when i was little, my brother seemed mad at me and blamed me for mom hitting him. i'm scared of him,but now his trying to love me. there are things that i can't forget. should i forgive him/
2006-08-06 11:04:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
U deserve to die after 5 years of bullshit.
2006-08-06 11:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Haytham 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is it wrong? No. You can be angry at your brother just like you can be angry at anyone else. But, that's not all there is to it. There are other questions to ask that might be more helpful.
It is useful or helpful to be angry at him? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Would you be happier if you and your brother had a more loving relationship?
Make peace with your brother. After you two can be civil with each other for a while, make friends with your brother. A good brother/sister relationship will last your whole life and will be a source of strength and solace for you.
It won't happen overnight. And, the two of you will need to make time to work on your relationship just like you would any other.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-06 11:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at it in terms of "right" or "wrong". You can't expect yourself to simply "stop" feeling this way; try to analyze your "gut feelings" and internal dialogues when it comes to the subject of your brother. You have justifiable reasons to feel angry towards him, and it's clear that some emotional scars still exist whether you want them to or not.
As children, we have to learn how to deal with extreme emotions in a healthy manor, but this process of growing up is often disrupted when parents are neglectful, or physically/emotionally abusive. Without a stable parent's guidance, children usually act out, and "inflict" these emotions upon their innocent loved ones. This isn't to excuse whatever happened between you & your brother, but to say that "kids will be kids".
I think you must find a way to confront your memories, be it with counseling or talking it over with him, but also realize that adults can be MUCH different from when they were children. Realistically evaluate the way your brother is NOW, and decide what you are and aren't comfortable with from there.
2006-08-06 11:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change from childhood when there was a lot of sibling rivalry. Maybe your brother has matured and is realizing how important family is. If you continue to hold a grudge and feed your hurt feeling, you are not only doing him an injustice but you are hurting yourself far more.
There comes a time to 'let go' of bitterness. If you find in the future he has ulterior motives then it will be time to move on but until then you owe it to both of you to try to heal the rift.
2006-08-06 11:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya you should he is your brother and if his mom hit him and he acted mad at you for it maybe he took a couple of blow for you so you wouldn't get them
sounds like your child hood was tough so was his out of it all something good could come of it you have a brother
as far as forgeting well you never will but you can get beyond the past
Its a coice you have to make
maybe some theropy could help you work through it all
2006-08-06 11:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that you're jelous of your brother. (hiya, I call em like I see em.) you look like you're jelous of all his success. Its unlike he's hurtin you or callin you names or nothin of that sort. he's there for you. perhaps you in easy words secretly want you've been an older toddler so as that your moms and dads can provide you with all of their time & interest. i imagine it truly is kinda selfish, actual. i imagine you want to reassess what you're doin the following. you're in easy words tremendous to him even as it will benefit you, (homework, and so on.) & incredibly, you're gonna be harm even as he's lengthy previous. even if you imagine you wont be, you'll. Cuz you in no way incredibly savor anythin till you do not have it anymore. Plus, i imagine it changed into incredibly thoughtless the way you instructed your chum tht she has 2 different brothers even as her brother died. lack of life is an particularly delicate sibject so in case you do not have anythin tremendous to say you need to only save your mouth close. i'm hoping you comprehend quickly the total modern-day of a sibling. because once you want him, you'll see why you need to be grateful for him. <33
2016-11-23 13:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by duzan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea just give him a chance, because life is toooooooo short 2 be hating someone, u know what i mean? and what kind of reasons did ya'll momma hit him 4 and blamed u 4 it?
2006-08-06 11:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by pretty baby gurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i do understand what happened long time ago, but the past is the past and he might be the only thing you have one day to turn Just remember he loves you and you should try to make things work
2006-08-06 11:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremiah M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU SHOULD FORGIVE AND LET GO MY BROTHER IS MY EVERYTHING AND WITHOUT HIM I WOULDNT BE THE PERSON I AM NOW AND HOW FAR IVE MADE IT THRU LIFE BECAUSE HE HELP ME WITH EVERYTHING AND THATS WHY I SAY YES GIVE HIM A CHANCE AT LEAST BECAUSE YA'LL WERE KIDS AND WHAT DO KIDS TO FIGHT SO THATS MY ADVICE GIVE HIM A CHANCE
2006-08-06 11:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by mocha27girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish i had the chance for my brother to love me.
He hasn't talked to me in almost 10 years and i don't know why.
I try talkin to him,go to his house but he won't respond.He is an alcoholic and he stays to himself.
2006-08-06 11:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋