My man seems to think that it as tradition just that woman dont find out. Please prove him wrong.
2006-08-06 10:41:22 · 74 answers · asked by Laura C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If the man really loves you he wont do it. It is not tradition among honest men, just among the ones who shouldnt be getting married in the first place.
2006-08-06 10:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The tradition is to have strippers but not to sleep with them or any other woman at the party. I feel that you do not need to have a bachelor party if you have already been with other women in your lifetime. The purpose of the original bachelor party was for men to have fun with other women before committing to just one. Many people put so much time and energy into a party. Just go out with your girls or the guys and have a night out on the town. It will cost less to go to a club then have a party with strippers and liquor. Also, how would he feel if you were sleeping with a stripper at your party or the bell boy in the hotel. No one should be sleeping with anyone at any party. Save all that energy for the honeymoon.
2006-08-12 19:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by nygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible! I really hope your fiance understands how serious this commitment is. Not to be presumptuous, but I think he may just think cheating after marriage is okay as long as you don't find out. Talk to him seriously and let him know it's very hurtful to consider that he would do this. You are going to be his bride and the queen of his life and that is so disrespectful that he thinks he should be allowed to mess around with other women before the wedding. Personally, I have standards of the kind of person I would spend my life with, and a man who thinks it's cool to have strippers at his bachelor party is a man I would never marry. Remember-YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW THEY ARE ALLOWED TO TREAT YOU!! You better start now girl! It's also very much an 80's thing to have strippers at a bachelor party. A loving, respecting fiance will have no trouble understanding why this would kill you. Suggest golfing, or fishing or something other than a shady bar night!! Step up honey!!!
2006-08-06 12:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda Loo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are getting married, I suggest re-think it if he is having a "stag night" and thinks it is tradition. Better make sure he doesn't cross limits and better not start the marriage off based on a lie. He better be against this tradition. I personally would never marry a guy who was for strippers and stuff like that.
If you two are married, I suggest having a major talk discussing his "sexual activity" if he thinks it is fine.
It is only "tradition" in jerky a**holes who don't deserve the woman and not ready to be married. They look at females as sex objects and having joy in another women's body besides his own.
It is cheating, unfaithful and mocks the "marriage".
Plus, at risk of std's. That stripper can do at least let's say 4 parties a month. Sleep with those 4 males or any other males at the party. 4X12=48 males. Give or take. Even if not intercourse, oral sex is enough to declare that as "eww". So, him doing that is he is exposing himself to stds. Then exposing his wife to those.
Wouldn't it be sad to have a woman on honeymoon call to say she is pregnant and either wants him to pay for the abortion or pay child support? yeah...it has happened. My sister's friend and he help pay for the abortion. He is divorced.
2006-08-06 16:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay here's the agument.
Your man has the 'right' to sleep with the stripper on his stag night - that means that every other man who has a stag night and has that stripper also has a right to sleep with her and presuming she's a popular stripper that's a lot of men. Now presuming just one of those men some time back in her past had a disease she has now infected most of the men getting married in your area just prior to their wedding.
Here's my suggestion: tell you husband to be that if he really wants to sleep with the stripper then okay BUT until he has been given the all clear by the STD clinic and the AIDS clinic then he does not get to sleep with you. After all surely one night with somebody hew has never seen before and will never see again is not worth ruining your honeymoon for - is it..
2006-08-14 01:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by geegee 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If its ok for the man to sleep with a stripper on his stag night can the woman sleep with a stripper on her hen night?
2006-08-06 21:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a stripper at his stag night.... but it was a pair of wire strippers.... and he didn't sleep with it. The guys were just sharing a joke. If your guy wants to sleep with a stripper on his stag night... do you really want to marry this bloke? You're as good as married to this guy, and that's as good as cheating.
2006-08-07 04:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a grown man, your man's an idiot. No disrespect to your man, but it is an idiotic notion.
That stupid macho BS went out when A I D S came in.
Forget the sanctity of marriage, I can't get past the lack of commitment. It is about more than the physical act of sex. How about the joy of making love? It is less about the physical gratification, but more of the feelings of intimacy. Sharing such a personal feeling, giving and receiving of the each other. Why does he want to share that with someone else?
2006-08-14 06:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Grown Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh..................................... NO!!
(unless you want to catch an STD on your wedding night!!!)
GROSS! If he loves you, he WILL NOT sleep with anybody but YOU, no matter if you are married yet or not!!
What is he thinking?
Sounds like he just wants an excuse to be with another woman.
If he does sleep with the stripper, he will find another way to do something like that again in the future. No, it's absolutely NOT a tradition, unless you are both seriously TRASHY people. Then it might be.
Why can't bachelor parties be something other than hiring a woman to dance on top of the groom anyways?
2006-08-06 11:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's the thing. What men don't understand is that they get more privileges when we trust them. I am a cool girl, and I take my fiance to strip clubs all the time. We get lap dances together. It's good times. But he knows that if he was to sleep with one of the strippers, it would all be over, and he will never find a girl that wants to dance with naked ladies and play Nintendo all night ever again.
But if he wants to sleep with someone else before you get married, maybe he is not the right choice.
What a douchebag.
2006-08-06 12:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my fiancé was thinking about sleeping with someone else, especially on his stag night just before he made one of the biggest commitments of his life, I wouldn't be carrying on our relationship at all, let alone marrying him!
No, this isn't tradition - except among those people who don't have any respect or deep and lasting love for their partner or relationship.
I hope he's teasing you.
2006-08-06 16:14:42 · answer #11 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋