006-08-06 14:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by G.D.Bradberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for being a good parent. Using racist words around a baby is not a good thing to do, its like using the foulest swear words. Racism is a blight against the human race, we all have to struggle against it and you are doing a fine thing in keeping your baby from becoming accustomed to those words.
2006-08-06 11:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's all right. Racist comments aren't okay at all, and your child needs to grow up knowing that, regardless of what your friends and family say. You have every right to ask them.
If they refuse, then simply refuse for your baby to spend any time with them. Typically, they'll agree once you tell them that.
2006-08-06 11:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!! My son is only 8 months old, and I already tell people to not use bad or racist(sp?) language around him. If they refuse, we get up and leave. If they ask why tell them that you don't want your child around people who use such bad language. We do that, and people watch their mouths if they want to see my son. Remember, you're the one that has to parent the child, so you get to make up the rules. But congrats on standing up to this sort of thing. It totally blows my mind when I hear a 2 year old running around saying the "n" word, and his parents laughing at him. What is this world coming to?
2006-08-06 12:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋