Don't have friends?

Question

I have no friends. Not even one. I'd be happy if I had at least ONE friend. But I don't. Everyone is always mean to me. I remember one time this girl that used to bully me. Took my newly brand new math book and tore and stratched up the cover and pages right infront of me. then handed it back to me and smiled. I sometimes think I'm too nice to people. Because all I did was just sit there and cry. People get pissed and talk crap about how I shouldnt be so shy and nice. WELL ITS HARD NOT TO WHEN YOU'VE BEEN THIS WAY ALL YOUR LIFE. School was always a big deal for me because I knew there would be some bully type girl there. And whenever i try to make friends with people at school they seem to not be interested. And it hurts when I see these people all laighing, and hanging out and just being great friends. When I have no one. And I feel like theres no one to tell things to. When its only my mom, and most the things she doesnt understand. And theres my little sister and shes too young.

And i do go out of my way to talk to people but they arent interested. So its not really my shyness holding me down.
And i do try to figure out whats wrong with me. but i dont see anything.

Answer 1

that sucks. it sucks being alone. but maybe, because you want a friend so badly, you come on too strongly. And maybe coming on this strong scares people away. A smile is more pleasant to be around anyday than a frown. Even if you feel crummy you need to put on your best and say "I'm fine." cuz if you honestly tell people howyou feel they'll not want to be around. it sucks, but your time will come. keep being nice and you will find good friends. if you are not anti-church than I suggest goingto a church youth group. generally speaking those people are accepting of others. I'm sure they can be clingy too, but it is people to be around. most of thosse good church people are real nice.

Answer 2

Lot of us are shy, it's part of the human condition. It's not a reason to be bullied. You must report those bullies to your teacher or headteacher. Insist that they tackle this problem. It's their duty to do so.

What do you like doing as a hobby? whether it's painting, acting, dancing, music. I'll bet you have a talent which you'd like to pursue. Why not join a class and try to perfect that talent, it's a way to meet like minded people and potential friends. Sharing a common interest is a great way to start a friendship. You could also try volunteering. There are many charities who desperately need the help of good volunteers. It could be a charity which is attached to your local hospital or centre for Senior Citizens. There are so many ways you could channel you talents and meet new people. You will gain confidence and before you know it have forgotten your shyness.

Answer 3

Sometimes making friends isn't easy. I don't have very many friends but the few I do have I found by accident. There's nothing wrong with being nice or even being shy but what you have to do is learn to shield yourself a bit. Who is better than you that they sould be allowed to make you feel less than what you are? No one. Sometimes, if you go to places you like there are people who like the same thing. Strike up a conversation or just be open. You're not alone, everyone gets lonely sometimes.

Answer 4

Shyness is tough. I solved the problem by doing my own thing outside of school. School was just study for me. Sometimes I hung out with other people, but it was always just superficial, and I was OK with that. Outside of school, I was in a number of organizations where meeting people was not a problem because there weren't cliques of people already there. There are many people like you and you could seek them out wherever they are. Don't give up just because you've had some bad experiences.

Answer 5

Don't worry you're not alone... what percentage of kids are popular in school... like 5 % that means the rest of us "losers" are the majority, and if there were a revolt one day.... boy oh boy! hahah cheer up, I was teased in gradeschool a lot b/c i didn't wear brand name clothes and my parents weren't well of b/c they had to support 5 kids and i lived in the country an hour away...and looking back i see the kids who were the meanest to me and they're the losers now! they never left home, they never sought out higher education and they're just "not so hot" anymore!

look everyone on here loves you to bits! so cheer up and start emailing girl!

Answer 6

It seems like you are a great person and that anyone would be fortunate to have you as a friend. Im sorry for what you are going through. People are cruel. I didn't like having females as friends because they have the tendency to be messy. I always kept a male as my friend. As long as you have your family don't worry about the rest. You will never have to worry about your mom or your sis hurting you. Don't rush friends, the best things come to those who wait.

Answer 7

I'm sure theres nothing wrong with you, I felt the same way alot in school. I only had two good friends and when they went to different schools I was lost. You know alot of people in life are two faced and alot of them aren't worth your time. Don't you ever blame yourself.

Answer 8

why not trying to join a sport or club? this way there would be that subject to talk about with people, which could help you make friends.

Answer 9

I believe you always have God as your best friend but you are so busy searching for a friend that you did not notice God in the first place.

Answer 10

Hell, you can email me as much as you like. Always nice to meet people.