My coworker and I sorta been talking every now and then (I'm attracted to her, yeah). This week I happened to catch her on the way in and out in the lift by conincidence, more then once. Friday however I more or less consciously left as soon as she did, and we met again at lift. She said "hi" and then said "you have good timing" smiling. I said something like "what you mean" and she said "you manage to get the lift just at the right time, never having to wait for it... " I kinda shrugged off, and ask how she's doing, and we chatted for a bit on the way down and then wished her a good one as she is going on vacation... Now I keep thinking - what she said - i mean she probably figured out i tried to catch her, but was her response like 'you pervert, don't follow me'? I feel a bit stupid now. Have I screwed up, and can I actually fix this somehow? Pretend it never happend? How bad did I come off, or is this actually not a big deal and her reply is not bad at all?
2006-08-06 10:24:47 · 17 answers · asked by Ronaldo Jr. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
: FLIRTING bit: she is actually a very friendly woman, she smiles a lot.... ok, it doesn't mean she didnt flirt. just that she smiles and chats with lots of people, not sure it was singling me out or anything..
2006-08-06 10:33:56 · update #1
No, I'm not following her anywhere! :) Comon! I though I said I was not a perv! ;) I also kinda like my job to jepardise it, that's why I'm a bit touchy on the whole thing perhaps more then I should be...
2006-08-06 10:35:48 · update #2
Relax, be cool...stop what you are doing.
She has merely noticed your being anxioius but she's not interested. Don't behave this way...to obvious and obviously too young.
2006-08-13 16:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Being Cautious isn't necessarily a bad thing. So many women like to press the sexual harassment thing nowadays. Just keep being friendly & let her be flirty. Leave it at that, be patient and let her get back from Vacation, ask her how it was...small talk. Don't assume that she is calling you a perv or anything, you could be over thinking it. You are your own worst critic. Once a week send here a boquet of yellow roses for friendship, do it anonmusly. "Small strokes fell great oaks." Keep at it, be patient, don't be too forward, don't be too obvious. Don't be affraid to be yourself, women prefer that you are yourself than being someone that you are not, even if you come off as nerdy or clumsy, she may find it endearing and cute, that may just be the ticket. Just be yourself.
2006-08-14 02:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I don't think she thought you were a pervert or anything. "Happening" to get to the lift at the same time as someone you like would qualify as normal behavior in my opinion. Now, following her home and spying through her window for hours would be too much. :) Sounds like she might even like you. Maybe when she gets back from vacation you could ask her out for coffee or something. Good luck!
2006-08-06 10:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now that you know the time she is going to the lift get there 1st or wait on her while talking on cell phone when the 2 of you get on tell her you believe she is right ,you do have good timing to always manage to end up with such good company so often then ask her out , because i think she likes you too
2006-08-06 10:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by hi people 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its simple, you have done nothing wrong at this time. That statement is innocent, nothing more, nothing less. Don't worry about it. Just make sure you know what you want in life. Its too short to make a big mistake at a very young age. Thanks for asking and Aloha from Hawaii
2006-08-13 22:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're overreacting, what I would do is this... just talk with when you get a chance nothing serious just small talk for now, trust me you will know when to make your move she'll let you know just think before you speak and you'll be fine. Just chill with it don't rush it especially if you are going to see her everyday.
2006-08-14 05:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by matchbox 78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those interest complications are immediately ahead, quite once you've underlings or friends who're jealous. I accept as true with the first poster. basically be worry-free, and proceed to artwork flat out. And, once you get on an excellent keel back, attempt to resign stressful. it is going to kill you. If it continues to be "undesirable", stumble on a sparkling interest. (that's a lot less complicated to GET a job once you're operating someplace.) in case you meet including your bosses privately ... well known to them that you're feeling to procure off to a foul commence. ASK for his or her innovations on approaches to commence over. Be apologitic, and humble. they're going to sense you recognize them by technique of asking them, and it is going to coach you're waiting to make issues properly, and keep them that way! a lot sturdy luck to you!!! signal me: Been there performed that! playstation : I continuously sense, contained in the base line of this stuff, that that's the bosses who're answerable for protecting solidarity contained in the workplace. They shouldn't tolerate "snubbing, etc."
2016-10-15 11:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep having a conversation when you meet.
Just keep meeting.
Find out if she is available.
Ask if you can meet for a drink or go some where together.
If that works. What more do you want.
2006-08-13 11:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really felt a bad vibe, just pretend nothing happened, because if she was actually flirting, you will certainly feel stupid if you apologize for nothing.
2006-08-13 20:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tommy V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
back off and wait awhile. watch her behavior with others, especially men then decide hat to do, but don,t do anything rash. she is very preceptive. that can be good or bad. walk softly.
2006-08-14 05:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by houdini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋