Please don't answer with stupid things like," Kick his butt,"or " Maybe the mom deserved it"
2006-08-06 07:03:50 · 28 answers · asked by weswe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Apparently, you're doing a pretty good job, cuz you are offended, and seek an answer concerning his language. Many parents accept garbage from teens. Personally, I'd put him on the teen equivalent of solitary confinement on bread and water. Grounded for a week, with no tv, no cell phone, no personal calls, no computer, and no friends over. Flogging, while tempting, is probably going a little too far.
2006-08-06 07:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
If you're the mom, you're bad off already. He doesn't respect you which is a learned behavior that he has gotten away with the majority of his life; if that were not the case, he wouldn't fulfill the urge to say that to you. I am an adult with 2 teenage children, and I would not to this day say that word in front of either of my parents out of respect for them. If by 15 this boy is talking to you like that, the only thing that can reverse that is maturity. It's apparent that nothing you say or do will alter his behavior. I'm not saying to ignore it, but the only thing you can attempt to do is lay down some ground rules, and keep anything entertaining out of reach. Give him a curfew and chores. If he is BEYOND any of this, you need some outside help from either grandparents, or his father, or maybe an authority figure (not necessarily police, but maybe a counselor or your pastor).
2006-08-06 15:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that word with a passion !!! my sons are grown and use it, and I still get angry and correct them.... I will NOT tolerate certain words in my home !! you need to express to your son the reasons it is not ok to use that language in YOUR home.... let him know that certain behavior and words will just NOT do.... then ask him about punishment !! thats right put the attention all on him...... it means more, and makes them think real hard about that word and the *what* that will happen if used again.... give him 3 choices to choose from..... no tv for a wk, or maybe phone, or no going out for a wk...... things like that..... then make it plane that the next time, he will have 2 of the punishments..... he is a young adult in many ways, and he needs to accept the responibilty and be accountable for his own actions...... God bless
2006-08-06 14:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my 15 year old misbehaved that way I'd make her do chores - each 'bad' word resulted in a sink full of washing up etc. But, I'd also tell her that her words were hurtful, try to find out why she chose to speak that way, what ws bothering her etc. Punishment must come with undrestanding.
2006-08-06 14:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsdanieljackson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to talk to him and tell him that this made u upset to hear that word from someone you love a lot. But if he does it for the second time than you can stop talking to him a few days. I am sure he does love you a lot either and that could make him feel sorry. Good Luck!
2006-08-06 14:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by ayso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes computer/video games, take those away, as in hide them in the garage. Ground him for two weeks and set rules like:
- Cannot go out with friends the whole time hes grounded
- No video games
- No computer
- Limited TV access
- Taking out the trash
- Extra chores
If you take my advice, I don't think he'll never swear at you again!
2006-08-06 14:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kelsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm not being sarcastic.......backhand him in the mouth.
When I was about 14 I said to my mother something to the effect of, "well what the hell do YOU care?" She slapped me right in the mouth. That was the first and last time I ever talked to her like that.
You need and deserve his respect. Take away whatever is most important to him.
2006-08-06 14:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Total isolation from his friends and family and all sources of entertainment (tv, game systems, internet, telephone, etc.) in his room for the rest of the day. Then, a stern talking to tomorrow, and revoked telephone, tv, games, internet and visits by friends for a week.
2006-08-06 14:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain the reason I'm taking away his TV, video games, phone, stereo, and every other non essential luxury he has and tell him every time he says that he loses another week until he stops. After the first couple of months he'll give in.
2006-08-06 14:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by mikis1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with most the answers, step 1 is to address the anger management problem your son has. step2 introduce him to a positive male role model . step 3 if all else fails send him to a boot camp for young men, not as punishment but as a way to enlighten him to the realities of life. good luck with your son
2006-08-06 14:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by rodger h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋