How do I know if my boyfriend even likes me?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now and it doesn't seem like he cares. He fights with me alot over stupid things-and he tells me other girls are hott and I see him check girls out all the time. What should I do?

Answer 1

Find a new boyfriend.

Answer 2

Perhaps you should look at this relationship in a different way. I would recommend that you try to determine if you are with your “ideal mate”. I realize that it is possible that you might be too young to be in a marriage type relationship but it is never too early to learn how to be picky in the right ways for finding the right guy for you. If you learn early, you might save yourself a lot of heartache.

You said that you have been with him for over two years now. This is plenty of time to know all that you need to know about him. I am recommending that you make 2 lists. The first list is all of his positive qualities (it doesn’t matter if they are superficial or really strong qualities. These are the things that you love and appreciate about him.) and the second list is all of his negative qualities (again, it doesn’t matter if they are superficial or really strong qualities. These are the things which upset you and get on your nerves - petty or not.) Be open and honest with yourself about each quality whether it is positive or negative.

Once you have completed you lists, say each quality in the phrase: My ideal mate (or boyfriend) is a man who ___________.

Your positive list might look like this:
My ideal mate is a man who frequently compliments me.
My ideal mate is a man who shows affection to me.
My ideal mate is a man who is proud to be with me.
My ideal mate is a man who is very handsome.
My ideal mate is a man who can communicate with me openly and honestly.

Your negative list might look like this:
My ideal mate is a man who does not respect me or my feelings.
My ideal mate is a man who does not openly communicate with me.
My ideal mate is a man who is abusive to me (Physically, Emotionally or Sexually).
My ideal mate is a man who likes to argue with me too much.
My ideal mate is a man who is dishonest.

Once you have your lists completed, you will have to determine if the things you placed on you positive list outweigh your negative list. You will have to determine if any of the qualities on you negative list just sound too ridiculous to be a quality you want in an ideal mate.

After you evaluate your lists, you will now if he is your ideal mate or not. If he is, talk with him and try to address the issues which upset you. If he is not, show him the door so you can improve your life and find your ideal mate. Just don't sell yourself short. Move out of your comfort zone with him and look for the your true ideal mate (or boyfriend) - a man who meets your needs with little baggage.

Good luck and all the best to you!

Answer 3

Time to move on to a better, more respectful man. Your bf seems like an a_ _hole. The sooner you move on the happier you'll be. He's obviously not the man for you because if he was he wouldn't check out other girls and tell you how hot they are.

Answer 4

hes yr boyfriend and to become a partner you have to like each other. sometimes down the line when the honey moon is over, as the saying goes, we lose interest in our partners. if you dont keep things exciting in a relationship it can fall apart and the guys usually wonder. this article has more on relationship issues that will help you out

Answer 5

realize now you are more important that any man in your life. a man that really cares you wouldn't have to question. you'd feel it with everything in you. checking out other girls is human but if it makes u uncomfortable it's obvious he doesn't care or he wouldn't tell you about it. run for the hills hun : o )

Answer 6

I thank he likes you but he may not be as mature as you are. Boys grow up a little slower then girls. So if you like him be patient he will change. your probably not at the age to get in to big of a hurry anyway.

Answer 7

If you can't tell if he likes you after two years, its two years too long. Everyone deserves to be loved and be beloved. Get out of that dud relationship.

Answer 8

Break up with him.He probably doesn't like you or care about you.If you keep dating him,he might end up as your husband and then you'll have a miserable life.

Answer 9

Have you considered making a change? Doesn't sound like a "boyfriend" at all, dear.

Answer 10

well its a guys nature to check girls you cant make them stop. but if he fights with girl you need make that stop or leave him!!!