I love my ex boyfriend but he refuses to be with me after I "tore" his heart....as he put it....now he says I'm like his sister....he says he thinks we were soul mates but only 10% of his soul is still in it....someone explain how this works. How can you stop feeling the love of before and of now..? How can you stop remembering when everything around you reminds you of this person you love? When part of you wants to beg them to love you, but you know it probably won't do any good, what do you say, what do you do, how do you forget, can you let go, how do you go on..?
2006-08-06 05:54:57 · 23 answers · asked by i_wuv_reesez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give yourself awhile to get over it. You will. Sounds like he needs time and lots of space too. You'll make it sooooo much worse if you crowd him.
Tell yourself you are better off with out them. They are not the one for you, if they were then they wouldnt be doing this.
You will have learnt loadsa lessons from the relationship and break up.
Get on with your life knowing that you are a strong independent person who doesnt need another person to make them happy!
2006-08-06 06:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ah! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Sometimes the one who can stop you from crying is the one who hurted you.
Talking straight to him is a good way to re-define your relationship, to tell him you still love him and to know his feelings for you. That also means you have to take the result - whatever, however it could be. You could get him back, or you could be his friend, or even nothing at all. Whatever, don't regret it, because you have done your best to solve.
But there are guys who don't like or don't wanna talk straight about this stuff, then leave him alone, 'cause this guy don't know how to take the chance you gave.
About forgetting someone...is not easy at all. You may spend a week to cry for him, to remember everything that's been shared, etc, and that's enough. Then, you can keep away the things that reminds you of him somewhere (in a suitcase for example), delete his number, email..., imagine him in his worst appearance,then think about yourself - you have been down in sorrow too much and it's time to refresh you.
Yes you can let go, friends will help you a lot.
Good luck!
2006-08-06 06:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by sieg_wahrheit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off u would be a really good poet or something. second of all: You dearie need to stop freaking out because you can't stop loving a guy that said you WERE soul mates (soul mates stay together forever so either he needs to look that up in the dictionary or say somethin else). Why don't you give this guy a while and stop "pestering" him with your wants. I think that if you give him some time to think without any comments that he'll come around. If he doesn't then you need to gradually move on, don't try to move on all of a sudden because when that fails it will be discouraging. You also need to analyze why you split in the first place.
2006-08-06 06:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats happening here is that you are either very dim or very confused (you can pick)
He is trying to let you down slowly because he has no interest in a relationship with you anymore.
You are clinging to any hope that there might be one.
If you continue following this path what will happen is that he will run out of 'let her go gently' and just get rid of you with the proverbial sledgehammer.
It's time to take the step and move away from him. You will find that life takes you in seperate directions and in time you will meet up and yes, you will be old friends.
2006-08-06 06:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple ... you cannot make someone love you. If the love has gone, as it does for thousands of people, then you have to accept and move on. It is not a case of remembering here, just a case of not loving. And your ex is right, we all carry a little in our hearts for people that we have loved in the past, hence his ten percent. Treat him with respect, understand what he is saying and go find yourself a new man in your life who can offer you the 100% you seek. And remember, your experience here is perfectly normal, just recognise it and accept, truly accept. You will be a lot happier with your life.
2006-08-06 06:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up every day with the intention to find the positive in everyone and everything.dont let life happen to you anymore.make the decision to make your life happen .choose to cherish the memories and find respect in your heart to feel lucky that 1 you ever were blessed to feel that love and 2 that you still have a friend . sometimes relationships end so they can grow and begin again,giving you time to realise te future and forget the past - it does not exist.life is a beautiful soul you become enamored with just remember to admire its free spirit instead of capturing him.you know how to be strong now find the strength to forge ahead who knows what tommorrow holds.
2006-08-06 06:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by gigigenius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The stress you are experiencing is normal. You want to stop remembering, but you cannot. That is normal. The stress part is you thinking you should be able to. When you give up this effort to do and be something you are not then you will feel completely different. Accept completely everything the way it is including yourself, thoughts and feelings. You cannot change them. Accept this. Then it is over. You are free.
2006-08-06 06:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u never forget about that person that u love and when it doesn't work out for whatever reason u just try to move on him saying he think u both are soul mates means he love but u hurt him so he doesn't want to get hurt again
2006-08-09 19:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by smileaway25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m going through the same ting with my ex boyfriend. All you can do is let them do their thing. maybe this is a test for you to see if you will wait for him, or maybe he does just want to be friends. But i guarantee you more than 10% of his soul is in it he misses you and he still loves you he`s just resentful
2006-08-06 05:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by lil_island_grl316@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it! Your ex is communicating...... with you....... he no longer sees you as his soulmate! Either deal with being his friend... if you can not handle this...limit your communication with him..... yes if may be hard... by as times goes by...... you will get through this and be able to move on! Sure there will always be a part of your ex in your heart, however you must move on for your mental health!
2006-08-06 05:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lady D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋