I was offered by a man to sleep with his wife because of his infertility, should I discuss this with my gf?

Question

This man does not trust artificial fertility. I am in need of money lately and to me the offer comes at the right time. But I was told to keep this only to myself at the end of the day which is not a problem. But by accepting this offer, I should have solved some financial problem we run into lately. Now the real problem is how am I going to discuss this with my gf? Or should I keep this totally from her?

Answer 1

yes you should discuss it with your g/f. but you need to ask yourself can you live with the fact that you will be fathering a child and won't be around to watch him/her grow up. can you live with fact that the child will never know you or about you. can the couple have you ejaculate into a cup and within thirty minutes some how inject the sperm into vaginal canal. that way you can keep it to yourself and you won't be cheating on your g/f.

Answer 2

This is very interesting, I never thought that something like this could actually happen out side of a movie theater, have you ever heard of the movie "Indecent proposal" with Denni Moore, I really think you should watch that movie because it really sounds a lot like you situation, with a little twist.

I will be honest with you, I don't know about this type of thing, I mean legally wise, morally wise, and even personally wise, a lot of people emotions are rapped up in this, I do not know your girlfriend or how she feels about such a thing, But if you are seriously thinking about doing this, what you need to remember is, what if the shoe was on the other foot, your foot that is, What if your girl was asked to have a baby for a couple and they wanted to do it the way you are talking about? For some money?

How would you respond? seriously?
May be if you do some research on it first and then get some legal advice from a real lawyer, and then weigh your options then bring all your information to her then may be it will help, but what ever you do, do not start off keeping something so big from her or let her find out from some one else, because trust & honesty will only help keep you two together.

I hope that you do the right thing for all who is involved, including yourself okay?

I wish you well............

Answer 3

Only keep it from her if you really want rid of her. No girl I know would approve of this arrangement, & certainly not behind her back. So, what's more important to you? The money or the girlfriend. After all, by knocking up this guy's wife without some sort of legally binding contract, you may be sued for child support later anyway. Even with a legal contract, it could be thrown out to the benefit of the child, & you're stuck paying child support. The fact he doesn't want you to tell anyone makes it all the more suspicious. This looks like a bad situation from all fronts, & even if your girlfriend approved, you might still be in trouble later on in ways you can't imagine. However, if you hide it from your girlfriend, then you might be unwittingly exposing her to STDs. I'd walk away & get a second job.

Answer 4

No don't keep this from her, cuz if you don't tell her, and somehow the truth comes out later, you'll be in big trouble. Like, how commited are you two? Especially if its a serious relationship, she should know. Just tell her the truth, and what you're thinking. Technically you'd be helping someone out, so she might be more understanding then you think. Just be honest with her. Not only would you be doing that man a favor (if you went through with it), you'll learn more about how your girlfriend reacts to new situations, and thats never a bad thing.

Answer 5

lol its funny that you ask that because i saw an episode of "The Fresh Prince" last night. on that episode, Jazz, who is Will's best friend, wanted will to perform artificial insemination so that his wife could get pregnant. Jazz said he wanted this so that his kids would have better features. Will did not go through with it though because he thought about the future and how he would have a son who did not even know that his real father was him.
I would say not to do it man. ur gonna have a child that wont even know you.

Answer 6

Definetly discuss this with her!!!! This is serious. How is it going to feel when she has a child of yours, but you can't claim it because it already has a mother and father?? There are some major issues that need to be faced here, and you should let your g/f know what is going on. Maybe she can give you some valuable insight on this.

Answer 7

I think you should discuss it with your girlfriend. If you decide to sleep with this guys wife. If it gets serious between you two and get married you don't want that hanging over your head. Also if you do this and the couple needs to come back to you for health reasons and the baby at least your girlfriend knows.

Answer 8

So you would CHEAT on her with someone else...and you think she will be okay with this? You will have a child out there running around, and you think she will be okay with this? You are either stupid or...no you are stupid. Do you really want a child? Because that is what it is. Will you be in the child's life? You will be DADDY! And the woman can always come after you for child support. THINK ABOUT IT! Good grief!

Answer 9

DISCUSS IT WITH HER IT WILL BE A BAD SITUATION IF YOU SLIP UP LATER AND SAY SOMETHING WHO KNOWS MAYBE SHE WILL WANT TO WATCH OH AND GET A SINGED CONTRACT FROM THE COUPLE SO THEY CAN'T COME AFTER YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT BECAUSE IF HE DOES NOT SIGN THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE IN THE END THAT'S 18 YEARS OF PAYMENTS FOR ONE NUT

Answer 10

I agreed yet on condition that she comprehend a thanks to safeguard him . some spouse do not do something the skipped over children . the do not do there chores contained in the domicile . a authentic spouse is the single which answerable for the entire family individuals and may make a range .that she will be able to keep the family individuals solid by technique of one yet another .