no sex b4 marriage does that mean no foreplay? wat r all ur views on it?

Answer 1

Sex before marraige is a very important thing to avoid even from a secular point of view. The reason is that sex, when improperly used, becomes a point of commonality rather than personality. It is designed by God to be something special between two people.

Foreplay, indeed, accomplishes the same thing. It's like being told not to jump of the cliff, and then you do a jig as close to the edge as you can. You're bound to slip sooner or later. Jesus tells us in Matthew that if you even look at a woman lustfully, you commit adultery in your heart. But what if you nor them are married, or even in a relationship? It doesn't matter, if it's not your current spouse, then it's adultery. God is looking at the heart more than the deed.

If you abstain from the sin, but still desire it, you're still sinning. God sees past actual actions and knows what your heart desires. Foreplay with someone you're not married to is a pretty clear indication of a desire to have sex outside of marraige to humans, what do you think it says to God?

Answer 2

I can understand the idea of no sex before marriage....Sex without love and respect has lead to a huge decline on what sex really means...not to mention all these children who have half-siblings and may not even know it...

As for foreplay....i dont see what is wrong with that

Answer 3

The fact that you're asking this question means that you want to do the right thing so THAT'S good.

I've wondered the same question. And I'm not SURE either. I DO know that it would be a HUGE mistake to listen to all these people that are trying to ENCOURAGE you to have sex before marriage. Don't let people talk you into doing something you know is wrong, they're doing the devil's work if you ask me.

Isn't it odd that you asked if FOREPLAY before marriage is okay or not, and they say, not only is foreplay okay but you should be having SEX!!?? Now is THAT the question you were asking???? Watch out for the decievers in this world that would lead you away from God. You don't know WHO you're getting advice from on here. Talk to people you know and trust and respect.

"God'sKnite" makes a good point when he says:
"Jesus tells us in Matthew that if you even look at a woman lustfully, you commit adultery in your heart." But what if you nor them are married, or even in a relationship? It doesn't matter, if it's not your current spouse, then it's adultery. God is looking at the heart more than the deed.

If you abstain from the sin, but still desire it, you're still sinning. God sees past actual actions and knows what your heart desires. Foreplay with someone you're not married to is a pretty clear indication of a desire to have sex outside of marraige to humans, what do you think it says to God?"

BUT, he says.....
"foreplay with someone you're not married to is a pretty clear indication of a desire to have sex outside of marraige"

That is incorrect!!! He's using faulty reasoning there. It is merely an indication of a desire to have sex with them. PERIOD!! Not to have sex BEFORE MARRIAGE. The FACT that you are NOT having sex is proof that, although you DO want to have sex, you do NOT want to have sex outside of marriage. see what I'm saying??

So he's wrong there. But about that passage in matthew. I believe it goes on to say that if your eye causes you to sin, then you should gouge it out. That way you won't sin. And if your right hand causes you to sin, then you should cut it off. I think this may be saying that even masturbation is wrong, (cutting off your right hand and all). .. . and if masturbation IS wrong, then I think it's safe to say that fooling around with somebody would be even MORE wrong. Right?

Answer 4

foreplay means it is leading up to......what? Sex! Be careful in what foreplay you engage in. Maybe show affection, but I see foreplay as something you do BEFORE you have sex. If you and your partner are abstaining from sex, I hope there are plans for marriage in the future, otherwise it could get painful!! :)

Answer 5

The very definition of the word "foreplay" indicates that it is what you do before sex. If you wish to remain abstinent while courting your future spouse then regard "foreplay" as potentially dangerous behavior. It could easily lead to sex.

Answer 6

What if you wait until after marriage and find out that the person you married sucks in bed or is a total freak? Sex, for-play, whatever is always good before marriage.

Answer 7

Technically, you are correct. BUT. The problem with foreplay is the law of diminishing returns. Every time you play like that, you want to get closer and closer to the physiological goal of coitus.

You are literally playing with hormonal fire. Expect to get burned, you will cross the line sooner or later.

Answer 8

What is the purpose of foreplay? The answer is arousal. What is the purpose of arousal? Unless it is masturbation, the answer is SEX! Why arouse someone else unless your intention is sex.
Foreplay involving two or more people is also fornication unless it is inside of marriage.

Answer 9

I believe that any sexual relations before marriage are immoral. I think that that part of us is a sacred gift from God and we should only use our procreative powers within the bonds of marriage. Stimulating those emotions outside of marriage will always lead down the wrong road.

Answer 10

If a person were truly good, or truly religious, I guess nothing beyond hand-holding and little kisses on the cheek or forehead would be allowed. Those types of couples would probably not go anywhere entirely alone, either - to prevent temptation.