My "BF" became more distant after the first time we had sex, didnt even call me the next day, did u he use me?

Answer 1

must not been what he expected

Answer 2

first question is...how long had ya'll been dating? Was this a serious relationship? How old are ya'll....was this yours and his first time ever? Maybe the whole sex thing just overwhelmed him and freaked him out! If you and him were close and had a long standing relationship, then you should have been close enough to talk about this problem with each other. But since you are asking our opinion if he was using you, then i take that both of you are teenagers that didn't really need to be having sex anyway. Take your time.....find the right one.....when you do find the right guy at the right mature age, you won't have to worry about him "calling" you the next day, because he still be lying in your bed the next morning!!!! Good Luck

Answer 3

I don't think he used you. Sex is an important factor in a relationship. Despite, what guys may say sex with someone special is just as important to them as it is to us women. So, I wouldn't trip because he didn't call. He is probably dealing with some emotional issues right now and need time alone to sort it out. I don't agree that him not calling you is the best way to handle it but I have been there before. When I had sex for the first time my boyfriend at the time reacted the same way. I guess it was because we had been friends for so long and we had never took it to that level then when we did. We didn't talk to each other for about a week. Then one day in the middle of chemistry class he came and knocked on the door and asked if he could speak to me. We talked about it and we have been good friends every since then.

Answer 4

Yep. As women, how a man acts after sex is very important. We want a man to show us that their interest and respect have not been compromised because we chose to be intimate with them. His distance and failure to call are slaps in the face. It would really hurt my feelings if a guy treated me with such nonchalance when I have given him such a huge piece of me. This is an indicator into the depths of you BF. Maya Angelou said something like, "When a person shows you who they are, believe them." Take that advice and run with it. He is being a selfish, inconsiderate butthole and you must address this. Don't start out like this and you won't have to finish it later on. People can only use us as long as we allow them to. Take back your power from him. He is not worthy.

Answer 5

Maybe...or maybe he freaked out like a lot of men do after they have sex for the first time with a woman. Men know sex= commitment for a woman, so if he is commitment shy he will run for the hills. I would try to call him up, or e-mail him and just talk with him about it.

Answer 6

Dont worry about it. It could be that hes shy are imbarassed and most guys wont admit that. For gods sakes you both had sex with each other. He was inside you and bodily fluids exchanged. Believe me , Hes most likely a shy guy and Feels its hard to face you knowing hes slept with you. Call him tomorrow if he doesnt call you today.

Answer 7

Is quite typical for guys to not call the next day.

Answer 8

Looks that way , you will know when he comes back in a week or two askin for the same

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I think you just wasted your time with this manwhore, girl. You should just confront him and ask him this question. Whatever the answer, you have to think hard about it.

Answer 11

maybe he feels weird give him some time then he he still is like that then talk to him