He just found out from a friend that i was pregnant. i was going to tell him back in april by sending him a text message saying that i need to talk to him but he didn't call instead he just send me a text message saying that for us to forget all what happened to us so we can talk in good terms for the sake of the child. i didn't respond back. since then i haven't heard from him and found out that he already has a new girlfriend. i tried calling him but his phone is disconnected. he has no support or his family about this pregnancy. what do u think should i do? if he's really willing and interested about this baby, he should make the initiative right?
2006-08-06 03:47:20 · 10 answers · asked by Irish C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree also, that you not answering right away was taken as you not wanting to work things out. Too, I agree that if you are unable to contact him; maybe through family or friends, then go ahead and send the e-mail. Make things clear. Put everything out in the e-mail. If there is no response from anyone like family , friends or the e-mail. Then I too say right him off. If there is personal info you know about him you can try to get atleast childsupport for the child. If not, I wish you all the best luck. I too am a single mother. It's hard, I won't lie. However, it can be done. I pray that you have the support of your family and friends. Support is important. God bless.
From, Minx
2006-08-06 04:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Minx 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know how exactly you feel. When I was 16, I got pregnant. I called him and told him right away. He immediatly wanted me to get an abortion, which I said absolutly no way. The whole time I was pregnant, he totally ignored me. When the baby was born, he actually came to the hospital, which was the first time I saw him in months. I really thought he was going to help me raise my son. He was interested and he helped me for a couple months, than disappeared again, with no notice. He continuted to do this for 2 and 1/2 years! Come for a couple months, than leave. THis is not good for the child obviously. So I finally moved because I bellieve no dad is better than a bad dad in the long run. Also, note that I have received less than $100 in child support TOTAL for my son and my son will be 4 in October. So from my experience, move on and find a nice man who will love you and your baby, and not this dead beat so you don't experience the heartache and disappointment my son and I did.
2006-08-06 04:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by muslimah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should it least give him a chance, espically if he just found out you're pregnant. Everyone deserves the benifit fo the doubt. We NEVER thought my sister's son's father would help out, but amazingly he does-he even drives 60 miles away to pick him up EVERY weekend. If my sister needs help with him OR her other 2 kids he's there for her. Hopefully that will be your situation, but you'll never know if you don't let him try. Good Luck!
2006-08-06 03:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by JL's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be both of you guys working equally!!! A baby doesn't need to come into this world with parents (not togther) not getting along!! Not fair to child. Even though not together invite him to a doctor appointment let him hear is childs heart beat. It might get him involved more than you think!!!! My best of wishes go out to you your baby and your babies father
2006-08-06 04:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hearken to approximately your concern. yet you do no longer ought to upload is call to the beginning certificates or to your baby to assemble baby help. From own journey you are able to call your baby what ever you go with for first or final call..a touch propose could be to no longer upload him to the beginning certificates..The courts will place a baby help order in result for you after paternity is prevalent, in spite of your childs call. additionally, you recieveing baby help does no longer supply him visitation to the baby. he will ought to pay the money and ask for it...So lower back sorry to hearken to approximately your concern yet attempt to relax relish your being pregnant and are available up with a exciting call which you're feeling will tournament your baby the main suitable.. oh sure i forgot...you are able to no longer upload his call to the baby's beginning certificates devoid of him signing what's named an affidavid of parentage on the wellbeing facility...I propose waiting and letting the courts discern it out if he's no longer being supportive of you..
2016-10-01 13:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to meet him in the middle,(You both made this child together, raise it together) even If as a couple you are not "together". Hopfuly he will be a man and BE your childs father but he might not If you don't talk to him and let him know he is welcome...I feel bad his family is not more involved...Sad for your baby...Maybe it is better they are not .I wish you luck!!!;-)
2006-08-06 04:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him in a text message? You didnt respond back? He most likely took that as you wanted nothing to do with him.
2006-08-06 04:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried to contact him and are unable to reach him, I would suggest locating your state's social services about getting help for retaining child support. He can choose not to be there for the child's life, but he can not choose not to pay child support.
2006-08-06 04:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if it is ok to put a life insurance policy on him in the child's name. That might get him to thinking
2006-08-06 03:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send another text message expalining things, but you may have to write him off.
2006-08-06 04:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋