My wife cheated on me with a guy 10 years her junior, I found out and now I am interested in watching her with other guys, how do I tell her and do you think it is weird I want to watch?
2006-08-06 04:45:45 · 20 answers · asked by Harm S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, your alright dude. It's called "cuckolding". It's named after a bird that allows its mate to have sex with other birds. It's definitely not a "normal" fantasy that "most" people have. Nonetheless, a fantasy is a fantasy.
But, keep in mind that this is not just about you dude. It's about your mate. People make mistakes. Maybe this was the biggest mistake of her life and she does not wish to repeat it.....EVER! Under any circumstance!
I say, if the relationship is good and has moved on then why muck it up by asking her to do something that would shame most women and degrade them??? She prob feels enough shame as it is for cheating to begin with.
Just my $000.02 worth.................Techguy!
2006-08-09 16:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that it is not only about you. Now, I have heard that some people do become closer in situations like this by becoming more open with one another. If you truly think that your wife and you can do that, than do. But truly think about it, because if it is not thought through enough there could be some pretty pissy effects. It all really depends on what marriage is to you and how important fidelity is to you. This is not about you fulfilling your fantasies!
2006-08-08 15:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have a problem now. Because now you feel you will be turned on by watching another guy and your wife. That is dangerous because after you see that you might end up hating your wife for it.
2006-08-06 11:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by kinito_2000_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you should tell your wife that you already know what's going on with her sexual encounters. Talk to her and seek counseling for both of you. I don't understand, how can you get turned on by watching another man taking what's yours? Unless, you don't feel anything for her. If you don't love her anymore, get a divorce and go on with your life. Still get counseling for you because that's not normal.
Good luck on your decisions....
2006-08-06 11:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband came to me and ask me to have sex with another man while he watched I think that is an awful thing that to me would make me think you don't care about me especially when I thought it was the man who loved me and now wants to watch ohhhhhhhh noooooooooo your banished theres the door and yes it's weird you would want to watch another man make love to your wife that your supposed to love honor cherishyou should of never got married
2006-08-06 11:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very curious and want to know, but trust me, you shouldn't go there unless you can deal with it. The fact that you are posting and asking other people, I don't think you even know if you can deal with it. That image is the real thing. It isn't the image in your head that you've wandered about. It's real. I would reconsider it.
2006-08-06 11:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fantasy, and for most it's better left that way. Some can handle it later, some can't. If there is any chance for your relationship to survive don't do it. If you think you and her will not regret it then do it, because it's fun.
2006-08-06 12:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is definately something wrong if u wanna watch your wife in bed with someone else. maybe it's your insecurity, are you scared she's gonna leave you if you don't change. just be your self and what ever happens happens.
2006-08-06 11:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by broken_dreams2637 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure if it bothered you to know about her cheating,that while it might turn you on, you will resent her for doing it and will regret watching.Get out of this relationship cheaters are poison!
2006-08-06 11:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by angie devine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After watching her what do you intend to do with her if you catch her doing the Horrible DEED?
Its fine for me if you watch her. I approve of it but i am curious. What will you do?
2006-08-06 11:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋