My daughter has a very high pitched scream.She does this when she wants something or doesnt get her way.I have tried telling her I cant hear her because shes to loud and I have tried not giving her what she wants until she quits screaming but she still does this.I am at a loss for what to do please help my ears can not take anymore.
2006-08-06 11:03:46 · 9 answers · asked by nikki m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Be sure you model to her how to ask for stuff she wants. Use please and thank you with her when you ask her to do things.
When she gets loud or screams, continue to calmy remind her that you can't understand when she screams. Get down on her level and look into her eyes. Then tell her, "I can't understand that voice. Please ask me in a nice voice."
If she is having a fit over not getting her way, ignore her. "That behaviour will not get you what you want" or a simple "I said no" and then walk away as long as she is safe. If she does it in public and won't calm down with a warning, consider leaving wherever you are.....even in the middle of a shopping trip, whatever.
Work on teaching her the difference between "volume levels" when she's NOT upset. A "little mouse voice" and an "inside voice" and an "outside voice" and an "emergency voice" for example. Make a game of it maybe?
Be sure to give her the words for what she is feeling. "You look mad!" or "that sure made you angry" or "you must be very frustrated" are good phrases for you to use. If she can learn the words to use to describe what she feels, hopefully she won't feel like she needs so much volume! :-)
Help her develop ways to calm down when she gets upset. Take her in your lap chest to chest with you and hold her close. Take exaggerated deep breaths in as you rub her back and encourage HER to breathe deeply. Talk about blowing all the bad feelings out like blowing out birthday candles or blowing bubbles.
Try whispering when you talk if she is yelling. She'll have to quiet down in order to hear what you're saying. This works really well for some people that I know.
2006-08-06 11:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i hear you...my daughter's got quite a set of mariah carey lungs on her, too...what i do is when i'm home, if she screams, i'll shhhh her...if she doesn't quiet down, then i simply pick her up and take her to her room...i place her in her crib (she's 1 1/2) and tell her that when she's done screaming that i'll come back for her...it usually takes 5-10 min. and she's dead silent and in a wonderful mood...
if i'm out in public, i will try to shhh her first...depending on the kind of scream it is, usually it's of boredom...i always take some kind of candy that involves sucking...something like a smartie or twizzler or tootsie roll...that distracts her from screaming...
if it's an anger scream, usually all i have to do is shhh her and she quiets down in public...
the thing about kids is, whatever you do at home to discipline them makes it easier for having to discipline in public...if your daughter knows that she can't get away with it at home, she's less likely to try it out in public...b/c she knows it's mommy that won't let her get away with it...
when you go out in public, try to make sure she's well rested and if you have to, you take her to the bathroom or somewhere private to discipline her or just simply distract her...at a store like walmart, there's all kinds of interesting things that will catch her attention...have her help you pick fruit out or push the cart or hold something for you...you'll find that what she really wants is attention and if you give her positive attention that's not so much giving her her way, rather something new to do, then you'll find it much easier when you go out...
otherwise, at home...it's the room and you'll find that she'll get bored of hearing herself scream...
2006-08-06 11:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by tigrisow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a better form of discipline, screaming because she doesn't get what she wants is definitely attention seeking. Rough road ahead for you if you don't nip it in the bud now cuz it's only going to get worse as she gets older.
2006-08-06 11:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by funrdhdpeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to wait a LONG time for her to stop screaming but DON'T GIVE IN!!! NOT EVER. And above all, if possible, completely ignore her until she stops throwing a tantrum (if she's safe of course).
2006-08-06 11:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by shadhag42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screaming shouldn't get her anything but sent to her room, time out, or a spanking (your choice). If she screams for a snack or a tot, take it away completely. Explain to her that she needs to ask nicely or she won't get anything.
2006-08-06 11:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRMLY TELL HER THAT YELLING IS NOT THE WAY TO GET THINGS SHE WANTS...TAKE HER IN HER BEDROOM LAY HER IN HER BED SHUT THE DOOR AND JSUT GO SIT ON YOUR PORCH...WHEN SHE QUITES DOWN LET HER OUT OF HER ROOM BUT DONT LET HER HAVE WHATEVER IT WAS SHE WAS SCREAMING ABOUT....EXPLAIN TO HER TAHT SHE CHOSE TO SCREAM SO SHE WILL NOT BE REWAREDED FOR THIS
2006-08-06 11:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy ear muffs and let her know that screaming wont get her anything. tell her that asking politely will usually do the job
2006-08-06 11:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
benadryl
2006-08-06 13:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by roezbuddz77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called sexual abuse
2006-08-06 11:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by I Hate Keep getting suspended... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋