Her sister was very ill when she was 2 and we almost lost her she was also just diagnosed w/ VonWillabrans disease so everyone has always babied her.How do I get my daughter to understand that I love her just as much that her sister is just sick? By the way she told me the other day that she wishes that she was sick!What to do????
2006-08-06 09:03:42 · 13 answers · asked by momof5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Aww sorry to hear that your child is sick.I went through that not as serious illness as Vonwillabrans disease.My daughter was jealous of my son.I have 3 kids but one of them has asthma.She use to play rough and run around and when he would get out of breath people would baby him too.She use to wish she had asthma.Explain to her that you love them both equally.That her sister has an illness that is very serious.I know that is hard for her to understand and don't just tell her that you love her just the same,show her.Praise her when she does something good.Tell her that she is the oldest and if she could help you look out for her younger sister.Explain to her that she wouldn't want to get sick and the symptoms or things that her sister is going through.Wish you guys well.My kids are 13 and 10,3.They fight sometimes but they know that one day they will need eachother and have eachothers backs.Maybe it is that she was the baby of the family first and is a little jealous.Make them both feel special and don't forget thanks and good job goes a long way.
2006-08-06 09:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels left out because her sister needs more attention because of her illness.Try to include your oldest daughter in all things you do with the youngest.Like helping with all the little extra things you do.Involve her in everything equal and the same.Good or bad.The nice and the not so nice.
She will come to realize that she is loved the same if she is not left out of anything.
Talk with her and ask her advice on things,Help her to understand her sisters illness and be a part of helping care for her and that she is loved.Hugs are good,too.
2006-08-06 16:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult time for her. Keep in mind she's only 7. You can't make her understand why your 2 year old needs so much attention. Ask her to help care for her sister. Make her feel as if she has some sort of responsibiltiy. And praise her for everything she does. She really needs you right now. Put yourself in her shoes.
2006-08-06 16:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same things with my kids when one them was diagnosed with diabetes at a very early age in life. I spent one on one time with both of them and the one that wasn't a diabetic, we'd go out for lunch, go to the movies, etc. and had long talks about the disease that their sibling has. I stressed that diseases are not prejudice and can affect anyone at any time and their sibling had no control over this happening to them. As my kids grew up, they are still very close and are there for one another.
2006-08-06 16:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is something that is always complicated is competition from two siblings .. what to do...this is my opinion ..
Sit down with both of your daughters and have your 7 year old daughter tell her 4 year old daughter why she is so jealous about her .. reason for this? when there is competition between the two siblings there is always going to be an issue with not enough communication .. your 7 year old daughter doesn't have any idea of what her 4 year old sister is going through ... you will be there to ..shall we say..mediate? the two and answer questions that the two of them may have .. it'll be quite an ordeal but believe me in the end the two of them will be closer .. just keep doing what you have always done since you gave them life..patience and ... patience! :)
good luck!!
2006-08-06 16:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by tantalus1076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking your daughter out, just the two of you (go for lunch or get both your nails done)then, talk to her about her little sister, explain to her that you love them both the same. That your younger one just needs a little more care and that she can help you do things for the little sister. Tell her that she is as special as your other daughter (children).
Good luck!
2006-08-06 16:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by browniz520 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sibling rivalry is common. Set aside some special time just for you and her. Also, give her more things to do around the house. It will make her feel like she's important and that she's helping out. It worked for my two older ones when I had baby #3 6 months ago.
2006-08-06 16:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the well sister some 1 on 1 attention. i know you
need to care for the sick one, but get a sitter or have
your husband care for her for a little while so you can
have time for the older girl. after all her emotional health
is just as important as her sister's physical health. give
her some personal attention and assure her at all times
that you love her the same.
2006-08-06 16:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by agedlioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what you are doing...you're in a horrible predicament that seems you can't win no matter what you say or do...Your 7 year old is understandably jealous of the extra attention that her sister gets,..all you can do is keep telling her, and showing her you love her, and one day when she's older, she will understand...Good luck to you all.
2006-08-06 16:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by murphy51024 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big sign that you should give her more attention! Make her feel special for who she is, so that she knows that she doesn't need to be sick to be loved and to get attention. Spend some special time with her everyday, just for her. Tell her and let her know what is special about her.
Talk to her and listen to what she feels. Take her seriously and give her quality time.
2006-08-06 16:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋