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Question

Do you believe that a live-in boyfriend has the responsibility to tell you where he's going everytime he leaves the house??

it's stupid to say we are just shacking up, we love each other so what does that have to do with it? and i don't ask this question interms of deceit, i ask it in terms of stupidity.

Answer 1

It depends on the rules you and your boyfriend set for the relationship. In a relationship, a couple will set rules whether they agree on them or not. If one of the two step outside of those lines either one can decide to break it off, or deal with it. Balanced compromise in relationships is the key to limiting arguments.

Answer 2

Think about it this way.....do yo believe that a live-in boyfriend has the right to ask you where you are going every time you leave the house?

Out of respect, I am sure that you tell him what you are up to and where you are going and so, you are looking for the same treatment in response. Maybe he trusts you so much that he simply doesn't see this as an issue. If you are having a difficult time with him leaving and not telling you what he is up to, than talk to him! But try to be more secure about your relationship, open up and put your heart out there even if it means getting hurt! Taking that kind of risk will show him how much you love him!

Answer 3

I guess so if the two of you are living together. When my husband gets ready to leave he will say baby I'm going out or I'm going to the store or something. I think it is a common courtesy to let someone know if you are leaving. A lot of people will say well only if you are his mother, but I think it's kind of rude to be in a house with someone and just walk out and not say anything. Now if you are not in the house I don't think he should have to call you to tell you he is leaving unless he will be gone a very long time. My husband usually leaves me a note or will call me when he goes to the race track or to play poker with the guys because he knows he is not going to be home anytime soon, but I think he does that just to keep me from thinking he just went to the store and got in an accident or something being the reason he is not back yet. And I find that if you don't demand things of guys they will be more willing to do it freely because they don't feel like you are trying to be their mother and make them do it.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what kind of relationship you have, but when my husband and I were just living together, we had a mutual agreement that we let each other know where we were going. Based on this, we now have a very close and open relationship. It has taken many years for us to get this close and understanding, and a lot of work.
Depending on how much you are willing to give to this, I would suggest that you two just sit down and discuss what you both expect of the other. If you would like him to let you know where he is going, just ask. Maybe he would like the same??
Just remember, a relationship only gives out what you are willing to put into it.

Answer 5

No. But he had better not even dare say one word when I do it. It should be a mutual agreement between the two in the relationship. As in, "I would really appreciate if you told me when you are leaving the house and where your going and I'll do the same so we don't worry about eachother and where the other one is, I really care about you and get worried sometimes, even a note would be better than not saying anything, do you think we can come to an agreement on that?". If he's slow to agree, then I would take it as a sign of sneakiness, but that's just the manhater in me. But if he does agree, you had better not forget to abide to your side of the agreement. Especially if you are going to be gone for any lenghth of time.

Answer 6

Responsibility? eh hard to say, but he should just as a common courtesy. If he's living with you then generally the relationship has progressed to a pretty steady level, and although you don't need to be involved in EVERY aspect of his life, he shouldn't keep you in the dark either. Unless he's going to plan some kind of surprise for you.
-Duo

Answer 7

If you are there at the house and he is going to leave, he should show you respect and tell you where he's going and perhaps, if you care to join him in his outing.

If you are not home, he could leave a note, if he cared for you to know, but if not, he shouldn't have to give you an itinerary about his daily activities.

Frankly, if he loves you, he should care about your feelings and would tell you about what is going on in his life and would want you to be a part of his life. Sounds like he might be secretive, so be prepared to move out and move on.

Answer 8

No way. Dude your just shacking up. Your not married so he owes you nothing. You guys are just room mates who bump uglies. Your not even a couple because your doing things in reverse. You need to move out. Why should he buy the cow when he gets the milk for free.

Answer 9

I think he has the capacity to tell you, but will he? No. I don't think he will. They're too immature to see the logic behind the fact that you just rest easier knowing where he is. They are too hung up on freedom and not being under mommies thumb anymore to realize that its a common courtesy to let others know in the house where you're going.
Hang in there...in time he will pull his head outta his bum and do right by ya..

Answer 10

He should do it out of courtesy, or because you are close and he wants to share his life with you. But he isn't under house arrest. He's not obligated nor "has the responsibility". You two aren't married, you're not into formal responsibility. It cuts both ways.