i need serous help on my feelings.?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 7 months
I thought that he was the one for me and i thought it was ment to be
but for a while ive been feeling like i want to be by myself
or want to find someone else.
So i broke it off so i could get some space for a little while
and when im without him, i feel like i want him
and i cant be alone, but i also have feelings for someone else
ive known for a while, they both have qualities i like and dont
right now i just feel that i want to take a break from boys
but whenever i try and cut it off, he starts crying
and keeps talking to me about us, and i cant stand it
i need to be by myself but at the same time
i feel depressed and bored anyone get like this
or have any advice please

also
im 17
im young
i want to be able to party
and not feel so trapped down you know not at this age

Answer 1

Listen to YOURSELF, NOT THE BOYS!!!!

If you want something, GO AND GET IT!!!

Don't let a BOY get in YOUR WAY!!!

I'd wis you luck, but you don't need it

Answer 2

I know how you are feeling. You need to be alone. You'll feel strange, alone, depressed for a while, but it will pass and you'll feel happier than ever afterwards. I've been through what you're feeling a few times. The relationship you've been in has made you weak. That's why you need to be alone to get strong in yourself again, then you will be ready to make these relationship decisions better. Don't worry about the bad feelings, it's just part of life (good and bad), they will pass if you are patient and do the right thing.

Answer 3

I went through very close to the same thing last year... and I'm not going to lie it is very hard! But what you really need to do is be honest with yourself...if you are having feelings for another guy or just wanting to be single for a while, then the guy you were with is not the one for you. If he's crying and begging you to stay, he is not thinking of you, he's only thinking of himself. If he loves you and respects you then he will be ok with the fact that you need a break and if he wants to wait, he will. But the best thing to do (and I know it seems impossible) is to not answer his calls and not initiate any to him because talking to him is only going to make it harder. Give yourself at least two weeks completely away from him, no phone calls or anything and you will know what you want by the end of those two weeks. (trust me!) Just push through it and everything will work out! Remember though, when you get bored or depressed calling your ex is not the answer! Maybe call your best friend...I know its not the same but it helps...Good luck!

Answer 4

You aren't unusual in feeling depressed and wanting to jump out of your skin when you're suddenly alone at the end of a relationship. You are experiencing what psychologists call "a loss of sense of self." Having defined yourself as one half of a "couple", you must now refamiliarize yourself with you, and recalibrate your sense of completeness alone, without anyone.
The best way to do that is to meditate. Take a class in transcendental meditation, or some form of buddhist meditation...whatever. Meditation is like slipping into a hot bath. It is like a big aahhhhhhhhhhh...... It is the most intensely personal experience you will ever have. It is also the most liberating in that you will no longer be afraid to be alone. Imagine turning your greatest weakness (being alone before learning to meditate) into your greatest strength (being alone to meditate).
It will transform your life. You are living like a slave to your emotions right now. It is because you cannot be alone. Once you learn to be alone in meditation, you will crave being alone, and you will resent anyone distracting you from your time with yourself. And on a romantic level, you will naturally attract more emotionally mature men. Forget being in relationship right now.
You have a lot of self-exploration to do and relationships only hinder that process.
Quit filling the void with boys. The void will be filled by meditation or you finding God, but not by these disempowering relationships with guys. Once the void is filled, you will experience yourself as the captain of your own ship, and not a slave to your feelings.
Take care.

Answer 5

I know how you feel..I really do. I had to break off a five year relationship because I knew in my heart he wasn't what I needed..and it was the hardest thing I ever did. It left a void in my life and I missed him terribly. There were things about him I truly loved...and things about him that were "issues"...ones I couldn't ignore (and not from lack of trying). I had a real hard time reconciling my feelings for him and my awareness that I was still doing the right thing. So do what is best for you in the moment. We can only base our choices on what we know at the time. I still believe it will lead to something better in time.

Answer 6

Tell him you need some space from him. Ask him to stop calling you or coming over to your house for a while while you sort out what you want to do with your life. Let him know that you will call him if and when you are ready to resume your relationship and tell him to start dating other women. Tell him he is a cry baby and it makes you see him as a weak individual and that you need a strong man.

Answer 7

its ok to feel like that see i had this attitude with men f*** them all because i was made at one and took it out on all sounds like to me you want to be free for a while and you cant keep going back and forth with these men because they will get the wrong impression so if the cry so get over it so for you and care about you first and when it comes to the next whether its just for sex company or whatever let them know up front because now whats understood dont need to be spoken

Answer 8

Sounds like you just need some time alone for a while. You could just tell him you need some alone time to think about the two of you.

Answer 9

You're only 17, stop stressin and live your life. Make is understood with anyone you were with and anyone you might meet, that you don't want anything serious. You're just looking for fun. The guy will get over I promise.

Answer 10

Just stand up and be firm. Tell him you just want some free time. You are feeling a little to crowded. If he starts crying, then be firm again and tell him its time you grow up and stop it now.

Answer 11

Run for the hills!
Seriously, if you can, get away for a holiday for as long as you can. Better still, go travelling for a while.
Good luck.