Should I stop speaking to my sister?

Question

My sister has just falsy stated my Father abuised her I know it's not true also she has in the past stole form my parents and commited credit card fraud should I stop talking to her or hope that one day she'll become a better person?

Answer 1

If you want to leave her hanging, sure, cut and run. If, however, you want things to get better, then keep the lines of communication open.
Sure, she seems to be doing some horrible things now, but she needs support if she is ever to come back. She is probably going through as much or more emotional hell than those that she is hurting. If she doesn’t get help and support from those that she loves then she will be lost. If, instead, you stand by her and say that you love her anyway and you just want her to do better for herself, then you will have shown her a path back to normality. Sometimes that’s all they need. A small glimmer of hope.

Answer 2

First you can't say for sure abuse is true or not. Abuse is in the eye of the beholder. If he yells at her and makes her get off the phone, she can term that as abusive. That he's a bully (for being a parent).

YOu can be sure it's not serious abuse if your father never abused you in a way you consider wrong. Then it's eye of the beholder abuse.

She has a problem and by not speaking to her you will only add to that problem, but I would "watch my back" and let a lot of what she says go in one ear and out the other. In other words, lock up your valuables and become a diplomat, with a smile.

If you stop talking to her, she might take that as abuse and start telling eveyrone YOU are abusing her. Get the picture?

She has a problem and it's hard to say with the root cause is. She can just be born that way (bi-polar, for example) or it could be psychological hostile from the world being against her.

She can also be on drugs or moving into an anti-social world.

If she ever gets really serioius and seems like she's going over the edge, you will need to steer her to medical help or limit contact with her as much as possible without being abusive about it.

Answer 3

That's a very serious allegation. Has she gone to counseling for it? Who did she state it to?The fact that she's done bad things in the past has absolutely nothing to do with the allegation of abuse. She's your sister and I don't think that you should stop communicating with her. I would however get her some help and be supportive while she's going through the process. It sounds like she's crying out for help and maybe just doesn't know how to get it. Maybe she said that about your father because she knew it would get her immediate attention. Even if it was true or not she's asking for help, do the good thing and try to help her. Good luck.

Answer 4

She won't become a better person, whether you talk to her or not. Remaining on speaking terms, of some kind, will at least leave open lines of communication. This does not in any way imply that you approve of her actions and character. You don't have to be chummy, but you don't have to be totally rejecting either. Use what communication there is to encourage her to enter therapy, as she clearly has issues with the way she perceives she was treated, regardless of how she actually was treated.

Answer 5

I'm going to tell you about my sisters who currently aren't talking about each other.

Joslyn is getting a divorce from her husband, Mark. This upsets Jessica because she knows that Joslyn has been cheating and wasting Mark's money. Meanwhile, Mark doesn't even know what's going on, and he's left without enough money in his bank to even buy some Tylenol. You see, Mark is in the airforce and he is currently training in California. Jessica is in the National Guard in Colorado. Joslyn works tables as a waitress in Missouri.

Now, Jessica was so mad at how Joslyn was treating Mark that she stopped talking to her. Joslyn, suspecting that Jessica was me bad things about her, stopped talking to Jessica. Meanwhile, I could care less because I'm going to let them work it out.

Jessica and Joslyn both took each other off their friends list on Myspace, stopped talking over the phone and internet, and refused to go on a vacation with my dad that would bring all four siblings together.

Now, that is what happens when two siblings get mad and stop talking to each other. Both sides end up bringing someone else into it (like me) whether they know it or not. Just confront her or something, it works better than not talking to her at all. All though, it's okay to occasionally ignore her if she has done something bad that day or the day before.

Hope this helps!

-Lella^_^

Answer 6

You said that you know that your father never abused your sister but how can you know that for sure it is impossible for you to have been there every single minuet of every single day

of course if this is all a lie and i don't know if it is or it isn't then she is still your sister and you need to help her to get help so that the really problem can be sorted out and she can get on with her life

Maybe she is just rebelling because she feels that she has some need to prove herself or she craves attention

but I say again what ever it is she is STILL you sister this is family and it is up to you to help her to get through this

Answer 7

I would dismiss her and forget about her, unless you have some lingering sense of obligation towards her.

I get frustrated when I hear people use the issue of being 'family' as an excuse to have to go out of your way to put up with a person's crap. Being family does not excuse a person of their behavior, and they should be held accountable.

There are additional facts here that would need to be looked at, but you probably need to take a common sense approach and deal with this situation as such.

Allowing her to get away with this behavior would not help anyone, including her, so I hope you take this into consideration.

Good luck with your decision.

Answer 8

No you should support her, IF she is lying then you has deeper problems and need's you most of all to get to the bottom of it all.
Best of all try not to take side' with your sisiter and your parent's as it will just fall on to you.
I hope this problem is resolved and the real truth is resolved (but what ever you do dont say your sister is lying) coz what if she is not lying about your dad? you never know girl.
I have had skelon's come out of my father and his family's closet xx

Answer 9

I presume she is your older sister. If so she maybe experiencing some personal problems. Have you try talking to her and confront her about the things she did? Ignoring a person cannot solve the problem. You got to find the root of the problem and deal with it. Hope that your sister will change after you talk to her peacefully.

Answer 10

was she ever told about the boy who cried wolf, how do you know she wasnt abused you werent with her and your father every second of everyday.
But if she is lying remove the problem by removing her from your life. She's a very cruel person if she really hasn't been abused when she says she has, theres millions of people out there who have been abused by family relatives and have had their lives ruined by such experiences, she should think about that before she goes round making false statements, the sick b*tch