2006-08-06 05:35:23 · 11 answers · asked by davidleeryan 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Some good news and some bad news. The bad news is that I imagine that it will be very difficult for a "shy and depressed teen" to find love. The good news is that if you are able to overcome the depression and the shyness, you will be in a much better position to find love!
There are several things you can do to deal with the depression.
1. Talk to your doctor who can prescribe an anti-depressant.
2. Seek a professional therapist who can provide EITHER cognitive behavioral therapy or interpersonal therapy. These are specific forms of psychotherpay that have been demonstrated to help decrease depression.
3. Seek out a group therapy program for depressed teens, so you can be around other people going through the same thing.
4. Eat well, get lots of excercise, meditate, watch a movie that will make your gut laugh.
If you have a diagnosis of APD, you may have some additional challenges which will affect your self-esteem and how you deal with people. I think long-term psychotherapy is the best treatment for someone with APD. "The therapeutic relationship in itself is used as a place where you can learn how to feel comfortable and safe in other social relationships" (MENTAL HEALTH NET). You sound genuine about dealing with your depression and shyness. If you seek treatment, I think you will find some improvement in your mood and how you relate to other people. Once your self-esteem improves, you feel better about yourself, and can handle social situations better, I think your chances to find love will improve dramatically.
Good Luck!!!
2006-08-06 06:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by hersh108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. Unconditional love is a love that will always love the same, no matter what. Instead of turning a blind eye to problems or circumstances, it prefers to be patient and understanding, and continue loving no matter what. Unconditional love cannot be earned or lost. Blind love does not exist, because a blind love would require the bestower to love in adversity by looking the other way instead of embracing the problem and working through it, loving the same all the while, which never lasts. Unconditional love is a love that endures forever.
2016-03-27 01:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not the cure to anything and doesn't last. Go and have lots of fun while you are young and forget about love, that's the way you will find it. But really really have lots of fun, life goes really fast and soon you will be old and would regret not having lots of fun. Even if you don't have many friends, go out there with your head high and find FUN.
2006-08-06 05:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Insomnia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're shy and depressed, pal, the last thing you need to do is fall in love. It is one of the most gut-wrenching, intense and painful things you can do to yourself. Well, apart from jumping under a train maybe.
What you need is a FRIEND!! Opposite sex helps, but its not a necessity. This friend and you will be confidantes. You tell each other everything, hell you might even have sex together. What you will not do though is fall in love with them, or vice versa.
Find such a person, nurture them, explore their life and problems, explain yourself to them and you will find your shyness, loneliness and depression evaporating.
Good luck.
2006-08-06 06:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ian H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awwww poor kid! I am a teen and i used to be depressed and cry every day but i didn't tell anyone and i just eventually became happy. Just give it time okay i bet you will find a loved one and grow out of you depression. I really hope your better lots of love from me.
2006-08-06 05:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by bsktballchik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have gone through something tragic in your life..love often doesnt help but makes it worse..if your depressed and you've never had a panic attack..dealing with a mate will make you have them..a good natural remedy for anxiety and depression is 'Saint John's Wort' sounds funny but its all natural..if you take one pill once or twice daily..its relaxes you..keeps you calm and allows you to deal with everyday stuff without freaking out..and it also relaxes you and helps you sleep..so i suggest if you take any..see how it affects you before driving or operating heavy machinery..some people it can make very drowsy...hope that helps...
2006-08-06 05:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by TawnyF713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love isn't the cure seeing a Dr been happy doing what you love could cure not love
2006-08-06 10:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get out and start hitting on chicks. It is a numbers game. If ten say no the 11th will lay downand say yes. You need to get with people (of the oposite sex)
2006-08-06 05:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
love is not the only cure but it can help a great deal
2006-08-06 05:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many older ladies out there waiting for you . Tell them what you need and they can find it for you. Favors for favors you know.
2006-08-06 05:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋