We broke up a couple weeks ago (our son is 7 mos). At first we were on the same page, we agreed he was going to pay child support & get visits. Well, now he's pissed. He heard a rumor that I was out last weekend making out with a bunch of guys at a bar, which is absolutely untrue! Now he's saying he doesn't want anything to do with me or my (our) son. He says he wants to sign away his rights. What does this mean for me? I have an appointment with a lawyer but not for another week. Do I have to consent to him signing away his rights? Can I change my son's last name to my own? Is there any way to still get child support? How can anyone feel this way about their own son? It's not like we're in high school, we're 24! Doesn't he need to grow up??
2006-08-06 04:45:12 · 14 answers · asked by sweetcarolineND1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You can't force him to be an emotionally involved father, but the legal system WILL force him to be a financially responsible one. Your son is completely and totally entitled to child support. If he doesn't want visitation and joint custody, it's his loss, but do not give in on child support. You and your son are entitled to it and you will need it and use it. Yes, he needs to grow up, but your son probably will before he does.
2006-08-06 04:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by telaine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some states, it does not matter if a parent signs away their rights, they still have to support the child. He is a very self centered and childish person if he is taking his anger at you out on the child, and that is what he is doing. Why threatening to not see the child, not support it, and sign his rights away, he is taking the rights of this child to have his biological father in his life away from your son. Just go ahead and see the lawyer. He will probably tell you something similar. At least in Texas they would. If he is this way now, you will probably have to deal with his childish behavior until your son is an adult. Sucks huh? I have one of those childish ex's too. Just be the mom you know you need to be and if he continues his childish behavior, your son will grow up knowing what a jerk his dad is and how wonderful of a mom he had.
2006-08-06 06:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can sign over his rights, but as for child support you have to settle on it. Most likely it will be a sum amount. My stepson bio parent has threatened to give up parental rights because they didnt want to pay child support, and they are not in his life now, when all they have to do is call and come visit from time to time. If he doesnt want to be in the childs life you may be better off. A parent that is full of resentment and anger toward you will take it out on the baby, if they are already using giving up on the baby as a weapon
2006-08-06 07:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by i love my sexy hubby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might need to grow up but he sounds tempermental. He's going to take out his anger (based on a rumor) on his kid by being uninvolved. That's when responsible types step-up to the plate, not when they walk away. It sounds like he isn't up to the parenting gig and is grasping on to any excuse to get out of it.
If he succeeds in signing away his parental rights he won't have to pay child support or in any way interact with you or your son. Parents have obligations including contact and child support, non-parents do not. I know many a woman who wishes their ex had no legal rights but still want the money. While some men are happy to pay and stay away, legally-speaking, It's all or nothing.
This legal maneuver, if it were so simple, would have been done by many men who wanted to get out of child support. If is is the biological father and has been legally declared so on the birth certificate, it's not just a matter of personal declaration or signing on paper.
2006-08-06 06:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by BeamMeUpMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can sign his rights away at anytime. You won't get child support if he does though. BUT if he signs his rights away, you won't have to put up with him harassing you about how you raise your son or anything like that because he won't legally have say so. If he's already acting this immature, can you imagine have to always put up with this. It will only get worse as time goes on. It may be better to get him out of the picture while he's willing. You may be thinking "what's best for our son?".... well if your boyfriend/husband doesn't trust you and believes everybody else rather than what you say, he may put lies in your sons head when he's older. Just one more thing to have to deal with!
Good Luck!
2006-08-06 05:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That has allot to say about him,,, your broke up,,, your with other guys,,, and now he gets mad... He is still involved sounds like. But he has no right using the child as a pawn,,, he can't be even serious,,, I wouldn't give up my rights on none of my kids. I want very much to be part of their lives. And he will too. And I would no way allow him to give up those rights unless there was a father there who would take over just as that. Cover your own and make sure your taken care of with that baby... Bless
2006-08-06 13:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by kevle23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's acting like this now, then more then likely he will always act like this. If he's ready to "get rid of" the family now, then the next time he gets mad and upset he will do it again. Do you really want that for your son? When he's 6 or 7 or 8 and knows what his father is doing, do you really want him around saying "Oh, well you did this. So get out of my life!!!"
Yes, he can sign his rights away!
2006-08-06 04:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by chrihutch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where I live, whether he signs away the rights or not, he still has to pay child support. Your son's name can be yours. My last name was my mom's. He's being stupid. Probably has a girlfriend nagging him about the situation.
2006-08-06 04:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tried to get my babies father to sign over rights when he was 16 and he refused to do so when they sign there rights over its like the kid is no longer there's they owe nothing to them they have to do nothing for them its as if it never happend for them....its not fair to the other parent for one to sign there rights over as a get out of jail free card...he cant sign his rights over without you agreeing to it tho its something you both have to agree on as long as you dont agree to it you can get child support so what if he doesnt want anything to do with your son i know it hurts it hurts everyday but if he doesnt really doesnt want to see him then he should still have to pay for him if he signed the birthcertificate then your child still has the same last name as him you can go tocourt and get that change dover tho goodluck to you and your son ")
2006-08-06 06:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋