Family Problems?? Help!!?

Question

I'm going to start my freshman year in about a week.. and I'm freaking out because my entire family expects sooo much from me... they expect valavictorian, best swimmer, best artists, well socialized and all this other crap... but the reason they expect this is because all my other siblings and cousins have done this well... and and I"m the black sheep... I've even turned to bulimia and cutting myself. ANyone with this sort of problem?? PLease some advice!! I would talk to my family but they have such small minds, they would be deeply disappointed that I could handle the pressures like my cousins could. I feel like giving up on everything. Advice!! PLease?

Answer 1

your family has to learn that everyone is different
my parents expects me to be a genius, but i get mediocre grades, but they are okay because they cant change me nor perfect me, only I can do that

but do your best
and besides, highschool can be the worst or the best years of your life,

good luck namaste

Answer 2

do you go with for a huge family members? I under no circumstances needed a extensive family members, I even have 4 toddlers and that i'm getting reactions from some human beings like i had 14! lol that's staggering what some human beings evaluate "extensive". How massive is 'adequate'? for me...3 exchange into adequate, yet one snuck in there...LOL he's lovable although so i think of we will shop 'em. What could i call them? properly..they *are* named Kyle David, Brandon JonGuard, Delaney Josephine and Hayden Ronald. they're named for family members. purely theory i could upload...i swore i wouldn't in any respect force a mini van too, yet there's no way that 4 young ones will slot in an SUV comfortably esp once you're dealing with booster chairs. and to boot, mini automobiles are a helluva lot greater secure than SUVs...my young ones protection is greater considerable than my arrogance. and that i for my area dislike the coverage expenses on SUVs to boot. I rock my minivan LOL (that's not undesirable finding the two a 2004 Nissan Quest V6), sick be upgrading in 2010 although :) the two oldest are teenager and tween so momma gets her exciting wheels in a year.

Answer 3

Your family needs to realize that everyone has to be their own person. Trying to force someone into something is not constructive, it is destructive. You need to speak up and say that you will do your best but that you aren't (this person) or (that person). A lot of kids these days feel pressure from school, work, friends, parents,unless you speak up it will undoubtedly get worse. As far as cutting yourself you need to talk with someone about that, as well as your bulimia. It could be a counselor, friend, or even a pastor at a church. If you don't go to church I am sure you can find one locally that would meet with you. Take care.

Answer 4

Find some letterhead from your school and mail your parents an anonymous letter from a "concerned teacher" about how you're showing signs of depression and socially withdrawing. Suggest to your parents in this letter that perhaps the demands they're placing on you are increasing your stress level to an unhealthy level and could lead to undesirable circumstances. Offer in the letter for your parents to speak with a school counselor on the affects of such demands. Maybe if it's on letterhead stationary from your school, then you're off the hook and they'll wake up to what they're doing to you. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well for one, dont automatically assume that you cant acheive some of the goals that they want you to. Go for it, if your other family members did alot then talent must run in the blood. If all of those things ''arent for you'' try to acheive something of your own personal choice that would still make them happy. I think you are just letting the pressure get to you. Calm down, believe in yourself and try to cooperate in alot of events, groups, etc. And like I said, if it isnt for you, try something else. Dont let em get to you, all they are doing is believing in you and theres not enough of that happening these days so be thankful and work towards being the best....I'm sure they wont be the only ones happy in the end ;)
Good luck :)

Answer 6

Are they paying for you education? Are you pursuing the path in life or the career that you want to follow? If not, I would say this would be important. I think it would be worth trying to talk with them again. I'm not aware of all of your circumstances, but handling this pressure properly will prepare you to deal with other pressures of life in the future, from employers or whomever. It's important for you to resolve this. I don't know what else to say.

Answer 7

this is a good time for you to make your own mark, let them know you intent to be different.. not in a bad way, but that you have other expectations of yourself... let them know what is important to you... maybe it is community involvement which would not allow you time for some of the things they expect... as long as you have a postiive plan for yourself they should support you although there might be some initial resistence

Answer 8

I am going through the same thing.Don't try living up to anyone else's expectations but your own.I encourage you to at least try telling them how you feel.I have tried talking to my family before but they seem to ignore me so I just keep focusing on what I want for myself not what they want.

Answer 9

Forget their expectations, and concentrate on what you want.
Don't label yourself - I'm the black sheep.
Have bulimia and cutting helped you? Then don't do it.
Take one class and then one semester at a time.

Answer 10

try your hardest Your family will still love you even if you don't do all that stuff. They just want you to know that they know you can do anything that you set your mind to.