2006-08-06 10:36:58 · 36 answers · asked by trxr4kdz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No. Everyone deserves to be happy and find someone to love. You want to raise children in a loving relationship and teach them what love is. If you stay you or your partner may end up resenting the children.
2006-08-06 10:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No! This is a hard one. For all involved. You must first talk to the children and make sure that they know that the break up is not their fault. That both mom and dad really love them and plan to spend as much time with them as possible and then follow through with that! If this is one sided then make sure that mom or dad shows extra support through this tough time. Children can sence when there is tention between spouses and it causes them to feel it too. Perhaps they have been hearing fighting going on for a long time and you didn't realize this. Maybe they can tell the love is lost. You would be surprised. It may just be what they need in their own lives too! It may bring some peace. When they are grown up and if it leaks out that you stayed for their sakes.... They may feel to blame for certain things and events in your life and that isn't right to place that burden on anyone. You should live a happy life. You have that right too! Find someone to make you happy!
2006-08-06 10:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal Chantel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably more 'grey area' to this question than most any other question that I've seen asked regularly on here. I think initially it seems very good of a person, or two people, to stay together in a loveless marriage for the children. BUT are you really doing them a favor? Sure, they don't have to deal with the tough tough life experience of seeing their parents divorce and all the drama that follows. They will see their parents live a loveless marriage their whole life though. A great deal of fighting between their Mom and Dad? Very little affection. Etc, there's plenty they'd be missing out on. And whether kids will admit it, or know it, they learn a great deal in life just by watching parents.
2006-08-06 10:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Although it seems inhuman, the long term consequences for their children needs to be evaluated against the short term impact on the not loved individual. For example, A doesn't love B, and C is a child of A and B. Then, it always exist the possibility for B of knowing a better person, that really loves B and C. Individual A should leave B and recognize that C was an accident.
2006-08-06 10:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by j4s2d1v3d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why happened that you no longer love the other person? Did they do something you are just unhappy with yourself and what you are doing or not doing with your life. Divorce is not the fix all people make it out to be. It means that your children are forced to pick which parent they spend their time with. When you decided to have children you gave up your right to think of yourself first. You need to look at the life your children have and try and see what type of live your choice is going to have on them.
2006-08-06 10:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by miki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because kids are smart they know when something is wrong. You want your kids to see that married life should be a happy one. If the two people stay together it is wasted time unless they go to marriage councelling together and work things out. If they decide to leave just be civil in front of your children divorce really hurts kids and what makes things worse is if you talk about the other badly in front of the children.
2006-08-06 10:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't stay with someone you don't love,because of the children. You have only one life to live and to be happy,and you should enjoy it,instead of staying and everyone feels thats something is wrong in your family.you can share your children,and make them happy,while your happy too.Time is too short, to do something you don't want. You will regret it later,if you look back at your past, if you don't love the person your with,then you will feel you lost all that time in life.
2006-08-06 10:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. Do you stay in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the kids or do you leave for the sake of your own sanity?
If you stay what will the atmosphere be like for the kids? Will there be constant arguing and anger? That's no good. Will one of you withdraw and disengage? That's no good! Will insults and ridicule spoil every opportunity for family time? I grew up in exactly this scenario. It wasn't any fun at all.
How old are the kids? Is it just a few years until they go off to college or move into their own place? Or will it be many years of torture for everyone? What is the value of that?
2006-08-06 10:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you owe it to your children to atleast give it a fighting chance. If however after several attempts, it still isn't working out, then I think you owe it to yourself and your children to move on. After all you chose to have children with this person, you need to see if you can repair the damage and not just run away because it is the easier route. The only ones you hurt that way are your kids, and they are the only innocent ones here.
2006-08-06 10:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if they are married to each other. When you promise "for better or for worse" you should keep it. The "right" message to send to your children about love is that it is NOT easy, it DOES take work, and that you DON'T just run off with the next person that "makes you happy" until that feeling dies too.
If you at one point loved this person, I'm sure you can again. I wish you the best.
:)
2006-08-06 10:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by hmmph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋