Should I? I'd appreciate anybody who takes the time to help out.?

Question

I'm a nice guy, 15, just looking for a good relationship. And I've found a possiblility......but it's not quite what I'm looking for. I live in Florida.........and she lives in California. She's "in love" with me......and I like her......I just don't know about the long distance. Being only 15, isn't that a little young for long distance? I don't mean to sound shallow.......but I want a girl here in Florida I can hold and enjoy her company....not just talk on the phone with.

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it's not like i'm bad looking and couldn't get anything here in florida.....i just can't seem to find the RIGHT type of girl that I would want a real relationship with........cause i'm looking for that right girl....i'm not looking for messing around relationships. And all i seem to find is immature girls......that i don't see fit for a serious relationship with me......and this girl in cali loves me......i don't know what to do.....

or to tell this girl in cali that i want to wait....until we possibly see eachother in person to go out.....she seems to think i don't care for her because i don't want to do long distance

Answer 1

I agree with your own opinion, that yes it is to young to try the long distance thing. The long distance thing doesn't work for many adult relationships, where at least there is that chance to travel. At 15, you should be educating yourself, in school and in all relationships. Unfortunately you won't be able to learn a whole lot from someone who is so far away. That does not mean the 2 of you can't keep in contact and be friends. Also, if she feels she's so in love with you she would be a bit more understanding about your feelings on this and any other topic!

Answer 2

Relax sweetheart you sound like the kind of guy most girls are looking for, just relax. You are only 15 which is really very young. You have no need to even get into the romance game as of yet you have a lot of time for that. Give it a year or two and they will be falling all over you. Long distance friendships can be fullfilling but long distance romance never works out because it is not true romance too much distance and sometimes that alone is the appeal. Internet relationships are even more tenuous because you only have what you can see on the monitor you cannot get to know the real person because at best they are on their best, most thought out behaviour,at worst they are lying predators.

Take your time, concentrate on your education and your friends. Once you seriously get into the"dating game" life changes and it will never be the same so don't be in such a rush to get on that rollercoaster called romance.

Answer 3

Well im not a real big fan of long distance relationship. Let me ask, how did you meet this girl in the first place? Online? to tell you the truth, long distance relationship usually ends up being unsuccessfull but dont take my word for it. Ive known people who can keep a long distance relationship. And the reason why it is usually a bad idea is because one person in the party might be faithful while the other may not. The trust issue would have to be 100% all the time and i just think its a hard thing to do when your in long distance relationships. It all comes down to you whether you want a long distance relationship but in my personal opinion, i think it is a bad idea.

by the way, i took a look at your pictures you posed online and I'd have to say you look a heck lot older than me and im 22 hahahahah

Answer 4

you're a little too young for a serious relationship right? but if that's what you want... if you really like this girl in cali the i think you should stick with her. most of the time long distance relationships dont work out but you can prove people wrong. you might think that you want a girl close by (and you should), but that girl can be "the one". but what happens when you decide to date someone else? you will get older and find yourself thinking alot about the one that got away, and what would have happened if you would have stayed with "the girl from cali". all im saying is think about the future and if it's really worth having a girlfriend close to you.

good luck!

Answer 5

It's not just that she loves you...but do you love her as well? You make it seem like you'd be doing her a favor, if you said yes to her. But you're in it as well. My best advice, follow your heart. Do you want her as a girlfriend. Could you see yourself with her for a long time? How bad you want it, depends if the relationship will work over a long distance. Because the more you want it, the less tempted you are buy other girls, and the harder you'll work to make it last. Eventually you'll see eachother, eventually if it works you might even spend the rest of your lives together...with eachother not over long distance. Just think, what do you want?

Answer 6

Why are you so desperate for such a "serious" relationship? The teenage years are about practicing the social skills needed for more serious relationships later in life.

Just focus on school and your hobbies. Join clubs and teams that are interesting to you. In those settings you'll meet people who share your interests, and one of those friendships might evolve into more than a friend. Let it flow naturally, dude.

You can stay friends with the girl on the other side of the country -- maybe you two could wind up near each other in college.

Answer 7

Can long distance work? Yes. Would I recommend it to you right now? No.

There's nothing shallow about wanting to be in a relationship with someone local. It's just a preference. Long distance is remarkably difficult, so the fact that you just 'like' her.. would lead me to say that at this point in time, it's probably not worth it.

Answer 8

Ok well if your not even old enough to have your drivers license, then why do you think your ready for a long distance relationship? Trust me, girls in california are probably the most immature girls can get. Trust me, I live in california.

Answer 9

yes appreciate it, tell her the truth on how you feel, youre still young. dont stress out about it, you have plenty of time, don't expect to find a perfect person, its about compromising working it out, but that comes later, right now just have fun, have friends, you may not find what youre looking for right a way, it will take time, maybe 20 yearsor 10. worry about a career and make something with your life and i'm sure youll find someone along the way

Answer 10

I think u should keep talking to her, but don't worry so much about the "right" girl yet, u r after all only 15. I don't know if u should make a real serious realationship outta it, it is a long ways, but I don't think that u should completely stop talking to her.