i am 41 years old with 2 kids .i am always tired and nervous.i want to quit my job to help myself can i do it?

Question

help me to take a decision .although i need the money and to be besides my kids in school where i work but i cannot take it any more . shall i quit to take care of my family? thanks .

Answer 1

I believe that this world is too hung up on 'what you have', 'what you look like', 'what you wear', basically keeping up with the Joneses, but at the end of the day when your laying on your death bed i don't think any of that will matter.

What does matter though is your own happiness, your children and your quality of life and if you was to have one last day on earth, you wouldn't want to spend it worrying about working in a job you hate purely for material gain. I am not saying pack it in and live off welfare, but if that's what it takes to make you happy right now then so be it.

I am sure by the time you are old you won't want to have any regrets where your kids are concerned. You can't put a price on watching your kids grow up happy, and they will be happy all the more for having you. You doing what you feel in your heart is right can only benefit you and your Family.

I think that you know what you need to do, but need a bit of a push and I'll say this if your ever gonna have regrets it will be because you didn't spend enough time with your kids not that you wished you'd got that kitchen or car etc that you'd always wanted.

Material things are just that materials, which can be taken away but your memories will live forever through you, your children, then their children and I'm sure you would have peace in your heart with that idea.

Answer 2

Find Another Job
May Be Less Hours One That You Like,
The Less Hours Will Make It Easier To Look After Your Family Too.
I Am 42 I Have Three Kids So I Know It Is Not Easy Being A Mum (A Mum Is A Full Time Job)
But I Like Going To Work Part Time Even Though I am Working It Gives Me Some, Of Me Time As They Say.
And I Also Have Met Some Good Friends At Work Too
Keep Smiling.

Answer 3

I agree with a number of others here. Before you make any rash decisions, you really should see your local GP. Anxiety and stress are debilitating conditions that prevent you from holding a full and balanced perspective, and you are not alone, and certainly not the first or the last person to have these feelings.

Tiredness and nervousness are primary signs of depression, so address this first. Your GP will either recommend SSRI's or counselling or both.

Things you can do to help yourself too:

1) Make time for yourself every day to relax. Go for a walk, do some physical exercise, you'll be amazed how this improves your state of mind.

2) Read some books that encourage perspective. The Tao of Pooh, by Benjamin Hoff is one I would recommend. The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach is another.

3) Challenge the negative thoughts that dominate your mind. You are your mind's master, and your reality is shaped by whatever goes on between your ears. Force yourself to find positives, and build on them until the negatives are pushed out.

4) Write your thoughts down. By putting them on paper, you are effectively taking an important step in changing the balance from being dominated by your thoughts, to you dominating them. You could also make a separate list of all the positive things in your life.

Anyhow, once you've wrestled control of your thoughts, and back to the positive you that you will return to, you may find that a new career path is what you want. If you have ever thought of starting your own business, i would recommend you read Millionaire Upgrade, by Richard Parkes Cordock.

Best of luck, and do realise that this WILL ALL CHANGE.

Answer 4

I think you should ask yourself if it is your job got you feeling like this. I think about quitting my job many days, but as a single parent that is not an option. If you have savings and/or someone to help, try a leave of absence, 1 month. If it helps relax and calm you, then decide if you should stay at home or return to work. Life gets to each and every one of use all the time. If you need the income, dont be hasty with your decision. You should always do what is best for you, if you are not well, you cannot help others, financially or emotionally. Try the leave and see how you feel, maybe a good length of "you" time will set focus back on track. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND CONTINUE LOVING YOUR FAMILY

Answer 5

Mother of 2 young kids and unexpected expenses arise. I would think about having a saving account. You don't want your kids too close together or to far apart either. I clearly understand. I have to kids back to back and it's hard. I would wait for about another year and then start again. This way it will give your body a break and you will be able to spend the quality time with your young ones. I thought it would get cheaper as the kids get older but it's the other way around. Diapers are expensive but also sports, activities, clothes are expensive. If you fell that the time is now and you can afford to have another child then go for it. Kids crave the one on one attention and it's hard because your attention will be divided more than what it is now if you have another. Running after the other two when your about 5 months will be hard. You will be exhausted because you will require rest for your unborn child. There are a lot of things to think about. I personally think you should write a pro and cons list and make a sound decision with your spouse and see if it can work and not wishing it to work. I thought about having another kid but at the same time I don't want to tell my kids that we can not afford to buy them certain things. I did not have a comfortable childhood because my parents budget was tight. Your young, do whats best for your family and it will all work out.

Answer 6

Are you married,are you the sole bread winner,what would you live on ,feed ,clothe,and house yourself and the kids?
Why don't you go to a doctor there are so many great medications that can help you to get back to your former self.,you sound depressed and that can be controlled,being tired all the time is a sign of depression.
Don't make any decisions while in a depressed state ,get some medical help then see how that works.Right now quitting doesn't sound feasible. For your sake and the kids see a doctor please.
Modern medication for depression does not keep you doped up.that kind of thinking stops people from getting the help they need.The new medication just takes the edge off so you can function like every one else.There is no shame in getting medical help if you are depressed.Don't think it will get better on its own. 9 out of 10 times it wont.

Answer 7

No, you can't do it. If you are so unmotivated and indecisive that you need random people's opinions before you make life changing risks then you will also be unmotivated and indecisive about what to do after you quit as well. Quitting your job may bring temporary relief, but looming bills and bankrupsy would kill that. If you really hate your job you may consider going back to school and learning a new trade. You may feel that 41 is too old to go back, but keep in mind that you have almost another 25 years before you can retire, try to make the most out of it.

Answer 8

Make a list of the things you realy like to do.
Now think of jobs that include these activities.
Check with your employment agency and in your local paper to see if there are any of these jobs available. If Your not happy where you are start looking around for something that is more suitable for you but don't quit your job until you have something to replace it with - unless of course your either independantly wealthy or you have a husband (or wife) whose salary you all can survive on!
Have a happy day!

Answer 9

i think you should first find another job before you quit as you said you need the money if you quit before you get another job you will be without an income
why not try & find a job working from home alot of companies have a work force that work from home that way you willbe earning & spending time with your children
good luck

Answer 10

Stop moaning Ive got 6 kids and 42 you don't know what tired is I'm also a postman so this time of year is a night mare there home from school so no rest.