For most of my life, I have been a very anti-social person. I have a select group of friends that I absolutely adore and I have a boyfriend, but most of the time I just prefer to be alone. And my mom and my step-dad keep on trying to force me into social activities, even though I have told them that they make me uncomfortable. I have tried to reason with them and nothing works.
Please, if you have any suggestions, I could use the help.
2006-08-06 07:26:04 · 12 answers · asked by Literary Lass 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whoops. yeah, I'm 16.
2006-08-06 08:03:36 · update #1
sounds like your parents just wants whats best for you. The best way to solve this problem is for you to take control of the situation! You pick a time when you can sit down with them and have an adult conversation about how you enjoy being alone, and how its not because your a psyco or anything, you just like being alone. Let them know that you are aware that they love you, and that you appreciate their thoughts and concerns, but that you are quite all right being alone. If you present yourself in a mature and confident way, you'll probably go along way in easing their fears!
2006-08-06 07:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Big D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents aren't going to change You may be able to re-direct them. If, for instance, you had to go to
Choir practice
Literacy tutoring
Reading for people at the rest home
Visiting the friendless at the hospital
Helping at a soup kitchen
Night class at the Junior college
scouts (As a Scout or a volunteer)
Piano lessons
Softball
etc. etc. etc., instead of the sock hop / ice cream social / hootenanny that they had planned for you, they would probably let you do it.
Note 1, if you tell them you're going to Choir practice but spend your time hanging out at the mall dropping pennies from the second floor balcony with your boy friend, you've proven you are not worthy of their trust.
Note 2, I picked some common activities; I don' t know what you like to do.
Note 3, most of the list involve social interaction; but if you are reading to an 80-year old in a rest home, he / she won't be trying to make time with you, the way the guys would if your parents dump you off at the Young Methodist's dance.
Note 5, everything I listed involves effort on your part. You can't solve problems by sitting under a tree waiting for the solution to hit you on the head like an apple.
When you are 18 and have a job and apartment or get accepted to a college over 100 miles from home, you will be free, sort of.
2006-08-06 14:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I cannot give you what you want but I can perhaps help you how to use these events to your advantage.
Social event particularly with family, since you didn't specify, can help you develop connections that a beneficial later on in life. Such opportunities are unpredictable and so can present themselves in the least likely places. I recommend availiing yourself to these events, I wish I had them, as you may find that the connections you make there will benefit you later. I've always found that good friends can be found in some unusual places and times so aside from this being a hassle and an inconvience you may find someone you like. A broad range of friends is always a plus.
2006-08-06 14:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Archer Christifori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not doing it to be mean. They are trying to give you social skills that are much needed in the adult world. When you lack people skills, it can determine whether or not you'd get that good job you want, or the ideal boyfriend/husband. People skills are important; you can't be anti-social forever. Think about it what social skills can do for you in the long run, k?
2006-08-06 14:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just wanted the best for you.
When i was younger about 15,i was kind of rebel and i wasnt home alots.And she try to talk to me but i was so stuborn that i tought its my life not hers but at 18 i had lost her,didint had the time to tell her how sorry i was for beeing such a jerk and that i had love her cause she was a great mom.One thing i can say to you its you have only one mother and you should listen to her and respect her decision.at least try maybe you will like it.good luck:)
2006-08-06 15:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same thing with me,and I feel you pain girl,I don't get into a lot either and my parents won't leave me alone,i am just to shy.You should ignore them(not literally,just don't let them get to you).And work real hard on your grades and friends,so they have something to be proud of.I hope you get through it,good luck and god bless you.
2006-08-06 14:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by ｡◕‿◕｡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime parents have a way of shutting off our children's response to things. Just write them a letter or little note. This way they might not have that block. My children have used this for me and it helps. Good Luck!
2006-08-06 14:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you failed to mention your age, so, that colors the answers you will get.. Unfortunately, if you're a minor, you're stuck with their rules.
2006-08-06 14:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just aren't listening. Try yelling a little louder so they can hear you.
2006-08-06 14:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Dump that bf and I can help you out. I can be your freind.
2006-08-06 14:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋