I just found out last night that my husband is an atheist. We have been together for 15 years and he finally told me. I knew that he was hiding something but he wouldn't come out with it. We were both raised as Christians but neither of us are now. I am Pagan.
2006-08-06 06:54:22 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just try to avoid religious debates with each other. Or if you do talk about your beliefs, remember that personal beliefs are just that: personal beliefs. Keep your egos in check and respect each other. There's no reason to be any more upset with him for being an atheist, nor for him to be any more upset with you for being a pagan than, say, for liking vanilla ice cream.
Added: Wow. So many people here, telling you what to believe, and putting down other people's beliefs. Hey, small-minded dipshits. Let's shut our ignorant noise holes, shall we? Let me refer back to my analogy. Think of a food you don't like. Now imagine someone walking up to you and repeatedly telling you to eat it. That would bother you, wouldn't it? Yeah? Well, that's why you're being pricks, here.
2006-08-06 07:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Master Maverick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well good for you. Just because your husband is atheist and your a pagan doesn't mean you can't co-exist as you had before. As long as there hasn't been any difficulties because of this in relationship than may you be together for many more years to come.
2006-08-06 07:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Desert Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think, if you had been adhering to the good old Christian virtue of Honesty, you would have known much sooner! Well, now that you know that he is not the person you thought he was and consequently, that your marriage has been a sham, you have the opportunity to start all over again. Personally, I think that your intense faith in Paganism is going to drive the two of you apart. But good luck.
2006-08-06 07:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by cdf-rom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really change anything? He was before, he is now. Does it bother you? Some people are uncomfortable with it (he himself) because of the stigma society bestows upon the unbeliever. I'm wondering where you live. If you are in the bible belt it could be tough for him.
and after reading through the nutters answers here, I'm pretty sure they prove my point. "Oh convert now! He is an evil deceiver because he didn't tell you!" You know, if I lived in an area with people like that I would keep it to myself.
Master's post is a voice of reason. read that and ignore the people trying to convert you:
2006-08-06 07:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I suppose it's good that he finally spilled the beans. I'd be a little worried about his keeping his beliefs from you, but I don't know his reasons for doing so.
If he was subjected to some kind of trouble because of revealing it to others in the past he might have hid it because he was afraid of losing your affection or regard.
He might have avoided telling you during the getting aquainted stages because of the popular prejudice attatched to atheism.
Just some speculation from an atheist. :)
2006-08-06 10:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by corvis_9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he hasn't been trying to convert you and you aren't trying to convert him, and the two of you are able to respect each others' beliefs, that after 15 years there really shouldn't be that much of a difference.
My hubby-to-be is Agnostic, I'm Pagan, we don't try to change the way the other believes, and it's just fine.
2006-08-06 07:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately you just found out the chief characteristic of atheists....deception! Dishonesty rules among those who don't believe in Christ... that's what their SUPPOSE to do... be deceptive.
2006-08-06 07:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sweat the small stuff . The fact that you "knew" he was "hiding " something says a lot about you
2006-08-06 06:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by vitriol for the masses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since neither one of you believe in Jesus what does it matter. Stay and enjoy your non-belief together.
2006-08-06 06:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is a very clever man and it would be a good idea if you where to follow his example. Say no to jesus.
2006-08-06 07:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋