ok, the thing is. i was with my bloke (joe) about 5 yrs ago and were only together 4 about 2 months. when we split he got together with my worst enemy (stacey) and i got with a bloke (phil) who violently beat me 4 about 2 yrs and i had a child with him. during this time stacey had a miscarriage and they split up. joe then started txtin me again as he found out about what phil was doing 2 me and convinced me 2 live with him 2 get away from it as he said he'd protect me and my child. i then had a baby with him and we've been 2gether 4 about 2yrs and we moved back in2 my old house. a while l8r i found he had a photo of his x (stacey) but then he burned it. the other night he said he'd be at his sisters place all night but walked there and usually got me 2 give him a lift there. my sister told me that she saw him at stacey's place that same night, he says he wasn't. who should i believe? my sis or my bloke?
2006-08-06 06:43:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it sounds like he loves and cares for you very much.
It also sounds like he is a compassionate person - ask him if stacey is alright (try not to sound jealous) and see if she has a problem that he is trying to help with.
Why would she lie?
Find out what is going on before going off the deep end.
Good luck x x x
2006-08-06 06:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
The question is not as simple as it sounds. The question you should really be asking is do you trust your bloke? He may well have been at Stacey's. Doesn't mean he did anything to jeopardise his relationship with you. He may have lied about it because he was afraid you'd get the wrong idea. If this was the case you must reassure him of your love and trust. In which case he will be more honest in future.
The other question you should be asking is, has he acted suspiciously before? If he has, then your sister's probably right to be concerned as what you've described does sound a little dodgy.
My advice is to not do anything straight away. Keep any eye out for any other deviations of his usual routine. If it happens a few more times, only then should you confront him.
Good luck.
2006-08-06 07:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by StolenAnjel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a slightly similar predicament last year. Basically, my (single) sister and my boyfriend both got really drunk one night and she claims that he tried it on with her, whilst he claims the opposite. Now one of them was obviously lying but I didn't know which one. I took other factors into consideration. Have either of them lied to you before? What would be their reason for lying now? Is there a chance it could be a case of mistaken identity? I can't answer the question for you but you need to think about if very carefully and go where your instincts take you.
2006-08-06 08:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by roxpox99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sis! most definitley. i would always believe a sister over a boyfriend (im in america) any day of the week and twice on sunday if you have a good relationship with your sis. if you dont than i dont know what to tell u honey. all i can say is get away from that phil! its not good for you or your lil baby
2006-08-06 07:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by horseluvr215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would your sister have a reason to lie to you? Do you get along with her well or have you guys had fights? Is she in a happy relationship or is she jealous or you? Is she *sure* it was YOUR bloke she saw and not just someone that looks like him? Need more information to answer your question.
2006-08-06 06:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,that's for you to decide.....every relation ship is based on trust,which is the foundation of every relationship and if you love someone you have to put in 100% of trust and if you are unable to do so and anyone can come and shake your trust towards the one you love,its a warning for you.you need to reconsider your decision!!
the best for you is to talk to your bloke and tell him how this thing that your sister told you has been troubling you and you don't know whom to trust and see what he has to say,get him to tell you the truth and then decide!!how can you be with someone,when you cant be friends with,friends don't hide things from each other!!think!!
2006-08-06 06:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How immature of your ex and his girlfriend! Your son isn't a plaything they could take out even as they sense like it, and it really is the toddler's emotions that are substantial the following. Do you get on consisting of your ex's mom? perchance you may ask her to accompany them consisting of your toddler to exhibit screen issues? Secondly, i comprehend your toddler is in easy words 2, yet you may chat to him and say that Daddy's chum from time to time says issues which aren't any further actual and tells thoughts about mummy so he could no longer to take heed to what she says yet only take excitement in the time with daddy. yet as some different person says the following you're interior your rights to ask that the girlfriend no longer be modern-day. the precedence is, you do not have any idea even if he will pay interest to you or no longer. regrettably it truly is troublesome to guard your son out of your ex and his cronies. that is why a communication with the little boy may be helpful. in spite of everything, as he grows up, you're the guy he will believe and anticipate, and the opinion of a few stupid woman will be irelevant. you're dealing with such issues as a reliable mum could. As you care on your son and teach him by ability of your party that you're thoughtful of his emotions, no longer something those idiots could say will replace the recognize he has and could have for you. reliable success.
2016-11-23 13:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who do u trust most? u know ur sister all ur life, would she lie about a thing like that? r u close to ur sister? try to find out the truth. why not get them both together and confront them.if he does it again then ring his sister and ask to speak to him.at a time when he is supposed to be there.
2006-08-06 06:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by herberto48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, its true, would your sis have a reason to lie to you?
If not, then belive her! blood is thicker than water....
Also, stop having babies with blokes you only know for 2 years...its distressing for the child when they grow up!
2006-08-06 11:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by daniel4joyce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe your sister because men lie.
2006-08-06 07:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by ｡◕‿◕｡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋