2006-08-06 09:57:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
emotional and mental signs.
the physical is obvious.
2006-08-06 10:00:05 · update #1
For the man that seems so perfect at first, isolating you from family and friends is usually your first clue.
You may not notice what is happening until those you care about are either too far away to help or have been alienated in some way... alienation usually begun by your partner pointing out how this one or that one doesn't 'really care about you', doesn't treat you right or other comments that make him look like your protector and your friends and family look like heels.
You may see signs along the way like fleeting hints of unreasonable jealousy, constant calling or a need to know where you are and who you are with at all times... Things that can make you feel wanted at first, particularly if you are needy yourself or like to feel 'protected' and initially, it is usually done with restraint. If a man shows that edge of anger, the kind that chills your blood, with others... It is my opinion that his partner will probably come under its blade as well. It seems to start with verbal abuse in private. In public he may be overly attentive and affectionate. Watch his family... This is all too often a pattern. If the mother seems overly submissive with husband and sons, don't be too quick to dismiss it as her just being a wimpy sort.
The thing to remember is, if he scares you, there is probably good reason for you to be scared! Don't wait until he has convinced you that you don't deserve better treatment... Pay attention!
Anyone with questions about this should check out
http://ndvh.org/educate/what_is_dv.html
It is a good place to start educating yourself.
2006-08-07 15:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question, then you know the answer. Get out of the relationship now. Early signs include controlling behavior and verbal abuse. These are often precursors to physical or sexual abuse.
2006-08-06 17:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by The Big Shot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what the other person told you. If you are questioning, then you need to leave the relationship.
One thing you want to look for are little insults here and there, anything that might show a controlling personality, jealousy,loss of temper, gets aggrevated easily, lack of affection, lack of respect for others, he may appear to be a little selfish in some ways, be leery of any kind of negative behavior that shows a pattern.
2006-08-06 17:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave now. I was in an abusive relationship. my advise with YOU is not to think that you are going to hurt his feelings... that is why women stay. don't stay. love yourself. call a friend or family member. and get the hell out of there. controlling behaviors, getting angry at the smallest things, almost hitting you but doesn't, calling you names, telling you mean things about you (you're fat, ugly etc.) If you need to talk. email me.
2006-08-06 17:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous and possessive behavior early on.
If you are asking this question, I am wondering if you are involved with a potentially abusive person. Run do not walk from this jerk.
2006-08-06 17:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go around yelling, "I'm going to beat any person that looks at me"?
I would call that an early warning sign.
2006-08-06 17:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by broxolm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems really loving and that's why he feels you spend all your time with your friends and family, who even though at first he may seem like he loves to death ,will eventually want to separate you from them (because they will see whats going on and help you leave him) he always wants to move fast ,(never takes it slow) so that your in to deep so fast you don't have time to think about whats going on and get away. if this in any way describes your situation leave now while you can. and you could ask past girlfriends they may tell they may not
2006-08-06 17:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by hi people 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is controlling to point where you can't have normal day without him calling you. Plus if he isolates you from people are some signs
2006-08-06 17:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is verbally abusive and goes out of control throwing or breaking things when u guys r arguing. and if he threatens to hurt himself or starts going crazy because u wont let him go out the door or something.
2006-08-06 17:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by yourgirl222002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he always has a temper and hits things
2006-08-06 17:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by XyOuRXdAiLyXPoIsOnX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋