Its my dads anniversary today,it is 12 years since he passed away and feel pretty down today,just wanted to know if any of you know what im feeling and how you deal with it?
2006-08-06 07:22:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so sorry. My Mom passed away 6 years ago and I have a hard time with it too. My hubby is wonderful and he brings me flowers and is extra nice. My Aunt and I get together for dinner and a cocktail every year and talk about her and laugh nad cry the whole time. My brother takes the day off from work and goes to the cemetary to remember her every year.
I just think it is important to remember them and not to pretend you aren't sad. If they can see or hear usI want her to know she is still very loved and missed and that she mattered to me. I'm sure you would want to do the same for your father.
2006-08-06 07:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by AuntieKJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't, but I am sorry this has been your experience. I can relate to having had family & friends pass away, however, and even though a substantial amount of time has passed, I seem to be mournfully conscious of it each year. ( Then too, the mourning compulsion doesn't always have the same intensity each year, I've noticed...but it's not consistent either, meaning it doesn't get progressively worse or progressively better). Had you thought of making some sort of gesture that could stand as a memorial to your father? Something that was uniquely him? Assuming that I've even approximated what you're feeling, that may be a way to alleviate some of the emptiness associated with this date, and ascribe it a new, life-affirming meaning. That said, maybe your dad would feel more honored if you were able to celebrate his life (maybe his birthday or some other significant day) rather than continue to mourn his death. But whatever you do, it has to be in keeping with your own comfort level. Just ask yourself, though, how he'd want you to be spending this time. Likely he'd want you to go on living. You've demonstrated what it means to be a great son...we can all learn alot from your example. Continue to honor his memory by living and sharing the life he started.
2006-08-06 07:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS GREAT AND AMAZING TO KNOW THAT YOUR DAD PASSED AWAY 12 YEAES AGO AND YOU ARE STILL FEELING DOWN! YOU SHOULD ALWAYS FEEL THAT WAY TILL THE END OF TIME BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM AND FEEL FOR HIM JUST AS HE DID FOR YOU, NO WONDER YOU FEEL SO BAD. THE DAY YOU STOP FEELING BAD ON THIS DAY WILL BE " you no more miss him''. i pray to god to give you more strength to remember him always on this day and do a good turn to someone in his name!
2006-08-06 07:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by chandrasanyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just pray for your dad, i was so sorry to hear that , but believe me he maybe now in a better place now. and im sure that u could tolerate your feeling and it might be better for him rather than you see him suffer. believe me its way worse. hang around with your friends sitting alone will make u keep thinking
2006-08-06 07:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by i like it like that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, and I'm sorry.......and you gotta learn to smile....That's why I get on here and make stories up, people tell me off and it makes me laugh every time, because they are silly enough to believe it in the first place
2006-08-06 07:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to God & ask him to help you deal with your emotions. Whenever I can't handle something, I do just that, and He always helps me get through everything.
2006-08-06 07:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its me sorry i dont but im here 4 you if you need to talk
i'll be praying for you always :)
2006-08-06 19:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_chill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is the best healer .....
2006-08-06 07:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by orange_smudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋